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The 10 Most Dangerous Mistakes YOU Probably Make With Womenó And What To Do About It...
tipsformen ^ | 12/04 | staff

Posted on 02/28/2005 8:24:39 AM PST by pissant

MISTAKE #1: Being Too Much Of A "Nice Guy"

Have you ever noticed that the really attractive women never seem to be attracted to "nice" guys?

Of course you have.

Just like me, I'm sure you've had attractive female friends that always seemed to date "jerks"... but for some reason they were never romantically interested in YOU.

What's going on here?

It's actually very simple...

Women don't base their choices of men on how "nice" a guy is. They choose the men they do because they feel a powerful GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION for them.

And guess what?

Being nice doesn't make a woman FEEL that powerful ATTRACTION.

And being NICE doesn't make a woman CHOOSE you.

I realize that this doesn't make a lot of logical sense, and it's hard to ACCEPT... but GET OVER IT.

Until you accept this FACT and begin to act on it, you'll NEVER have the success with women that you want.

MISTAKE #2: Trying To "Convince Her To Like You"

What do most guys do when they meet a woman that they REALLY like... but she's just not interested?

Right! They try to "convince" the woman to feel differently.


Never, ever, EVER.

You cannot CONVINCE a woman to feel differently about you with "logic and reasoning".

Think about it.

If a woman doesn't "feel it" for you, how in the world do you expect to change that FEELING by being "reasonable" with her?

But we all do it.

When a woman just isn't interested, we beg, plead, chase, and do our best to change her mind.

Bad idea. One that will never work.

MISTAKE #3: Looking To Her For Approval Or Permission

In our desire to please women (which we mistakenly think will make them like us), us guys are always doing things to get a woman's "approval" or "permission".

Another HORRIBLE idea.

Women are NEVER attracted to the types of men who kiss up to them... EVER.

Don't get me wrong here.

You don't have to treat women BADLY for them to like you.

But if you think that treating a woman well means "always getting her approval and permission for things", think again.

You will never succeed by looking for approval. Women actually get ANNOYED at men who seek their approval.

Doubt me? Just ask any attractive woman if Wussy guys who chase her around and want her approval annoy her...

MISTAKE #4: Trying To "Buy" Her Affection With Food And Gifts

How many times have you taken a woman out to a nice dinner, bought her gifts and flowers, and had her REJECT you for someone who didn't treat her even HALF as well as you did?

If you're like me, then you've had it happen a LOT.

Well guess what?

It's only NATURAL when this happens...

That's right, I said NATURAL.

When you do these things, you send a clear message:

"I don't think you'll like me for who I am, so I'm going to try to buy your attention and affection".

Your good intentions usually come across to women as over-compensation for insecurity, and weak attempts at manipulation. That's right, I said that women see this as MANIPULATION.

MISTAKE #5: Sharing "How You Feel" Too Early In The Relationship With Her

Another huge and unfortunate mistake that most men make with women is sharing how they "feel" too early on.

Attractive women are rare.

And they get a LOT of attention from men.

Most men don't realize this, but attractive women are being approached in one way or another ALL THE TIME

An attractive woman is often approached several times a DAY by men who are interested. This translate into dozens of times per week, and often HUNDREDS of times per month.

And guess what?

Attractive women have usually dated a LOT of men.

That's right. They have EXPERIENCE.

They know what to expect.

And one thing that turns an attractive women off and sends her running away faster than just about anything is a guy who starts saying "You know, I really, REALLY like you" after one or two dates.

This signals to the woman that you're just like all the other guys who fall for her too fast... and can't control themselves.

Don't do it. Lean back. Relax.

There's a much better way...

MISTAKE #6: Not "Getting" How Attraction Works For Women

Women are VERY different from men when it comes to ATTRACTION.

You need to accept this fact, and deal with it.

When a man sees a beautiful, young, sexy woman, he INSTANTLY feels a sexual attraction.

But does the same apply for women?

Do women feel sexual attraction to men based mostly on looks? Or is something else going on?

Well, after studying this topic for over five full years now, I can tell you that women usually have their "attraction mechanisms" triggered by things OTHER than looks.

Have you ever noticed that you see a lot more average and unattractive men with beautiful women than the other way around?

Think about it.

Women are more attracted to certain qualities in men... and they're attracted to the way a man makes them FEEL than they are to looks alone.

If you know how to use your body language and communication correctly, you can make women feel the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to you that YOU feel when you see a hot, sexy young woman.

But it's not an accident. You have to LEARN how to do this.

And ANY guy can learn how...

MISTAKE #7: Thinking That It Takes Money And Looks

One of the most common mistakes that guys make is giving up before they've even gotten started... because they think that attractive women are only interested in men who have looks and money... or guys who are a certain height... or guys who are a certain age.

And sure, there are some women who are only interested in these things.

But MOST women are far more interested in a man's personality than his wallet or his looks.

