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The Class Photo that Broke a Motherís Heart
yahoo.com ^ | June 17, 2013

Posted on 06/17/2013 5:42:11 PM PDT by grundle

What is wrong with this picture?

It's one of those things that you don't get, until you get it. Unless you are eternally empathetic, you look at this photo and don't see much wrong at all.

To Anne Belanger, mother of Miles, the photo is unbearable to look at.

When the class portrait for her son's Grade 2 class came home, she opened it excitedly, and immediately shoved it back in the envelope. She couldn't look at it. It broke her heart.

Anne's son, Miles, has Spinal Muscular Atrophy. At the age of 13 months, his parents were told that Miles would never walk, he has spent his life in a wheelchair.

Miles knows he's different than the rest of the kids, but he still tries to fit in. So there he is, on the far side of the image, neck craning as far as he can to stretch into the frame with the rest of his friends. He's beaming. It's school picture day and he's thrilled.

But the photo still broke Anne's heart. The photo was a clear example of how set apart her son is from society. Instead of a big group hug photo with Miles at the center, and classmates and teachers all around, a fully inclusive image, he was stuffed off to the side, some 3 feet away. An after thought, it seems.

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1 posted on 06/17/2013 5:42:11 PM PDT by grundle
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To: grundle

Momma drama.


2 posted on 06/17/2013 5:42:59 PM PDT by AppyPappy (Obama: What did I not know and when did I not know it?)
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To: grundle

The one photo is hard to analyze. Could the wheelchair be closer? I can’t tell.


3 posted on 06/17/2013 5:44:02 PM PDT by Viennacon
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To: grundle

If I were the photographer I would have put him right in the middle in the front and have the other kids form a gap.


4 posted on 06/17/2013 5:44:09 PM PDT by cripplecreek (REMEMBER THE RIVER RAISIN!)
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To: grundle

It looks like the put his chair as close as it could get to the benches.


5 posted on 06/17/2013 5:44:14 PM PDT by OneWingedShark (Q: Why am I here? A: To do Justly, to love mercy, and to walk humbly with my God.)
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To: AppyPappy

I can understand the feeling... I don’t understand the NEED to share...


6 posted on 06/17/2013 5:45:18 PM PDT by ToxicMich ((If you are reading this, you are wasting your time. There is nothing here...))
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To: cripplecreek
If I were the photographer I would have put him right in the middle in the front and have the other kids form a gap.

My first thought as well.

7 posted on 06/17/2013 5:46:23 PM PDT by verga (A nation divided by Zero!)
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To: grundle

I see this picture and I am sad for the kid and his family. A liberal sees this picture and sees an opportunity to add more Government.


8 posted on 06/17/2013 5:46:43 PM PDT by Ben Mugged (The number one enemy of liberalism is reality.)
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To: grundle

The kid is in a class of kids with no faces!


9 posted on 06/17/2013 5:46:51 PM PDT by Larry Lucido
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To: grundle

“How dare my child NOT be the center of attention!!”

That pretty much sums this up


10 posted on 06/17/2013 5:46:54 PM PDT by GeronL (http://asspos.blogspot.com)
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To: Larry Lucido

I noticed that too


11 posted on 06/17/2013 5:47:32 PM PDT by GeronL (http://asspos.blogspot.com)
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To: grundle

Instead of a big group hug photo with Miles at the center, and classmates and teachers all around...


In other words, the class chose not to go for the narcissistic pandering shot with “the cripple” surrounded by “adoring normal people”.

Welcome to the real world, kid.


12 posted on 06/17/2013 5:47:39 PM PDT by cuban leaf (Were doomed! Details at eleven.)
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To: Viennacon
no...it's tucked tight to the bench...even into the bench.

If the teacher had a brain, they could have used chairs.

13 posted on 06/17/2013 5:47:43 PM PDT by Sacajaweau
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To: grundle

The kids are perfectly centewred on the benches, leaving some room at each end. His wheelchair is as close to the end of the bench as possible. Mama too thin skinned and looking for percieved issues.


