Skip to comments.Marriage is for Losers
Posted on 04/26/2012 7:15:21 AM PDT by the_devils_advocate_666
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Glad I read the whole story before I said anything stupid. I don’t always do you know ;)
Now the Spirit speaks expressly, that in the latter times some shall depart from the faith, giving heed to seducing spirits, and doctrines of devils; speaking lies in hypocrisy; having their conscience seared with a hot iron; forbidding to marry, and commanding to abstain from meats, which God has created to be received with thanksgiving of them which believe and know the truth. 1 Timothy 4:1-3.
30 years this August for this pair of losers.
Awesome! Just hit 20 years myself.
Fifty years next year for my bride and me. It has not always been easy but our love for each other has endured. So far.
Tonight, I thought my husband was acting weird. We had made plans to meet at a nice restaurant for dinner.
I was shopping with my friends all day long, so I thought he was upset at the fact that I was a bit late, but he made no comment on it.
Conversation wasn't flowing, so I suggested that we go somewhere quiet so we could talk. He agreed, but he didn't say much.
I asked him what was wrong; He said, 'Nothing..' I asked him if it was my fault that he was upset He said he wasn't upset, that it had nothing to do with me, and not to worry about it.
On the way home, I told him that I loved him. He smiled slightly, and kept driving. I can't explain his behaviour. I don't know why he didn't say, 'I love you, too.'
When we got home, I felt as if I had lost him completely, as if he wanted nothing to do with me anymore.
He just sat there quietly, and watched TV. He continued to seem distant and absent. Finally, with silence all around us, I decided to go to bed. About 15 minutes later, he came to bed.
But I still felt that he was distracted, and his thoughts were somewhere else. He fell asleep; I cried. I don't know what to do. I'm almost sure that his thoughts are with someone else. My life is a disaster.
A five putt ...how in hell can someone FIVE PUTT?
Oh if only this were true. They usually continue warring AFTER the marriage is dissolved even MORE fervently. The children know this and play it for all it's worth (shameless self promotion alert: read my book "The Guilty Parent Trap" downloadable on Amazon.com)
My marriage lasted 32 years until my better half succumbed to breast cancer. Although I quibble with the word choice “losers,” the observations and philosophy of this article seem spot on.
Thanks for posting this.
49 years in June for my wife and myself.
Finest woman I ever met.
Wouldn’t trade her for anything.
One of those housewives that Obama’s lesbian friend Hillary Rosen see’s no worth in.
The best half and I celebrate 21 years tomorrow. Wish I had time right now to read the whole article, apparently there is much more to it than the attention-grabbing title.
Oh damn that’s funny.
Been there done that.
24 years and counting.
Calling married people LOSERS, is right out of the Soviet Playbook, where they tried to de-emphasize the family, replacing it, instead, with the State.
Are you a COMMUNIST???? For having POSTED THIS, you must be a COMMUNIST!!!1!!!1!!!
It seems the Obama administration is full of lesbians. Wonder why that is? Must that most lesbians are Marxists. Just my unqualified guess.
28 plus years for us. I can’t think of too many serious issues that have arisen over the years, but then again, I am a great guy! /s
For the most part, if we have a difference of opinion I relent. When I don’t, she knows I’m serious and so I usually get my way on that one.
You might want to read the article before ranting on the attention getting headline.
No, I think not. After all, it was I who first coined the tagline, "Proudly Posting Before Reading The Article Since 1999".
No, I'd much rather rant, then read.
::::grinning and waiting:::::
gonna be good
Thank you for sharing. Several good lessons in there.
I tell young people these three things if they are contemplating marrying someone:
1. If you have no recollection of your fiance ever sincerely apologizing for anything, EVER - RUN, don’t walk from that person. They will blame you for everything that goes wrong in their life.
2. If you are marrying someone because you want them to make you happy and you believe they will, you will be sorely disappointed. If you are a woman you will probably divorce him. If you are a man, you will probably have an affair or three. Either way, you are going in for the completely wrong reason.
3. If you are marrying this person because you want to do everything you can to make them happy, you have a fighting chance, especially if they feel the same way.
