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NY Times: Keep The Family Peace By Letting Your Teens Have Sex At Home
Pajamas Media ^ | July 24, 2011 | Stephen Kruiser

Posted on 07/30/2011 8:01:41 PM PDT by TheDingoAteMyBaby

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To: TheDingoAteMyBaby
My children know exactly what sex is. They understand it biologically, they know that God only approves of it when a couple is married, that having it brings about babies, and that in the course of a loving marriage it is a wonderful thing. They know full well I expect them to wait until they are married before engaging in it, that thinking about it is perfectly normal, but acting on it should only come after they have married good Christians with God's blessing.

Taking a poop is a perfectly natural function, too. But we don't allow kids to crap wherever they want. We expect them to control themselves.

Sorry, my mother didn't raise me to be a common candy dish where everyone gets a peice. I am the finest crystal; to be set upon a shelf, protected, and treasured. And any young man with designs on my daughter had better treat her the way my beloved husband treats me - with the utmost respect, or he'll find himself at the altar with a shotgun in his back. I expect no less than the most respectful of treatment by my son to any young lady he dates, too!

51 posted on 07/30/2011 10:52:45 PM PDT by TheWriterTX (Buy Ammo Often)
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To: TheDingoAteMyBaby

How bout “Keep your daughter from pregnancy and disease by chopping the dick off the sex hound that’s trying to find 3 seconds you’re not there to mount her”?


52 posted on 07/30/2011 10:53:17 PM PDT by Secret Agent Man (I'd like to tell you, but then I'd have to kill you.)
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To: TheDingoAteMyBaby

I also wish more liberals here would stop asking why we can’t be more like Europe and instead, simply move over to Europe. After all why imitate what you think is utopia when you can LIVE in your utopia?


53 posted on 07/30/2011 10:55:11 PM PDT by Secret Agent Man (I'd like to tell you, but then I'd have to kill you.)
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To: TheDingoAteMyBaby

More gibberish from the NYTimes.

Haven’t they filed for bankruptcy protection?


54 posted on 07/30/2011 10:59:15 PM PDT by <1/1,000,000th%
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To: Steely Tom

When I was going out with my fiance, we got stranded one night in a horrible storm over a friends house. I called my parents, and they told me in no uncertain terms I’d better get home pronto.

Years later I had a friend whose parents were very lax and let boyfriends and girlfriends spend the night over the house. They became hard workers, but mainly because they realized no one in the family would stand by them if they failed at anything - nobody really cared about anyone else.

It took me a while to realize how much my friend envied my “strict” parents. Last I knew of her she still had not had a good marriage.


55 posted on 07/30/2011 11:34:18 PM PDT by I still care (I miss my friends, bagels, and the NYC skyline - but not the taxes. I love the South.)
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To: I still care

While dating my future wife that happened. I drove through the snow and blizzard and finally made it to her house - she still live with her folks. But by then it was too bad out to head back to my place.

I slept on the couch in the den. And Mom made a great breakfast!


56 posted on 07/30/2011 11:46:38 PM PDT by 21twelve (Obama Recreating the New Deal: http://www.freerepublic.com/focus/f-news/2185147/posts)
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To: TheDingoAteMyBaby

Keep The Family Peace By Letting Your Teens Have Sex At Home.
Wonder what the police would do if it was done in a single parent home?and what would the other parent think?.
Bad ideas are like bad kids no matter how bad they are you still love them.


57 posted on 07/31/2011 3:40:50 AM PDT by Vaduz
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To: TheDingoAteMyBaby

This is just pure craziness.


58 posted on 07/31/2011 4:22:20 AM PDT by channel55
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To: TheDingoAteMyBaby

God’s laws and principles (including benefits requiring responsibility) are to our collective benefit when obeyed, and to our hurt when neglected. As marriage goes so does the family, and when the family goes so does the nation, and all the kings men and money will not fix it, but the surrender of saving faith to the Christ of Scripture who saves sinners will.