14 posted on 06/17/2013 5:48:08 PM PDT by umgud (2A can't survive dem majorities)
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To: grundle

the photographer could have moved everyone one foot to the right and it would have been better


15 posted on 06/17/2013 5:48:16 PM PDT by Doogle (USAF.68-73..8th TFW Ubon Thailand..never store a threat you should have eliminated))
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To: Viennacon

Could the wheelchair be closer?


Maybe an inch. They pulled it up to the edge of the stands.


16 posted on 06/17/2013 5:48:24 PM PDT by cuban leaf (Were doomed! Details at eleven.)
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To: GeronL
“How dare my child NOT be the center of attention!!” Serious question; What is wrong with you?
17 posted on 06/17/2013 5:48:40 PM PDT by verga (A nation divided by Zero!)
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To: grundle
It's a fricken class photo, for Pete's sake. No one wants to be there. They just want to take the photo and leave. The true picture is how the young lad is treated in class, and in the playground. He certainly has more obstacles than most people, and a higher chance of being ignored, or set aside - but I wouldn't read that into the photo. I'd just be happy about (and give thanks to the Good Lord) the beaming countenance of the kid. He has a tough haul compared to most of us, but he seems up to the task.
18 posted on 06/17/2013 5:49:26 PM PDT by El Cid (Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved, and thy house...)
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To: grundle

Who was the Heartless S.O.B. that did that to this child and his parents.Like this child had anything to do with his physical infirmities.

If this was done by the photographer,the school system needs to hire a new Photographer.I would also think about hiring an attorney to sue for a violation of this child’s rights to be treated the same as the other kids in the class.


19 posted on 06/17/2013 5:49:37 PM PDT by puppypusher (The World is going to the dogs.)
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To: cripplecreek
If I were the photographer I would have put him right in the middle in the front and have the other kids form a gap.
I used to take classroom photos and that's exactly what I would have done too.
20 posted on 06/17/2013 5:50:13 PM PDT by mlizzy (If people spent an hour a week in Eucharistic adoration, abortion would be ended. --Mother Teresa)
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To: cuban leaf

Yep. Kid doesn’t look bothered by it at all.


21 posted on 06/17/2013 5:50:34 PM PDT by 9YearLurker
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To: grundle

Don’t let Bill Maher see this ‘retarded’ kid! /s


22 posted on 06/17/2013 5:51:30 PM PDT by Obama_Is_Sabotaging_America (PRISON AT BENGHAZI?????)
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To: grundle

If I had been in charge I would have taken him out of his wheelchair and let him sit on the bench.


23 posted on 06/17/2013 5:51:48 PM PDT by Ditter
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To: OneWingedShark

That’s what I thought - the chair was placed as close to the benches as it could be.

Could the child have been placed out of his chair and on the benches? I doubt it - probably not without risk.


24 posted on 06/17/2013 5:52:00 PM PDT by JudyinCanada
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To: grundle

Life sucks. It really does. I feel deeply for this family and what they must endure. I wish the photographer would have been a little more astute and placed the wheelchair in the center of the photo and not off to the side. But he didn’t.

I would also like it if people wouldn’t point at him as he goes by in the mall, but they do and will. I would also like it if people didn’t speak in front of him as if he isn’t there or speak to him as if he can’t understand them. I know those things happen as well.

I’ve been around more than a few people with disabilities in my like so I know that’s how people treat them. It sucks. And for parents of children with disabilities, they hurt for their kids when it happens.

But you put the picture up anyway and watch him smile. He will realize that you are pleased enough with him that you put it up even if someone didn’t treat him right.


25 posted on 06/17/2013 5:53:09 PM PDT by Anitius Severinus Boethius (www.wilsonharpbooks.com - New Robin Hood book out!)
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To: puppypusher

Everyone could have skooched a bit to the left filling the gap.

And it would have looked like a normal class picture.

But nooooooo....


26 posted on 06/17/2013 5:53:12 PM PDT by EQAndyBuzz (The reason we own guns is to protect ourselves from those wanting to take our guns from us.)
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To: mlizzy

Just an inexperienced photographer. I would apologize and just offer to retake the photo.


