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Posted on 11/22/2005 8:37:58 AM PST by sparkomatic
My daughter is a sophomore in HS. A couple of nights ago I went to the school for a parent/coach meeting. Since I got there a few minutes early, I stepped into the gym to watch a few minutes of practice.
The coach told me to leave because it's a "closed practice".
I said, "you mean I can't watch?"
He said, "No."
I left but I didn't like it.
As soon as the meeting started I told him what I thought. I explained that it's my kid. My school since I pay taxes. I'm not going to coach from the side lines, etc. He says it's his policy to close practices. He gave a bunch of reasons, but flimsy ones.
I got a call just now from the athletic director. He wants a meeting with me. I suspect he perceives me as a threat. I don't know why. My daughter has been at the school for 2 years now and has played volley ball, ran track and now basketball. I have never caused a problem.
What do you think?
Rent the movie "Hoosiers"
It's your kid, your tax money, and his team. Deal.
Get a lawyer.
Get a jump shot.
Speaking both as a player and as a parent of a player, my advice is to accept it as a matter of team concentration. They don't see you as a pedophile or anything like that, they just would like the team to be able to practice without any need to look over their shoulders.
There is also the matter of parents trying to second-guess the coach at every turn, why isn't my kid playing as much, let me show you a play my boy & I worked out over the weekend, that sort of thing.
Ask if they will have another practice when parents can watch, I think they'll accomodate you at some point.
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If you trust the coach I say let them have their closed practice. My son plays basketball, and I know how hard it is to get high school kids to be focused.
Closed practices can help build teamwork and improve group performance by excluding outside distractions. I say give the coach a break.
Does that mean you get to go in the girl's bathroom?
I think you should let the coach do his job without parental interference.
My take - a dad with a daughter now playing div I sports in the Big East - when coach says leave, leave. It's his team, his practice, and you have no role to play.
I did get a little irate, but not in front of the kids. I have never attempted to coach my kid. I've never been to a basketball practice until that one day. I have observed many of her volleyball practices without incident.
I agree. I pay taxes to for these schools, so why can't I be in the high school girl's locker room with a camera?
As a former part-time coach:
1. Sometimes the coach needs to be the complete boss. Parents interfere.
2. Kids act/play different when parent is present (usually not as well from nervousness to show-boating).
3. Make an exception for you, then all parents get to come.
4. You could be a spy, child molester, freak show, or just someone looking over the should distracting the coach.
You apparently have never played on a organized school team sport.
"Closed practices" mean "closed practices."
Now if you want to change the rules then I suggest you apply for the coach's job.
good luck... LOL
A question or two come to mind... Is he doing something in practice he ought not be doing? (probably not because you probably would have heard about it by now), but more likely, Does he not trust the adults from spying for other teams (more likely)... Basketball shouldn't be such a big deal that you can't enjoy watching your daughter practice .... and a third is he might not want mom and dad coaching from the sidelines... hope the AD isn't a dork
Well, you've answered your own question. You got irate when you (with all due respect) were in the wrong. You became a "threat" at that moment.
Go to the games and root (positively) like hell.
Do you want whine with that?
As long as the coach is doing anything inappropriate, I would support a closed practice. Too many "little league" parents in kids sports these days. Make sure you child keeps you informed of what is going on in practice.
As answer to a different question. How would I be any more of a distraction than I would be at a game?
The point about practice is to NOT have distractions. You're having trouble letting go of this.
It's not rec council anymore, it's high school.
Wow, you took the time to write and tell us that you thought this thread was boring.
How noble of you.
Please feel free to ping all of us to your next gripping post.
I want to go to a military base and argue that since my tax dollars bought that there tank, I should get to test drive it.
It's a closed practice.
No outside distractions. And yes, you would be a distraction no matter how quietly you sat there and just watched.
Get over it.
2. Kids act/play different when parent is present (usually not as well from nervousness to show-boating). that may be but how is it any different from a game.
3. Make an exception for you, then all parents get to come. So?
4. You could be a spy, child molester, freak show, or just someone looking over the should distracting the coach. I could be any of those, but I'm known to be a parent. I go to most games for all the HS sports. The coach already has a printed list of rules. Not coaching from the side lines etc. is already listed as one of the don'ts. As long as I'm not causing a distraction I don't see a problem.
I'd like to point out one more thing. I'm asking you people these questions because I have a true desire to know if I'm in the wrong or if I have been slighted. For me I haven't decided, yet. I have defended my case as I see things. I may be wrong. Maybe I'm not. I'm listening to what you people have to say so I can form an educated opinion.
Also, to the one [explitive deleted] I'm not whining. I'm asking a question. You don't know me so don't attack me.
"Make an exception for you, then all parents get to come. So?"
OK, you say you had no intention to intrude or interfere, I'll take your word. But, many parents are just the opposite. If the coach allows you , he must allow all. Speaking from experience, many parents are disruptive. As an ex-coach and referee, it was the parents that drove me away. Loved teaching the kids, couldn't stand the parents. No offense.
"1. Sometimes the coach needs to be the complete boss. Parents interfere. I wasn't nor do I intend to."
That's nice. Just by being there, you interfere.
2. "Kids act/play different when parent is present (usually not as well from nervousness to show-boating). that may be but how is it any different from a game."
Practice is a time when new skills are practiced and the kids mess up. They are less inclined to do so with parents present.
"3.Make an exception for you, then all parents get to come. So?"
You may not be an interfering twit, but someone else will be.
Personally, the fact that you get your dander up by being kicked out is considerable evidence (to me) that you are exactly the kind of parent that does not belong at practice.
You are wrong. This must be your first child involved in HS sports. Go to the games, cheer for the team, bring oranges or Gatorade but do what the coach wants.
I would talk to the coach and athletic director and apologize for how you came off. Then ask how you can support the team.
As the parent of a former HS basketball player, my advice is to shut up and don't complain about anything, especially if she is not one of the stars of the team. Many coaches and ADs are petty and vindictive (although that may not be the case at your school). Also, don't complain to the AD or principal in confidence. The coach will probably find out.
"I got a call just now from the athletic director. He wants a meeting with me. I suspect he perceives me as a threat."
The AD doesn't sign your paycheck and doesn't pay your bills. Why would you care what he could have to say to you? I wouldn't go into the meeting with a hostile attitude, but I wouldn't let them browbeat me either.
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