Why men are withdrawing from courtship.

Dalrock ^ | Dalrock

[ansel12]

Defining “bad boys” as cheating husbands isn’t even the ball park of what people mean when they bring up the term, and it is useless to confuse or mix them, just as “nerd” doesn’t mean, a husband who doesn’t cheat.

[Rides_A_Red_Horse]

Never did the tats thing. Considered it but decided to wait a year to see if I still wanted the same design. Never did.

Never even considered face or neck tats. Yuck!

[kcvl]

Why buy the milk when they can get it for free?!

Have you heard the mouths on these women lately? I would be embarrassed to take them anywhere in public.

[Rides_A_Red_Horse]

There’s nothing wrong with riding a motorcycle, shaving your head, and wearing leather. :-) By the term “bad boy,” I mean a man who chases other women and cheats on his faithful wife.

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Generally, I’ve heard the term “bad boy” meaning someone who is rough, wild and a bit lawless. “Bad boys” tend to be fighters.

I’ve known wimpy, cowardly scumbags who cheat on their wives/girlfriends but would never be called “bad.”

[Tired of Taxes]

I just checked - Two-year-old is safe. Suspect is in custody. Mother has died. :-(

[dfwgator]

I meant “bad boy” more along the lines of somebody that they really don’t want to marry, but gets them excited in bed.

[ansel12]

You can generally tell the criminal bikers the same way you can tell a sheep dog from a wolf.

Well said, and so apt.

[Tired of Taxes]

just as “nerd” doesn’t mean, a husband who doesn’t cheat.

Yeah, I found that out the hard way. (lol)

[GeronL]

defining “bad boys” as good is a bastardization of the language

[Organic Panic]

It is pretty simple really. When the PITA factor is greater than the good times men will do less. I am unmarried and love it. I date a lot. A man in today’s liberal political climate would be insane to marry. Too many think it is all about love. It ain’t, it is a small mundane business and after the honeymoon is over this reality will set in. And as the man your ass is the one on the line if the business fails. Plus, show me a woman who can cook. After countless dates I have yet to find an American gal who can manage anything more complicated than opening a jar of pasta sauce.

[Tired of Taxes]

I’ve known wimpy, cowardly scumbags who cheat on their wives/girlfriends but would never be called “bad.”

OK. Very good point.

[GeronL]

sad

[ansel12]

You have to start reading our posts before you post nonsense.

Did you read my post 191 to you?

[Nepeta]

It sounds like you share the same skills as my sister (3X divorced) in choosing a husband.

Perhaps some introspective reflection might help.

Unlike your sister, I made only one major mistake, and I learned from it.

Perhaps some observation would help. Look around at the couples you know. Review the stories you know about the things people (men and women--I have no illusions that women are blameless) do to each other making lives miserable, unproductive, and empty.

Men are fine, just not in my personal life.

[GeronL]

You have to start reading our posts before you post nonsense

Well, I promise not to repost the nonsense others write then.

[GeronL]

It does seem to bother some that they often do well with women

Because they get a lot of stupid women to sleep with them, they are man whores is "doing well"? Those women who work in brothels and stand on street corners are "doing well" with men?

Your definition of "do well" with women is very perverted. Hugh Hefner would approve.

My definition of doing well with women is to find a good one and settle down with her for life.

[knak]

I haven't heard a single word of domestic complaint about the project spread out over the entire kitchen that is taking longer than I expected. I agree! Being a widow, I have found I do many projects that my husband used to take care of. Many women think I am "really handy." It comes from necessity and not having the funds to pay for labor. My projects can go quickly or as long slowly as I will allow them to drag on. As for dating, I am almost 50 and have dated a couple of men since my husband passed 9 years ago. By the way, FReepers were very helpful to me at that time. Anyway, because I am independent, own my own home, and can take of it, I feel like that intimidates some men and dating becomes slow and boring. I think I must put out some sort of "I do not really NEED a man" vibe; even if I really would enjoy one.

[JRandomFreeper]

I also own my own home outright and will not consider moving. I was born on this property, and I expect I will die on this property. It limits interest since it's a one-bedroom shotgun shack that is decorated in early man-cave. ;)

I enjoy being alone. Up until 10 years ago, I always had someone living with me. Alone and quiet is something I cherish these days. No television, no radio, just me and the catz, and they don't talk much.

/johnny

[knak]

Well I have 4 dogs and 2 cats, so my house is a bit rowdy sometimes. That may also chase away a perspective "date", but I don't care. They keep me company and offer me unconditional love when I come through the door every day.
I also wouldn't want to move as I hate being in neighborhoods and enjoy my land. It has been nice having control of the remote, cooking whatever and whenever I want, and doing whatever I please. Having said that, I am forgetting how nice it was when I was married.

[Nepeta]

After reading your post, my guess is that you don't have to work very hard at that, that man that married you and is gone now, is probably it.

Fantasize on.

Some men are uncomfortable with the fact that not every unattached woman is secretly pining away for male companionship, ANY male companionship, knowing their lives are Pointless and Empty without a man to take care of them, blah, blah.

Well, it's true, and such women need not be bitter harpies or hideous Helen Thomases. I'm the middle aged woman who always dresses nicely, like a woman, wears makeup but not to excess, always has clean hair becomingly worn, and is a good team player, with no crazy mood swings (because my life isn't fraught with nuttiness in my personal zone)and a willingness to make everything work together on the job. I can talk about all kinds of stuff, and I treat everybody politely, whether they're a supervisor or the guy who dumps my office trash. You will never hear a vulgarity or racist slur come out of my mouth.

I'm just not looking to introduce craziness into my personal life.