27 posted on 06/17/2013 5:54:11 PM PDT by cripplecreek (REMEMBER THE RIVER RAISIN!)
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To: grundle

MAD -— Mothers Against Demeanor’s

Send this mother something shiny to gawk at.


28 posted on 06/17/2013 5:56:43 PM PDT by dragnet2 (Diversion and evasion are tools of deceit)
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To: grundle

As a photographer, I can comment that many of the commercial photographers who do this level of work are extraordinarily clueless, and downright stupid when it comes to setting up a picture - I’ve seen it over and over again with band photos, etc - they think that getting the correct exposure and focus is the sum total of a photo.


29 posted on 06/17/2013 5:56:51 PM PDT by kabumpo (Kabumpo)
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To: verga

If I were the photographer I would have put him right in the middle in the front and have the other kids form a gap.

My first thought as well.


If you did that, then he would get all the attention and the rest would be what, background dressing? The boy is special in that he is in a wheelchair and was included.

Chill out drama queens. I had a basketball coach, Nash Revera, 1966. Use to say, “your special, just like everyone else.”


30 posted on 06/17/2013 5:57:06 PM PDT by 23 Everest (When seconds count. The police are just 23 minutes away. 831 Bonnie)
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To: grundle

It looks like the riser is largely to blame.


31 posted on 06/17/2013 5:57:09 PM PDT by gusopol3
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To: cripplecreek
If I were the photographer I would have put him right in the middle in the front and have the other kids form a gap.

Or slide the kids over to the right side of the benches/platform they were on to close the gap, either one would've worked.

I know some people will always look at situations like this and find offense where likely none was ever intended. I can't imagine a school photographer intentionally creating a situation where one child is singled out or set apart. I'd bet the photographer didn't intentionally do this or know it would've created hard feelings in the mother.

No reasonable human being would do such a thing and I'm willing to give the photographer the benefit of the doubt.

32 posted on 06/17/2013 5:59:38 PM PDT by usconservative (When The Ballot Box No Longer Counts, The Ammunition Box Does. (What's In Your Ammo Box?))
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To: grundle
well, they could have had the class sit to the right side of the benches...
33 posted on 06/17/2013 6:00:29 PM PDT by Chode (Stand UP and Be Counted, or line up and be numbered - *DTOM* -ww- NO Pity for the LAZY)
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To: Obama_Is_Sabotaging_America

Well, it seems a lot of you never had to deal with raising a special needs child, or a child with severe disabilities. How nice for you.

But for others, it’s a heartbreaking life. You KNOW your child will NEVER be accepted, will never live a normal life and, really, will suffer loneliness ON TOP OF the disability.

My son is in a special needs class. They keep him and 8 others mostly separated from the rest of the school. I hate it ...he’s marginalized and kept on the periphery. It’s needless, as he’s a wonderful kid once you get to know him.

Society sucks. We look at people superficially ..never knowing WONDERFUL people, because we look only at what we see on the outside.

I understand her hurt. They could have been mindful of this, but they weren’t. God Bless her and I pray someday God erases the hurt from her heart forever AND she is reunited someday in heaven with her son BOTH with new bodies to live with Our Father in Heaven forever.


34 posted on 06/17/2013 6:00:49 PM PDT by LibsRJerks (s)
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To: Anitius Severinus Boethius

I’m glad I’m not the only person who feels this way.

Thank you.


35 posted on 06/17/2013 6:00:49 PM PDT by JCBreckenridge (Un Pere, Une Mere, C'est elementaire)
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To: grundle

This photo is wrong.
They could have fit two more students in the front row, had the wheelchair bound student at the end with the teacher between them filling in the gap.

When I was in High School back in the 80’s we had a wheelchaired student in our class. I don’t recall why he was in a wheelchair because it was never an issue. He was one of us. Because of him only my class was allowed to use the elevator :) how cool was that! ha ha. Our class photos ALWAYS had him front center.