From promoting citizenship without oaths of allegiance to sexual relations without the lifetime commitment of marriage, the Left continues it War against the only-wise and holy God, at great cost of souls, lives and money: http://peacebyjesus.witnesstoday.org/RevealingStatistics.html

“Ye shall not do after all the things that we do here this day, every man whatsoever is right in his own eyes.” (Deuteronomy 12:8)

“The law of the Lord is perfect, converting the soul: the testimony of the Lord is sure, making wise the simple.” (Psalms 19:7)

“.. a guide of the blind, a light of them which are in darkness, An instructor of the foolish, a teacher of babes, which hast the form of knowledge and of the truth in the law.” (Romans 2:19-20)

“Lo, this only have I found, that God hath made man upright; but they have sought out many inventions. “ (Ecclesiastes 7:29)


59 posted on 07/31/2011 5:40:24 AM PDT by daniel1212 ( "Repent ye therefore, and be converted, that your sins may be blotted out," Acts 3:19)
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To: rosepetal2010

But surely you read it for the side-splitting humor of its advice columns, right? I know I do!


60 posted on 07/31/2011 5:44:41 AM PDT by miss marmelstein (Casey Anthony is guilty as hell)
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To: TheDingoAteMyBaby
Keep The Family Peace By Letting Your Teens Have Sex At Home

Wouldn't that be rather incestuous ? (/Sarc)

61 posted on 07/31/2011 5:54:32 AM PDT by varon (Allegiance to the Constitution, always. Allegiance to a party, never!)
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To: Tammy8

How old was this girl?

I had an awful experience when a friend of mine, living with us for a month because we were doing a play in NYC, invited his daughter to join us. He did not tell us she was arriving until about one-hour prior. Shocked and disquieted, I accepted the inevitable. She showed up - a beautiful girl dressed very flimsily along with a short, hippie-looking guy in her wake. He was staying with us, too, it seemed. For one week they stayed in our extra bedroom, locked in a close embrace like two wet stamps at the bottom of a handbag. With the door open. I took to slamming it closed every time I passed.

She’d come out at night and make cocktails. Never offering to pay for anything the entire week she stayed.


62 posted on 07/31/2011 5:55:14 AM PDT by miss marmelstein (Casey Anthony is guilty as hell)
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To: TheBigIf

Age of Consent, at this time in our history, is for the benefit of the chicken hawks.


63 posted on 07/31/2011 5:57:32 AM PDT by miss marmelstein (Casey Anthony is guilty as hell)
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To: TheWriterTX

Actually, there is a dance theatre company in French Canada that does “poop” right there on stage. Part of breaking down us theatregoers’ inhibitions, don’t you know.

And, no I’ve never seen this company in action.


64 posted on 07/31/2011 6:00:14 AM PDT by miss marmelstein (Casey Anthony is guilty as hell)
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To: TheDingoAteMyBaby

“Why not film it too, and make some money,” I said, as the wind whistled past and the speed down the slippery slope increased. NY times would be worth more if they left the ink off the paper.


65 posted on 07/31/2011 6:04:31 AM PDT by King Moonracer (Bad lighting and cheap fabric, that's how you sell clothing.....)
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To: I still care; 21twelve
"When I was going out with my fiance, we got stranded one night in a horrible storm over a friends house. I called my parents, and they told me in no uncertain terms I’d better get home pronto."

"While dating my future wife that happened. I drove through the snow and blizzard and finally made it to her house - she still live with her folks. But by then it was too bad out to head back to my place. I slept on the couch in the den. And Mom made a great breakfast!"

In the 1970s, when I was a teenager, I dated a girl -- best friend of my cousin -- who lived about 30 miles away, across the metro area. It went on for a year, the families grew to trust us (for good reason), and both her and my parents let us stay out later and later. At one point it became obvious that, having me drive home at 1 AM or later didn't make sense. So her mother gave us instructions about what to do if the night ended and I was too tired. I had my spot on the family room couch and the girl was to leave her parents a note on their bedside table.

We were both Catholics -- and, no I never laid a hand on her other than kissing and the usual innocent stuff that goes along with that. I had been dating the gal for a year, I had become a fixture around the house, the gal's sister was already calling me her "brother," so me being around on Saturday or Sunday morning was natural. And if it was Sunday morning I often went to church with them.

I have to admit that, back then, had the situation been reversed (e.g., does the girl stay over at the boy's house because she's too tired to drive), then this might not have been workable. Because the girl's father was the house sheriff and had a lot at stake preventing the boyfriend from become the lover.

Suggest we all look up the term "bundling" and remind ourselves that even in the most faith-based cultures they realized that a certain level of intimacy was needed during courting. The Amish and other traditional sexts used to let the courting boy spend the night in bed with their girl. Various methods were used to prevent intercourse -- a bundling board was often placed in between them, and I was at one museum where they showed us a bundling nightgown, where the girls mother literally sewed her daughter into the nightgown so it couldn't come off until morning. Seems like a funny practice now but we can certainly understand the motivation.

