Posted on 08/12/2010 8:30:15 AM PDT by eRtwngr
No my “emotions” are not getting the better of me. I am totally disgusted with people's narcissistic selfishness and when it comes to kids, I am especially disgusted.
“We all cant have the perfect life such as you and your family.”
There you go again! A PERFECT LIFE? Isn't that a TAD EXTREME? No, there is not a fallible person on this that has a PERFECT LIFE! How extreme can YOU get? Never mind, this will suffice.
“Relax and go save the world tomorrow.”
Oh, so now I am trying to “save the world” simply by stating the truth about people's selfishness and narcissism and EXTREME love of money? No, they are already doomed by CHOICE. I'm just pointing out times truth.
All they are doing is working up to heartache with kids that will have issues. I'm just warning them. As you can see, it's not going over well with them or you.
I don't understand why people like you don't vote for Demoncrats. They have the SAME OUTLOOK as YOU!
Life is just not so simple that we can say this is bad and that is great.
There are great stay at home moms that really spend the time with their children and there are stay at home moms that totally neglect the children even though the children are right with them.
There are working moms that spend as much time with their children as possible and are great moms, then there are working moms that neglect their children even when they are with them.
I hate daycare but I advised my daughters to use organized day care if they had to instead of using a person they did not know for home care. The reason I feel that way is day cares are checked far more often than home care, and there are more workers there to speak up if something is really wrong. Many home care providers are great but many are not licensed and no one checks up on them so how would you know?
My oldest daughter is a single parent and a nurse, she has a circle of friends that are also single parents and they swap child care and have a very good thing going. The children are all friends and the moms are friends and they are familiar with the different likes, dislikes, rules. They all live in the same complex of townhouses so the children can go to their own home after school to change, get their favorite toys, care for pets and what not before going to the neighbors until their mom gets home.
In a perfect world moms would not work away from home and would all be perfect moms, but reality is that everyone must do the best they can with their situation.
Single moms have to be creative, and to say all moms should stay home with their children- how does that work if mom is the only parent? Should she go on welfare- is that what we want?
I did quit working to raise my children and went back to work when my youngest was in middle school, I thought that was ideal for my family, but I would not assume that is right for everyone or that everyone can do that.
Bad parents are just bad parents, and good parents are good parents- day care can’t change that one way or the other.
Shocking the self-righteousness of opinions on this board. I guess I thought it was MY job as a parent to raise my children and not the government, but as I also note some postings’ authors may not have had a lot of life experience where they truly had to choose which side of principle they had to stand on...Put a child in day care so the parent can provide the basic needs of the child or have the government provide the basic needs of shelter, food, medical, clothing in order for them to stay home to raise the perfect little children. And I’m so glad they were able to pick their life’s circumstances of when to have children.
A. It’s the law, though there are some ways around it.
B. They don’t feed the kids with a bottle, change their diapers, leave them on a blanket staring at the ceiling all day
C. It’s for 3 hours, 9 months.
D. Mom’s on call and available.
E. Teachers are certified and restricted to class size and student to teacher ration of about 7 to 1.
F. Nice try.
Nive try? I’m just saying you don’t go far enough. I don’t see why anyone who has thought things through as far as you would not homeschool.
If anything public schools are worse than daycares, because besides being inadequate child care they are a horrible education and a bad preparation for life.
Did your going back to work when the kids were still in middle school have anything to do with them being single parents?
We were told by our parents that the teen years are when you are needed most, to greet the children off the bus and listen to their worries.
Just sayin’
We’ve been fortunate in some ways with public school. But we “deprogram” the kids when they get home. I have a lot of respect for homeschoolers. Just never went that far. it could still be coming.
Deprogramming, or adding in stuff they should have learned at school and didn’t, seems way too much work for me. Plus I was homeschooled and can’t imagine a better way to grow up. Once you’ve made the sacrifices to have one parent stay home, there’s just no reason not to homeschool.
Search Columbia, Maryland real estate and get back to me on that would ya? What we have IS affordable in our area.
I suppose we can all hop into a time machine and undo our “bad choices” right nmh? Who are you, Dr. Emmett Brown?
People want to avoid personal responsibility and then shirk it on to others.
How many make bad choices at one time or another, and then down the road the price has to be paid. But the cost is too painful, and SHOULD be "shared" by others.