36 posted on 06/17/2013 6:01:03 PM PDT by 1_Rain_Drop
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To: umgud

As a photographer, I don’t agree. It’s a pathetic and appalling photograph, and wasn’t necessary. Wheelchair in the middle wasn’t necessary either. A little creative, thought could have found a better solution, but this is all you get for $100.


37 posted on 06/17/2013 6:01:04 PM PDT by kabumpo (Kabumpo)
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To: 23 Everest
Chill out drama queens

I'm speaking as a photographer. Its a plain crappy photo. No drama about it.
38 posted on 06/17/2013 6:01:17 PM PDT by cripplecreek (REMEMBER THE RIVER RAISIN!)
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To: cuban leaf

I think the teacher could have stood on the side with this child, and the classmates moved a bit off-center, clos to the child.

Are we so cold hearted, that we lack compassion?


39 posted on 06/17/2013 6:01:28 PM PDT by KittenClaws ( You may have to fight a battle more than once in order to win it." - Margaret Thatcher)
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To: umgud

As a photographer, I don’t agree. It’s a pathetic and appalling photograph, and wasn’t necessary. Wheelchair in the middle wasn’t necessary either. A little creative, thought could have found a better solution, but this is all you get for $100.


40 posted on 06/17/2013 6:01:33 PM PDT by kabumpo (Kabumpo)
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To: umgud

As a photographer, I don’t agree. It’s a pathetic and appalling photograph, and wasn’t necessary. Wheelchair in the middle wasn’t necessary either. A little creative, thought could have found a better solution, but this is all you get for $100.


41 posted on 06/17/2013 6:01:59 PM PDT by kabumpo (Kabumpo)
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To: umgud

As a photographer, I don’t agree. It’s a pathetic and appalling photograph, and wasn’t necessary. Wheelchair in the middle wasn’t necessary either. A little creative, thought could have found a better solution, but this is all you get for $100.


42 posted on 06/17/2013 6:02:08 PM PDT by kabumpo (Kabumpo)
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To: grundle
Mom is looking at the wrong thing.

Look at the grin on his face, mom!!! He's happy he's with the other kids.

Sadly, there are kids that can't even be part of a group.

43 posted on 06/17/2013 6:02:29 PM PDT by Sacajaweau
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To: grundle

As the father of a handicap child I can tell you that, these kind of superficial slights don’t bother me in the least.

We seek the approval of men when we have been so blessed by God.


44 posted on 06/17/2013 6:02:36 PM PDT by freedomson (Tagline comment removed by moderator)
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To: umgud

As a photographer, I don’t agree. It’s a pathetic and appalling photograph, and wasn’t necessary. Wheelchair in the middle wasn’t necessary either. A little creative, thought could have found a better solution, but this is all you get for $100.


45 posted on 06/17/2013 6:03:00 PM PDT by kabumpo (Kabumpo)
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To: usconservative
Or slide the kids over to the right side of the benches/platform they were on to close the gap, either one would've worked.

Exactly. Its a simple photographer's mistake and I doubt any offense was intended.
46 posted on 06/17/2013 6:03:18 PM PDT by cripplecreek (REMEMBER THE RIVER RAISIN!)
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To: grundle

Plot Twist:
Miles typically has very bad gas and was experiencing major issues that morning. this picture shows him leaning over as he’s ‘squeezing one out’


47 posted on 06/17/2013 6:03:33 PM PDT by sten (fighting tyranny never goes out of style)
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To: freedomson

I should’ve said, “we don’t seek the approval of men”


48 posted on 06/17/2013 6:03:54 PM PDT by freedomson (Tagline comment removed by moderator)
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To: cripplecreek

Bingo! This stupid example of a teacher—pains me to see the little guy off and away.


49 posted on 06/17/2013 6:04:11 PM PDT by SgtHooper (The last thing I want to do is hurt you. But it's still on the list.)
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To: KittenClaws
Are we so cold hearted, that we lack compassion?

Real compassion would have forced everyone to be in a wheelchair for the pic.

50 posted on 06/17/2013 6:04:53 PM PDT by GeronL (http://asspos.blogspot.com)
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