66 posted on 07/31/2011 6:34:12 AM PDT by tom h
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To: hinckley buzzard
"Funny, what passes for "research" these days. Funny in a pathetic sort of way."

The author is just another typical liberal trying to "publish or perish" and at the same time make some money from a gullible public willing to spend $29.95 on her book, or from Sociology Professors across the country who might use it as required reading in their classes.

This doesn't mean I don't find her to be a pathetic liberal POS. But then again look at her pedigree -- Berkeley, Harvard, UCSF (umm -- lots of gays there) and teaching at U Mass. You can't be a conservative if your journey took you on that path.

67 posted on 07/31/2011 6:43:29 AM PDT by tom h
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To: matt04
"I’ve interviewed 130 people, all white, middle class and not particularly religious...

Glad to see they found away to keep race involved is such a high quality "study."

Nah, don't give the perfessor that much credit. She teaches at U Mass Amherst and probably didn't get a research grant to spend a lot of money. So she had her graduate students circulate around western Massachusetts (which is 110% white) and find families willing to talk there.

Believe me, if she had a grant from some prestigious place she would've spent money doing nationwide research.

Just another idiot liberal trying to "publish or perish" and get her 15 minutes of fame.

68 posted on 07/31/2011 6:46:44 AM PDT by tom h
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To: Steely Tom; TheDingoAteMyBaby; mlocher; WorkerbeeCitizen; JRandomFreeper; Tammy8
We knew parents in the late 1990s who tried this with their two teenage daughters. They all but encouraged them to be sexually active, gave them lessons in contraception and condom usage, and cheered the gals on.

Disaster ensued. The older daughter (age 16) was level-headed but the younger daughter (age 14) was sensitive and susceptible. Within six months, there was a claim by the younger daughter of attempted date rape. The older daughter disputed this, called her sister a slut (publicly), and insisted that she had lured the boy into making the assault. Police were involved, there were depositions, lives were ruined, the family was shattered, and the older daughter did not deviate from her story. The younger daughter -- quite a brilliant girl -- eventually got extremely depressed, flipped out and got hooked on drugs, spent almost a decade in rehab, and is now a hairdresser. They did not come from a blue collar family -- one parent was the head of research at a science facility at the University of California, and the other was a leading research M.D.

I can only imagine the situation, much like Tammy8's story about the 14-year old who announces to the world, "did you know I'm now sexually active." A girls saying that at a party is like a guarantee to have a tussle later on at night with a boy.

In the example I cite, I have absolutely no doubt that the child's depression and drug abuse came about because he parents thought that having her grow up at 14 was the right action. Because we all know that, given half a chance, teenage boys who can get easy sex from a 14-year old will do it until she is used up. THAT's why depression rates from teenage girls are so high.

If any of you are interested, suggest you read the story about the lost teens of Rockdale County. The article is a bit dated (1999) but it's very revealing how being sexually active for a teenage girl inevitably leads to depression or dislike for all boys and men. Website:

http://www.pbs.org/wgbh/pages/frontline/shows/georgia/etc/script.html

69 posted on 07/31/2011 6:59:46 AM PDT by tom h
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To: TheDingoAteMyBaby

Old Hugh Heffner is going to live to be 120 because, like my Dad says, “The devil’s in no hurry for the sure ones.”


70 posted on 07/31/2011 8:39:44 AM PDT by blueunicorn6 ("A crack shot and a good dancer")
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To: miss marmelstein

The girl was just 14 years old!! How old was your friend’s daughter?

I cannot imagine parents condoning their children’s sexual activities. To me it is a part of the parents wanting to be “cool” and wanting to be friends with their children instead of parents. Parents need to be parents!!


71 posted on 07/31/2011 8:59:08 AM PDT by Tammy8 (~Secure the border and deport all illegals- do it now! ~ Support our Troops!~)
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To: tom h

Good point. I guess they didn’t want to venture into downtown Springfield.


72 posted on 07/31/2011 1:52:21 PM PDT by matt04
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73 posted on 07/31/2011 1:54:42 PM PDT by wagglebee ("A political party cannot be all things to all people." -- Ronald Reagan, 3/1/75)
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To: Tammy8

My best friend in High School had a sister who was”sexually adventurous.”Their mother seemed to take great pleasure from the exploits of the daughter.Sick,sick ,sick.


