Skip to comments.Is Ogling Women a Form of 'Harassment' & 'Abuse'?
Posted on 07/23/2008 10:38:53 AM PDT by PercivalWalks
In the recent www.feministing.com post Two-thirds of Egyptian men admit to harassing women, Jessica Valenti quotes from Reuters:
Nearly two-thirds of Egyptian men admit to having sexually harassed women...and a majority say women themselves are to blame for their maltreatment, a survey showed Thursday.Valenti adds:
The forms of harassment reported by Egyptian men, whose country attracts millions of foreign tourists each year, include touching or ogling women, shouting sexually explicit remarks, and exposing their genitals to women.
"Sexual harassment has become an overwhelming and very real problem experienced by all women in Egyptian society, often on a daily basis," said the report by the Egyptian Center for Women's Rights
83 percent of Egyptian women reported having been sexually harassed, almost half of these women said the abuse occurred every day. Yikes.Details of the report by the Egyptian Center for Women's Rights can be found here.
My problem with what Reuters and Valenti wrote is a problem I often have with feminist claims -- harmful acts are mixed together with harmless ones. We are given a seemingly alarming statistic without knowing which part of the statistic is comprised by harmful acts and which part is comprised by harmless acts.
In this case, we are told that the harassment being reported includes "touching or ogling women, shouting sexually explicit remarks, and exposing their genitals to women." Pardon me, but there is a hell of a difference between touching/groping/"exposing genitals" to women and ogling women.
For one, ogling women is natural and harmless. Many women enjoy the fact that men are demonstrating that they are attractive. Many women I've known have boasted about the ogling and/or remarks. Reuters calls the harassment "abuse," but merely being ogled is in no way "abuse."
Does anybody really think that a man who ogles an attractive Arab woman like Emmanuelle Chriqui (pictured) is a "harasser" or an "abuser"? All it really means is that he's male and has a pulse.
If, however, most of this sexual harassment is groping or exposing genitals, then I think Egypt has a real problem. If most of it is just ogling, then this report means little. I do not see the forms of harassment broken down in any of the media reports or Valenti's report. If anybody knows of where I can find the breakdown, please let me know.
I feel the same way about the alleged "blaming" of women for the harassment. Such blame often angers feminists, and Valenti seems to agree. Again though, the "blaming" is not very meaningful unless we know what kinds of acts we're talking about. For example, it is ludicrous for a man who has exposed his genitals to a woman to blame her for what he did. This is similarly true with groping. In both cases, the men deserve to be punished, regardless of what the women were (or were not) wearing.
However, if we're only talking about ogling, the rules are different. I've always found it silly the way some women go way out of their way to dress so that men will notice them and be attracted to them, and then pretend to be "offended" when men look.
Cultural traditions in Egypt push women towards dressing conservatively, so I'm not sure how much women's mode of dress fits in here. I traveled some in the Arab world in the mid-1980s, and my experience was that some women dressed in a very Western manner, while others dressed in a very conservative, Moslem manner. In the major cities, it was more of the former than the latter, and the reverse in the countryside.
On the larger issue, the way women are treated in certain parts of the Muslim world is appalling. One example, from when I traveled in Morocco:
I was walking down a street and a veiled woman was walking on the same sidewalk as I was, coming the opposite way. Suddenly she turned down into a doorway, kneeled down, and pulled her robes over her.
I was only 19-years-old and didn't know a damn thing -- I thought she was sick, or injured, or in trouble. I went up to her and tapped her on the shoulder and tried to ask her what was wrong. (This was in Morocco, where much of the population speaks French, and at the time I spoke French fairly well, so she probably was able to understand what I was saying).
As I talked to her, she seemed to be increasingly agitated and she waved her hand at me asking me to go away. After a while, I left, with misgivings.
Afterwards I was informed by a couple other Moroccans that since I was a Westerner, were she to look me in the eye or in any way interact with me, she would be branded a whore. Seeing her afraid like that was a sad and moving experience.
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It might behoove you to stay away from Megyn Kelly's morning show too. If the wife's around, it's nothing but trouble.
My wife never tires of telling me that when a 45 year-old woman looks in the mirror, she sees a 45 year-old woman.
When a 45 year-old man looks in the mirror, he still sees the 18 year-old kid he saw there 27 years ago.
I agree with you some girls are cut some are pretty some are beautiful some are gorgeous
That'll learn ya! (Sorry!!!!)
Much needed (although marginally safe for work...)
A cute little coworker just walked by. I ogled.
I usually fall back on the defense of “If they didn’t want me to look, they wouldn’t be half-nekkid at the mall”.
Just today, I walked past a young lady who had a buttoned dress shirt on, and a pair of blue jeans. The issue I had was that only 2 or 3 of the bottom buttons were done, and the rest were not. If she wants guys to look at her b00bs, that’s a pretty simple way to get it to happen.
The word “perky” comes to mind.
im not a caboose fan more of the upper front but they are very cute
Ah, I graduated to cabooses long ago ;)
Down boy, down boy ... or someone will tell you wife!
Wait a minute here. You mean that you know some women who live any aspect of their lives logically? Get serious ... ;)
I no more expect women to behave rationally as regards to their clothing than I do as regards their shoes, financial management, choice of men, jewelry, home decorating tastes, and bedroom furniture. Also as regards to sex.
She's even gorgeous without makeup:
Bump for later read.
RE: Photo on right.
Romper Room never fully explored/lived up to the title possibilities - unless I’ve not fully explored the DVDs available or maybe missed some episodes.
Miss Florence ... hubba hubba....
But when I was ogled, it was was embarrassing.
Still, I'm glad I could pull it off.
You might flame me for this, but see post 65. I hope you recognize that it was tongue-in-cheek — from a happily married fellow for 21 years.
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