I prefer 'surrendering to self.' When I manage to do that, all of my relationships, God, wife, children, are much better, and I, as a result, am much happier. That being the case, why is it still so darn hard? I'm sorry for your loss.
10 years next month for us.
LOL!!! 15 years for us, our second, I lost my first after 14 years to cancer....
Now, if I can just get you to stop posting anti-marriage screeds, like the one above that I haven't quite gotten around to reading yet... well then, you will be 100% okay.
Yeah, funny how that doesn’t include assorted “except under these conditions” and “unless you’re part of this occupation” and “but not on Fridays” exemptions.
I always liked ‘the door test’ from “A Bronx Tale”.
No Sale. ;^)
My former wife decided that she’s rather ‘win’ after 27 years. So that’s over with.
My GF passed “The Door Test.” We’ve been together 2 years and it’s been great!
The products of me and my loser are wondering why I am gasping for breath right now.......
32 years in January of 2013. He has been on a trip for a week, and I will be picking him up in a little while from the airport. I have missed him immensely.
What an utter load of cr@p. This is one reason why I’ll never darken the door of a “marriage” therapist.
I think your approach is a good one.
For me, I simply keep in mind how fallible I am. I don’t have any problem doing that, because I screw up stuff so often that when something is wrong, the first suspect in my own mind is ME!
My wife and I just celebrated our 23rd Anniversary last weekend. We went out to dinner in the middle of a stretch where I worked 43 hours without sleep, and had to take a couple of hours to go out for our anniversary dinner. I literally stopped working 10 min before we left, changed into good clothes, and when we came home, I went right back to work. I was in the middle of a deadline and had to fire the only person who could have helped me just as the meat of the project hit...the work still had to get done somehow.
Thing was, my wife understood completely. She didn’t harass me, admonish me, pester me, nag me, sulk or anything like that.
She did everything in her power to help ME get through it. Unselfishly.
How I love that woman. I am blessed.
That was excellent. I always wondered how that got in the script because it was a standard practice I learned from high school friends in the 60's.
Had to look up “the door test”. Waddya know. I passed it all those years ago! 34 years this October.
I always did the .45 caliber slug to the temple test.
I’d shoot myself with a .45 in the temple, and if she called 911, she was a keeper.
I’m willing to bet a large chunk of Obama bucks that this guy’s wife, in her heart of hearts, believes she has lost approximately 0 arguments.
A woman goes to see her priest/rabbi/marriage counselor and says; “I hate my suband. He’s mean, nasty and abusive. I’m going to divorce him.”
The priest/rabbi/marriage counselor says; “Well go ahead. But first.. do something that will make his life miserable.” She is eager to do that so she takes his advice;
“Cook for him, clean for him, have relations on demand if he wants it. Do everything to please him and make him happy for one month with no arguing or complaining. Then leave him. And that way, he will be even more miserable when you’ge gone and he’ll realize what a fool he was for mistreating you. Trust me.. he will suffer even more if you do this.”
So she takes his advice and leaves. 3 months later the priest/rabbi/marriage counselor runs into the woman on the street and asks how her divorce is going?
“Divorce??”; exclaims the woman; “What divorce? Why would I divorce the sweetest, most wonderful and caring husband in the world? He is truly a gentleman and I’m more in love with him than ever.”
So. How do you suppose that happened?
36 years this year for another pair of losers over here. :)
“Although I quibble with the word choice ‘losers,’ the observations and philosophy of this article seem spot on.”
I agree, “Sweet Surrender” would have been much better. I love that song by John Denver - it is indescribably liberating.
Or maybe “Mutual Surrender”.
LOL! Explains a LOT of your posts, Laz!
That’s wonderful! Next week is our 26th anniversary.
I have have many ask how we remained married so long. (Or as I put it, she put up with me this long.) My simple answer refers to our first rule we discussed before marriage: Divorce is not an option. It is amazing how well you can work things out when you realize that there is no running away. Of course, we had a 2+ year engagement and kissed for the first time at the altar, so we might be even bigger losers.
My parents had a wonderful marriage of each losing to the other for life. They were in love all 69 1/2 years of their marriage. I was always in awe of their wonderful love for one another and how it always triumphed over adversity of every kind.
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