Posted on 05/19/2005 6:41:02 PM PDT by pissant
"Nurse Nasty," "Wicked Doctor," "The Prison Matron" … not the usual way to introduce yourself, but in the leather-clad world of sadomasochism, naughty is nice.
And pain is pleasure.
"I need stimulation and get a terrific high from playing rough," said Allena Gabosch, 52, a Seattle-based "bottom," meaning she's the one on the receiving end of spanking. The buxom, tattooed, alternative sex activist finds pain play very seductive but, "I still ask for Novocain at the dentist's office."
While most couples don't need whips, paddles or ropes to get in the mood, a minority find sadomasochism, or S&M, erotic. They like to explore the fine line between pain and pleasure to escape from reality, test their endurance, experience a spiritual high or simply to act out fantasies and fears.
The pain can be real, but the goal isn't injury or broken bones. And despite the early belief that smacks in the sack led to mental illness, psychologists say that S&M practitioners are just as well-adjusted as the average person.
Slap Me for Pleasure
Sex or lovemaking is about feeling good, so what feels good about pain?
"People clearly want fictionalized pain for attention and symbolic effect," said Roy Baumeister, professor of psychology at Florida State University and author of "Masochism and the Self." S&M helps people temporarily lose their normal identity and focus on the flashes of pain, he said.
Baumeister described S&M pain as separated from its biological function. "It's no longer about warning you of injury, it's about escaping yourself."
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...and spanks for the memories.
The film society I was a member of had included this little number in the annual festival and had hyped it up to the max. It screened at 11pm on a Friday and that was the only screening approved by the chief censor, as I recall.
I had to flash my membership card at the door on the way in - everyone agreed I looked more than the strictly "21 or over" and I took my seat. There wasn't an empty seat in the whole place!
Anyway, this Japanese/French co-production started at the end and centred around a Japanese woman at the very end of WWII who was found in a trance like state walking around the streets with her lover's member in her hand - the lover unattached.
The film then went back and told the story of how they took each other to the limit with strangling, choking - which is how he died and inventive applications with boiled eggs.
I got home after seeing this and was proud to consider myself remarkably unexciting... a boast I've maintained thru to this day.
...rather into, so to speak, gynecology tho'.
Yes. Being Bobbitized has little appeal for most men.
lol
You cunning lin..... Nevermind.
BECAUSE SHE SMELLS LIKE A NEW TRUCK !!!
Or if you are gay, a new BMW
So? You got a problem with that?
,,, I'll take the truck, even if it's sideways... I'll take the truck.
They sell trucks in New Zealand?
,,, Dodge Rams start around $NZ70k and I've seen them up to $NZ125k.
Bout time you got here missy!
My ping list was at home and I've been working crazy late this week! Sucks as an excuse, but the overtime is nice.
Gee, musta been one of those freudian thingamajigs...
And, much like last nites thread, with you and Xena here, its' liable to find its way to the SBR. ;o)
Have fun.
Crap. I thought you had only rikshaws down there!
Predictable man... I guess you have been TYPE CAST!!!
Arioch7 out.
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