How many people make terrible choices in marriage, only to end up in divorce later.
How many of those now find themselves in "dire straights" and EXPECT someone else to bail them out.
On the flip side, as far as responsibility goes, there are others who refuse to see THEIR responsibility in helping others PERSONALLY.
Government is a way of detaching ourselves from the needs of others. Knowing government programs are out there, shields us from getting dirty.
It used to be that charity and compassion were the realms of churches, but have given that over to government. Churches used to be charity plus accountability. Today we EXPECT charity with NO accountability.
We have washed our hands of holding anybody accountable, and refuse to be held accountable ourselves.
We, as a society, act completely on emotion. We feel terrible about pain we bring upon ourselves and demand the removal of the pain. We are indignant about the discomfort others bring upon us.
We fail to realize that life at times is tough, whether our doings or not, and refuse the hard work involved.
We have all become insolent children.
DITTO
Reasons I don’t qualify as a conservative, according to the Holier-Than-Thou Freeper Illuminati:
1. I have used a credit card before
2. I have seen a naked woman other than my wife before I met her (sorry, honey)
3. I have a daycare provider for my child
4. I listen to 80s metal
5. I don’t go to church every Sunday
6. I believe there is some merit to the theory of evolution
7. I realize that a guy who agrees 80% with me but gets sh*t done is better than a guy who agrees 100% with me but can’t win an election, or get any legislation passed if he/she does
8. I’ve actually admitted that Sarah Palin would be a very flawed candidate for President (I do like her though)
9. I’ve had financial problems in the past that I couldn’t erase simply by praying really hard and flaming people on FR
10. I’m partially of something other than Northern European descent
11. I got married after age 20 and my first child was born after I turned 30
12. I don’t think having 18 kids is something my wife and I will be doing
13. I watch television other than Fox News
14. I was a mortgage loan officer at one time
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I have no idea who Dr. Emmert Brown is. Don't bother to tell me. I'm not interested.
” suppose we can all hop into a time machine and undo our “bad choices”
YOUR “bad choice” are NOT MY FAULT!
To suggest we use a “time machine” only points our your immaturity and LACK OF INDIVIDUAL RESPONSIBILITY.
YOUR LIFE and it's CONSEQUENCES are NOT MY FAULT!
Blame YOURSELF.
LEARN from YOUR MISTAKES and help OTHERS AVOID MISTAKES.
It's ALL about INDIIDUAL RESPONSIBLITY and getting your priorities straight.
With the attitude you project, you should be a huge OBAMA SUPPORTER. Obama is all about blaming someone else and having OTHERS pay for their mistakes. Perhaps DU would be a friendlier place to your philosophy or irresponsibility and blaming others for YOUR LIFE?
ridiculous. all having a stay at home mom does anymore is ensure that 1 parent gets to see them. the working parent still ends up being a stranger.
and unless you’re going to homeschool them, what’s the point? they’ll still end up being raised by someone else after a couple years anyway.
not everyone that has children in daycare is a monster, sometimes its the right thing to do for the kids. better to be able to afford to do things with the kids and be able to give them opportunities they wouldn’t get if forced to live in a tiny house, barely have enough to eat, not have room enough to do anything, and generally be miserable.
What I am saying is don’t be enslaved to something that is beyond your means. I know of MANY that had grand houses and simply sold them and scaled down. Good times are not the present time and they recognized that. It truly is honorable to adjust with changes that aren't pleasant.
Truly it is not worth it to be worrying about the mortgage all the time. There is no joy or happiness in that. It's not shameful to be free of a mortgage that is enslaving you. Life is too short for that. If better times roll around, then by all means scale up! With Obama at the helm, it is only getting worse. Ge ahead of the curve, unload it. Make family your priorty and not the lifestyle and mortgage.
It's not worth it!
When did I say anything was your fault? You say “YOUR LIFE and it’s CONSEQUENCES are NOT MY FAULT!”
OK then, why not just SHUT UP?
Oh, and FYI, Dr. Brown’s the guy from the film Back to the Future who invented the time machine.
See post 45 - we do wish to leave this area at some point.
Can’t “unload” anything without paying every dime we have in savings just to sell - then we’ll have no home AND no savings. We owe more than we could sell it for.
I never once asked you to pay for any of this and I don’t know why you keep suggesting I did.
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