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Me | 22 Nov 2005 | Me

Posted on 11/22/2005 8:37:58 AM PST by sparkomatic

My daughter is a sophomore in HS. A couple of nights ago I went to the school for a parent/coach meeting. Since I got there a few minutes early, I stepped into the gym to watch a few minutes of practice.
The coach told me to leave because it's a "closed practice".
I said, "you mean I can't watch?"
He said, "No."
I left but I didn't like it.
As soon as the meeting started I told him what I thought. I explained that it's my kid. My school since I pay taxes. I'm not going to coach from the side lines, etc. He says it's his policy to close practices. He gave a bunch of reasons, but flimsy ones.
I got a call just now from the athletic director. He wants a meeting with me. I suspect he perceives me as a threat. I don't know why. My daughter has been at the school for 2 years now and has played volley ball, ran track and now basketball. I have never caused a problem.

What do you think?


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1 posted on 11/22/2005 8:37:58 AM PST by sparkomatic
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To: sparkomatic

Rent the movie "Hoosiers"


2 posted on 11/22/2005 8:39:33 AM PST by Jimmy Valentine's brother ( We need a few more Marines like Lt. Gen. James Mattis)
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To: sparkomatic

It's your kid, your tax money, and his team. Deal.


3 posted on 11/22/2005 8:40:22 AM PST by 1rudeboy
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To: Jimmy Valentine's brother

Get a lawyer.


4 posted on 11/22/2005 8:41:09 AM PST by massgopguy (massgopguy)
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To: sparkomatic

Home School


5 posted on 11/22/2005 8:41:17 AM PST by TexasTransplant (NEMO ME IMPUNE LACESSET)
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To: sparkomatic
Did you get irate or anything as you left? If not, I see no reason why you should be getting calls from the athletic director. That's ridiculous.

As for closed practice, it's coach rules. I can see how parents would be a distraction that might disrupt team play. The kid starts playing for the parent or looking to the parent for direction instead of the coach. It's a psychological thing, I guess.
6 posted on 11/22/2005 8:41:32 AM PST by mysterio
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To: massgopguy

Get a jump shot.


7 posted on 11/22/2005 8:41:37 AM PST by YouPosting2Me
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To: sparkomatic

Speaking both as a player and as a parent of a player, my advice is to accept it as a matter of team concentration. They don't see you as a pedophile or anything like that, they just would like the team to be able to practice without any need to look over their shoulders.

There is also the matter of parents trying to second-guess the coach at every turn, why isn't my kid playing as much, let me show you a play my boy & I worked out over the weekend, that sort of thing.

Ask if they will have another practice when parents can watch, I think they'll accomodate you at some point.


8 posted on 11/22/2005 8:42:29 AM PST by jiggyboy (Ten percent of poll respondents are either lying or insane)
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To: sparkomatic

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9 posted on 11/22/2005 8:42:39 AM PST by Coop (FR = a lotta talk, but little action)
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To: sparkomatic

If you trust the coach I say let them have their closed practice. My son plays basketball, and I know how hard it is to get high school kids to be focused.


10 posted on 11/22/2005 8:42:55 AM PST by Ted
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To: sparkomatic

Closed practices can help build teamwork and improve group performance by excluding outside distractions. I say give the coach a break.


11 posted on 11/22/2005 8:43:09 AM PST by martin_fierro (< |:)~)
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To: sparkomatic
My school since I pay taxes

Does that mean you get to go in the girl's bathroom?

I think you should let the coach do his job without parental interference.

12 posted on 11/22/2005 8:43:36 AM PST by Zevonismymuse
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To: sparkomatic

My take - a dad with a daughter now playing div I sports in the Big East - when coach says leave, leave. It's his team, his practice, and you have no role to play.


13 posted on 11/22/2005 8:43:58 AM PST by dmz
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To: mysterio

I did get a little irate, but not in front of the kids. I have never attempted to coach my kid. I've never been to a basketball practice until that one day. I have observed many of her volleyball practices without incident.


14 posted on 11/22/2005 8:44:21 AM PST by sparkomatic (I can do all things through Christ which strengthens me. Phil 4:13)
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To: sparkomatic

I agree. I pay taxes to for these schools, so why can't I be in the high school girl's locker room with a camera?


15 posted on 11/22/2005 8:44:34 AM PST by LdSentinal
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To: sparkomatic

As a former part-time coach:

1. Sometimes the coach needs to be the complete boss. Parents interfere.

2. Kids act/play different when parent is present (usually not as well from nervousness to show-boating).

3. Make an exception for you, then all parents get to come.

4. You could be a spy, child molester, freak show, or just someone looking over the should distracting the coach.


16 posted on 11/22/2005 8:45:41 AM PST by MeanWestTexan (Many at FR would respond to Christ "Darn right, I'll cast the first stone!")
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To: sparkomatic

You apparently have never played on a organized school team sport.
"Closed practices" mean "closed practices."
Now if you want to change the rules then I suggest you apply for the coach's job.
good luck... LOL


17 posted on 11/22/2005 8:45:59 AM PST by kellynla (U.S.M.C. 1st Battalion,5th Marine Regiment, 1st Marine Div. Viet Nam 69&70 Semper Fi)
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To: sparkomatic

A question or two come to mind... Is he doing something in practice he ought not be doing? (probably not because you probably would have heard about it by now), but more likely, Does he not trust the adults from spying for other teams (more likely)... Basketball shouldn't be such a big deal that you can't enjoy watching your daughter practice .... and a third is he might not want mom and dad coaching from the sidelines... hope the AD isn't a dork


18 posted on 11/22/2005 8:46:36 AM PST by InvisibleChurch (The search for someone to blame is always successful. - Robert Half)
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To: sparkomatic

Well, you've answered your own question. You got irate when you (with all due respect) were in the wrong. You became a "threat" at that moment.

Go to the games and root (positively) like hell.


19 posted on 11/22/2005 8:46:37 AM PST by dmz
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To: sparkomatic
Unacceptable. You have the right to watch your kid at practice.

As a coach of girls BB, the most difficult part is dealing with irate, irrational and overprotective parents. My guess is the coach has had some bad experiences.

I suggest a cordial sit down with the AD and the coach to understand the reasoning.

FWIIW, schu
20 posted on 11/22/2005 8:47:05 AM PST by schu
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