There are personality traits that attract women like a magnet...

And if you learn what they are and how to use them, YOU can be one of these guys.

YOU DO NOT have to "settle" for a woman just because you aren't rich, tall, or handsome.

Let me say this again: If you know how to use your body language and communication correctly, you can make women feel the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to you that YOU feel when you see a hot, sexy young woman.

MISTAKE #8: Giving Away All Of Your Power To Women

Earlier I mentioned that it's a mistake to look to a woman for approval or permission.

Well, another similar tactic that a lot of guys use is GIVING AWAY THEIR POWER to women.

Said differently, guys try to get women to like them by doing whatever the woman wants.

Another bad idea...

Women are NEVER attracted to men that they can walk all over... Women aren't attracted to Wussies!

MISTAKE #9: Not Knowing EXACTLY What To Do In Each Type Of Situation With Women

Now I'm going to blow your mind...

A woman ALWAYS knows what you're thinking.

Women are approximately TEN TIMES better than men at reading body language. That's ten TIMES.

I know, it might be hard to believe. But for example, if you're out on a date with a woman, and you want to kiss her, she knows it.

And if you don't know exactly what to do and exactly HOW to kiss her, and you just sit there looking at her and getting nervous, she won't help!

And this goes for ALL aspects of women and dating...

Approaching a woman, getting her number, asking her out, kissing her, getting physical... everything.

If you don't know what to do in each situation, you will probably screw it up... and LOSE EVERYTHING.

And you KNOW it.

It is VITALLY important that you know EXACTLY how to go from one step to the next with a woman... from the first meeting, all the way to the bedroom.

MISTAKE #10: Not Getting HELP

This is the biggest mistake of all.

This is the mistake that keeps most men from EVER having the kind of success with women that they truly want.

I know, guys don't like to make themselves look weak or helpless. We don't like to ask for help.

Hey, I've been there myself.

Let me tell you a little about me and how I figured out how to be successful with women...

About five years ago I became fed up with the fact that I didn't know how to approach, meet, and get dates with women that I was attracted to.

It frustrated the hell out of me.

One night I was out with a friend, and I saw a woman I wanted to ask out, but I just couldn't get up the nerve to do it. I can still remember that night... right on the spot I made the decision to do whatever it took to learn how to be successful with women and dating.

Well, after a lot of hard work and trying all kinds of crazy things, I finally figured it all out.

I can now approach just about any woman and get her number almost instantly. I've dated models, I've dated actresses, and I've dated nice, normal, regular girls as well.

It has been a very rewarding experience. I no longer feel that sick, insecure feeling... like I don't know how to meet women... and I might wind up alone.

I know that anytime, anywhere, I can go out and meet attractive women.

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To: pissant

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241 posted on 02/28/2005 7:54:25 PM PST by knews_hound (Out of the NIC ,into the Router, out to the Cloud....Nothing but 'Net)
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To: All
There are tons of perfectly nice guys who have attracted perfectly nice women. They tend to form happy marriages that last a long time.

I am personally acquainted with many such couples.

242 posted on 02/28/2005 7:57:11 PM PST by JCEccles (If Jimmy Carter were a country, he'd be Canada.)
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To: pissant

I'm 100% skeptic on this subject, actually.

I've given up dating altogether. Sincerely, there's no one out there for me.

After traveling 2200 miles all the way to Colombia to visit her, spending time, money and devotion to her (I even tried to have her come to the United States, but fell through since she was denied her visa in Bogotá), after giving me hopes for a relationship, then, midway through my trip, she tells me that she doesn't feel anything more than "appreciation", and that she's not attracted to me.

After breaking my heart like that, I say "to hell with dating!!!"

I really loved her, but it wasn't enough.

And I'm not about to change my ways. I'm a nice guy by nature and education. I was taught not to treat women like objects, and that they deserve the utmost respect.

So, I've come to the decision to just forget about dating at all. It's just a waste of time.

Why, you may ask???

Because I don't want to be hurt anymore. She bled my heart dry, and there's not much love left for a significant other.

This Spanish phrase summarizes it: "Más vale solo que mal acompañado" (or "better alone than in bad company")

243 posted on 02/28/2005 8:18:23 PM PST by El Conservador ("No blood for oil!"... Then don't drive, you moron!!!)
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To: El Conservador

You're almost as scary as Laz.
Good thing you gave up.

244 posted on 02/28/2005 8:23:30 PM PST by ValerieUSA
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To: pissant
I accidentally found one great way to meet nice women in a situation that puts them at ease and makes them usually like you.
I simply bought this tiny furry dog as a pet. I wasn't thinking "women" when I got this runt, but let me tell you, this dog has women running over to talk with me in numbers every time I am out with him. They are usually very nice people being animal lovers.

