Skip to comments.I am a Broken Man
Posted on 06/14/2010 1:48:57 PM PDT by savedbygrace
A few days ago, my wife suddenly, without forewarning that I ever detected, told me she is leaving me. The details are not important, only that I recognize it was mostly my fault.
Our grown daughter is leaving home about the same time. Within three weeks, I will be alone, with only my Golden Retriever as a companion. I'm calling on God, and he is answering, but in this physical world, it's only my Golden.
Heartbroken, deeply wounded, ashamed. That's me.
I'm hoping to receive words of advice and counsel. I'm a born again, spirit filled Christian, so I'll respond more readily to Christian-based advice and counsel, but I'm ready to accept whatever you have for me. I'm needy.
Bummer. Can’t think of any sage advice, except life goes on and time heals all wounds.
God closed one door but I guarantee there’s another hanging wide open somewhere. You’ll find it when you’re ready to find it.
Been there, done that a long time ago. I’ll not give you spiritual advice as that should come through your minister/priest. But suffice it to say, look also to good friends and relatives. Don’t sit this out on the sidelines. Get out and about. Dealing with it and becoming whole again goes a lot quicker that way.
Good luck, and God’s blessings on you.
My only advice, if you can call it that, after suffering
a terrible loss earlier in my life is...
When God is all you have left, you learn God is all you need.
I’m sorry for your losses. It’s a tough blow in many ways.
Life will go on. It may even turn out better than it was.
God is capable of more than you could ask or think.
I look back now and see I am in a far, far, far better
place, thanks to His grace.
You will go through a time of grieving. Don’t get caught up
in trying to date until that process ends. At least a year.
That is why, for Christ’s sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong. 2Cor 12:10
I’m praying for you.
Man's best friend -- a blessing right there.
You did not indicate that there was hope for reconciliation - but I'll certainly keep that in prayer as well.
Cry in your beer then get on your knees and thank God for the life and opportunities and the miracles he has given you and seek His wisdom and strength. Repeat, eventually cutting back on the beer and crying.
Job’s friends had advice. I don’t — but you will be in my prayers.
I have gone through divorece. It’s beyond painful. The one thing that was told to me by my older sister was for me to take care of myself. It’s very inportant to treat yourself well and to stay focused on life, job, and all aspects. Only you can take care of yourself. You’ll find that there is an inner you that you never knew of strength, goodwill, and happiness.
You’re not alone. No one makes it through life without scars on the heart. It’s the response to times like these that makes us and where you find who you are.
I am alone with my Golden Retriever too. I suggest you keep the Golden, forget about the woman, and find a lawyer. All in all I would take my Golden over my ex-wife every day.
Dog is God spelled backwards. Sometimes, they are their own Red Cross. Then again, they do like socks, don’t they?
Prayers for you, sbg. You must have something important to do yet. When you can see it.
Find a new uplifting hobby that involves you dog.
Be outdoors a lot of the time.
Resist feeling sorry for yourself.
Find a professional to talk to. I know many will say that is wrong but I have known several who did it and found it very helpful.
Most likely it really isn't your fault and you will come to that conclusion downrange.
You have my utmost sympathy. Sometimes people to terrible things to each other. There is no good reason for it.
Guard against bitterness.
For every woman who does this to a man, there is a man who does it to a woman. So don’t hate the gender.
Keep your dignity and don’t beg. At some point in the grace of God she may realize she has done a terrible thing, and repent. It happens.
Minister well to your daughter. Let her see how a real Christian handles adversity.
Some churches believe that the Bible allows for divorce in cases of abandonment. This seems to be abandonment, but I’d assume it would have to go along for a while before it becomes permanent and isn’t just some crazy phase.
Praying for you now.
Post again if you need advice or prayer support.
When my marriages break up, I usually get another pet and repaint the house. I’m not being flip, btw. I’ve been divorced twice and had another long-term relationship that broke up. Get another pet for your lab to bound around with, and repaint the house. The inside, I mean. Bright colors. It’s very therapeutic. Ice cream helps too, but that might be a female thing.
At some point, you will see the Lord’s Good Hands in all of this. You could not have a better companion than your dog to go through this with. AND — personally, I do not know your wife, but as a woman, I am deeply ashamed of her. How insensitive! How rude! Did she call herself a Christian, too?
I would leave that shame you feel at the foot of the Cross and walk away celebrating. Is that too blunt? She was to honor and cherish you, to be with you through thick and thin, through rough times and good. She will have to answer the Lord, too, in this.
I live alone, with only cats and a dog.
I like it. Suits me very well, do ya fine.
I know it hurts now. Know it well.
Give it time. I’ve done it.
God be with you and give you strength to face the change.
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