74 posted on 07/31/2011 2:06:36 PM PDT by Farmer Dean (stop worrying about what they want to do to you,start thinking about what you want to do to them)
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75 posted on 07/31/2011 2:30:14 PM PDT by narses ("Fallacies do not cease to be fallacies because they become fashions." Chesterton)
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To: TheDingoAteMyBaby

Kinda reminds me of the wife swapping phase.

Anything to push immorality as acceptable.


76 posted on 07/31/2011 2:34:24 PM PDT by metmom (Be the kind of woman that when you wake in the morning, the devil says, "Oh crap, she's UP !!")
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To: TheDingoAteMyBaby

The NYT is the first place I go for child raising advice ...


77 posted on 07/31/2011 2:36:04 PM PDT by Let's Roll (Save the world's best healthcare - REPEAL, DEFUND Obamacare!)
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To: Talisker

Nice rant.

But all it does is illustrate your lack of reading comprehension skills.


78 posted on 07/31/2011 3:21:05 PM PDT by GatorGirl (Herman Cain 2012)
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To: Talisker

And I hope you take some elementary reading and logic lessons before you tell anyone else you’re a conservative.


79 posted on 07/31/2011 3:44:24 PM PDT by sthguard (The DNC theme song: "All You Need is Guv")
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To: TheBigIf

“The left-wing agenda in regards to gay marraige is and has been that no individual has a right to oppose the left-wing perverse morality in regards to sexuality.”

Which is a lie in itself, as it is no individual that opposes them, but the distilled wisdom of human civilization, and most particularly the intellectual work product of the greatest minds of the Western World over the past 2000 years.


80 posted on 07/31/2011 4:06:24 PM PDT by dsc (Any attempt to move a government to the left is a crime against humanity.)
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To: dfwgator

That’s hysterical. LOL


81 posted on 07/31/2011 5:23:51 PM PDT by kitkat ( Obama: Rope and Chains)
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To: TheDingoAteMyBaby

In our family, we discussed the financial responsibility of taking the risk of bringing a child into the world, and what privileges of young adulthood and education would be sacrificed if such a thing happened.

We talked about the prevalence of STDs, and how much more deadly their rapid mutations have become as a result of the so-called Sexual Revolution.

And this was in addition to talking about the Divine Design for marriage and family.

You can’t control today’s young people; and I’m not sure how much of it sunk in. But as insurance (or assurance), I also pray regularly for a good outcome for the next generation and any future grandchildren.


82 posted on 08/01/2011 9:03:36 AM PDT by Albion Wilde (To ACLU & its plaintiffs: Stop dragging the public into your personal struggle w/ God. -Mark Baisley)
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To: CORedneck
when I was a college student, I fooled around a little bit but I would not be comfortable to have my gf over at my parents house or fool with her while they are there.

Even married couples who are respectful won't have sex in their parents' houses unless the rooms are soundproof.

83 posted on 08/01/2011 9:14:26 AM PDT by Albion Wilde (To ACLU & its plaintiffs: Stop dragging the public into your personal struggle w/ God. -Mark Baisley)
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To: Steely Tom

Liberal Lie #1: If you just let someone have his/her way, it will be peaceful and okay.

The big problem with this is that it absolutely won’t. I wonder who will just sit around and consider the fact that some evolved STDs are a real risk and problem right now, not to mention the chance that pregnancy without marriage still can occur, and still does, that’s a price tag there.

But then again, sounds like the author wants the abortions and STD infections to keep on going, keeping the agenda well-funded.

I personally would not get laid in my parents’ house, especially if my spouse and I had our own to live in and do that anyways. Why some parent should just not worry about why some unmarried kid does some things in one’s house is a little beyond me, but what is not beyond me is the fact that they aren’t a functional family not to care about it.


84 posted on 08/01/2011 10:58:24 AM PDT by Morpheus2009
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To: Albion Wilde

I wish my sister and her husband, when they first married, had heeded that advice. Her bedroom was next to mine and they stayed in our parents’ home when visiting. It got so loud at times.


85 posted on 08/02/2011 10:53:03 AM PDT by TheDingoAteMyBaby
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To: blueunicorn6

Hah! But then again, there’s music’s “Dead at 27” crowd, recently joined by Amy Winehouse.


86 posted on 08/06/2011 9:20:01 PM PDT by TheDingoAteMyBaby
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