Little dogs are "Chick Magnets", bookmark that.
245 posted on 02/28/2005 8:42:08 PM PST by A CA Guy (God Bless America, God bless and keep safe our fighting men and women.)
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To: fishing1; pissant
Please! Here's the short version. It works.

Here's another short version:

Do what you say, and say what you do...... and pray that you were raised well in the first place.

246 posted on 02/28/2005 11:04:43 PM PST by beyond the sea (Barbara Boxer is Barbra Streisand on peyote .....)
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To: cyborg
I don't think I'll figure out why some guys feel insulted by being called nice.

It isn't an insult, but it means that you mave been moved permanently to the "just a friend" category and there's no road back. ;)

247 posted on 03/01/2005 6:35:42 AM PST by Mr. Jeeves
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To: Mr. Jeeves

Well I guess if that's what guys experience I can't criticize. It happens to women too.

248 posted on 03/01/2005 6:39:08 AM PST by cyborg (
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To: Mr. Jeeves

They are all wimps.

249 posted on 03/01/2005 6:41:21 AM PST by DarthVader (John "Diarrhea of the Mouth" Kerry = Vile Smelling Excrement)
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To: Ignatius J Reilly

You sir are a man!

250 posted on 03/01/2005 6:42:34 AM PST by DarthVader (John "Diarrhea of the Mouth" Kerry = Vile Smelling Excrement)
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To: pissant

If only I had known this when I was younger. (But then again I never would have met my wife, so all's well that ends well)

251 posted on 03/01/2005 6:46:43 AM PST by dfwgator (It's sad that the news media treats Michael Jackson better than our military.)
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To: cyborg

Men can be both tender and tough. If they are men's men. You can call it class. You can be cultured, gracious, intelligent and be a tough guy too provide that you are balanced and well rounded.

252 posted on 03/01/2005 6:47:01 AM PST by DarthVader (John "Diarrhea of the Mouth" Kerry = Vile Smelling Excrement)
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To: HitmanNY

Down here in Washington DC alot of women are attracted to wimps and many of them are liberals. Strong masculine, conservative and moral types intimidate them because we do not share their naive-laissez faire attitude.

253 posted on 03/01/2005 6:53:24 AM PST by DarthVader (John "Diarrhea of the Mouth" Kerry = Vile Smelling Excrement)
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To: A CA Guy

Little dogs are not chick magnets, they are poofer magnets (could serve you well in cali though). Big dogs are chick magnets.

254 posted on 03/01/2005 7:29:07 AM PST by pissant
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To: DarthVader
Yep, that's not uncommon, as that's their conscious response.

The subconscious instinct is towards what I said, however, and will manifest sooner or later.
255 posted on 03/01/2005 8:49:16 AM PST by HitmanLV
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To: HitmanNY

You are right about that. :-) I have dumped the liberal on more than one ocassion when they come back. You can call it the "Boomerang Effect".

256 posted on 03/01/2005 8:57:03 AM PST by DarthVader (John "Diarrhea of the Mouth" Kerry = Vile Smelling Excrement)
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To: DarthVader

Yea - women instinctively know what is appealing and any woman who goes to any length to deny that instinct will sooner or later end up having it well inside of her and burst.

257 posted on 03/01/2005 8:59:26 AM PST by HitmanLV
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To: HitmanNY

Feminism and liberalism is their undoing. Many are like Scarlett O'Hara.

258 posted on 03/01/2005 9:07:54 AM PST by DarthVader (John "Diarrhea of the Mouth" Kerry = Vile Smelling Excrement)
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To: pissant

Man oh man are you off.

I've had a beautiful golden lab and Germain retrievers among others before,and that only brought over the tattooed and more hardened ladies dog now and then.
Women mostly fear bigger unknown dogs.

The little dogs (I think) must bring out the motherly instincts and attract nice ladies also.

Pretty much all dogs are dogs, if you NEED protection, get the big dog and have a shovel handy.
Small dogs bark equally well for you, but I don't need protection or a shovel with a little one.

I only got this pet because I saw how intelligent it was. It was kind of expensive I thought, but for the years of fun, so what?
To my surprise, the puppies for this dog now go for $1800 each...YIKES.

I live by a local college and when I walk the little fella by the campus, he has us in contact with as many as thirty different women over the walk each time.

I go to a park, beach, and the women come running to chat and I never had that happen with other dogs.

No doubt, furry tiny dogs are total chick magnets.

I've made some very nice contacts and had good dates from such contacts.

259 posted on 03/01/2005 10:08:27 AM PST by A CA Guy (God Bless America, God bless and keep safe our fighting men and women.)
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To: cyborg
I've been watching "The Bachelorette" on TV this season, and it's pretty comical seeing some of the stupid things guys will do to get the girl's attention.

Yeah but look at the kind of woman they're fighting over.

I agree. She certainly does make a more pleasant bride than someone like Maureen Dowd.

260 posted on 03/01/2005 12:54:05 PM PST by shekkian
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