Skip to comments.Freeper help: I'm in love with a liberal (vanity)
Posted on 05/27/2009 2:23:38 PM PDT by Karma Police
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Guys,, for my own mental health, i have to leave this thread now. Im damaged goods.
My experience is completely the opposite. Conservative chicks actually enjoy sex. (Under the appropriate conditions). Liberal chicks worry about how they look, what their girlfriends will say, what kind of orgasm they're having, etc.
You are asking for a life of pain pal, pure pain.
I don’t think it is proper for a mature man to marry a child. Every “adult” liberal I have known was nothing more than a bratty child in an adult’s body.
Can you really ‘love’ someone who has no problem with murdering your children in the womb?
That is an impossible comparison for you to gauge. Most conservative chicks don’t present themselves in random beds to make such a judgment, nor would you know many — being by your own admission, a slut.
I suggest to you that sex is not what you think it is, being as yours is super shallow.
Except now, if anyone asks if i ever paid for sex,,,,i just get a thousand yard stare and say, “yeah,,,i definitely paid for what i did with her”.
Is she mildly Liberal?
Or is she a mind-numbed robot..spouting the Socialist Liberal talking points?
Three volleys, and dump her overboard. She may have a big heart. But if she’s a liberal, she has no brains.
hmmm, sure it isn’t lust?
Try sitting on a wooden stool and nailing your testicles to the seat. It doesn’t hurt any more than divorce and it’s a lot cheaper.
Date. See what unfolds. Like anything just be honest with yourself, with her, and try to be present for the experience. As much as you can with all the hormones and love endorphins etc surging through your brain and body. We do not often (well most don't lol) fall in love everyday. Enjoy it.
The questions at this time? Normal. They will answer themselves over time if you do not avoid them and try to act as though they don't exist. Hopefully you both understand you can't and should not expect the other to change. You both may try to delude yourselves and skim over this part, but it is just that delusion. Enjoy life. It is short.
Don’t know how serious you are about her. But keep this in mind...marriage is more about shared values than shared interests.
LOL. This completely cracked me up.
I spent most of my young adult life dating liberal men. OUCH! When I first laid eyes on my conservative man (now husband), I knew. Truth is conservative men are better in every way in my opinion. I can see why she would be attracted to him. Liberal men. EWWW! LOL.
Instead of a bag over her head, use duct tape over her mouth
I have found this to be true in our marriage as well. We sink up both religiously and politically and we married late compared to others. Marriage is tough enough at times without those shared foundations that can really bring each other back together in times of distress or hardship that are inevitable.
I don’t believe either one of the Carvilles. They’re just Beltway insiders “playing the game”.
Amen to that. You can't trust them with anything because they have no core values.
Is this lady generous with her own money, or will she be generous with yours? Will her bleeding heart place demands on your time and money?
My thoughts exactly. It's easy to have a 'big heart' when it's not your money and when you refuse to get the kinds of jobs that pay decently because you don't want to be 'the man.' And how are you going to raise children? As US-hating libs? What's she going to do when you want to fly the flag on Memorial Day? Will she want to spit on soldiers?
I say leave her. Now.
About 10 years ago I dated a beautiful young immigrant from Brazil. I admired her spunk, intelligence, and ambition.We seemed like minded. I was considering asking her to marry me when, after her U.S. citizenship ceremony, she registered to vote and declared herself a Democrat. I was very disappointed with her, and I broke up with her soon afterwards. I never told her how disappointed I was that she declared as a Democrat. Maybe I should have. I thought that after all the time we spent talking about politics that I had influenced her to at least go Independent, but I was wrong.
I kept in touch with her. Last year she spent weeks volunteering for the Obama campaign.She peppered me and her other friends with Obama donation email requests. In January she excitedly attended the inauguration and sent pictures to me and everyone else in her email address book.Recently she announced that she plans to work on the campaign of the Democrat candidate for mayor of her town. His platform emphasizes tolerance for illegal immigrants and he supports amnesty for them.I feel as if she has joined a cult.
Reading your post and considering your question, I cannot help but consider how smart I was to walk away from that relationship, no matter how difficult it was at the time.
I live in New York City, and it is practically impossible to find women who are not Democrats. I will date them, but there is no way in hell I would marry one because I could not fully respect her or God forbid have children with her, and I know that over time I would come to resent her.
Take my advice and do not marry this woman unless she demonstrates the respect for personal freedom and individual responsibility that comes with being a conservative. In the long run I think you will be happy that you called it quits.
And now, you’re a moderate so you both shouldn’t have any trouble.
Excellent questions and A LOT of wisdom. May the OP take heed. Thanks for the post.
That would require a picture...
You say her heart is big--but you don't say if she actually gives of her time, talent, and treasure to help others...or if she just talks about the government filling that role.
Since liberalism is a mental disorder, I suggest you fast forward 25 years into the future (when she is less likely to be as gorgeous as she is today) and consider her mental health--and the mental health of your children.
Starting now, sit across the table from her every night for dinner without saying a word. Go ahead, just try it for a few nights. Then imagine every night of your life spending dinner with someone you cannot talk to.
I am a “don't ask, don't tell” conservative. In other words, I really didn't have a direction until Clinton did that don't ask don't tell thing. That was a wake up call for me. The military was my line in the sand. Then Rush came along...
Obviously it took more than that for my marriage to fall apart such as the daily captious verbal abuse and micro-controlling to the point where he took the starter out of my car so I couldn't go anywhere.
But the worst part was the silent treatment because I listened to Rush and learned new things every day that I wanted to share and my husband is a liberal, then, now, and it gets worse every day.
I know it hurts to walk away, but the only pain worse than that is the pain you will be in years hence when you finally realize this isn't going to work. Trust me, that pain is far worse, especially if there are children involved.
Ugh, I know. It can get ugly. I have had it out with my family members on abortion, gun control, Obama, gay marriage, etc. My brother and I deleted each other from FB so we could continue to love and respect each other. My conservative postings were ticking him off so much we could hardly speak. I am the lone conservative left in this generation of my family. Everyone else are left wingers. Thankfully my husband, mom and in-laws are conservative or I’d have no one left to talk to...
Liberal chicks are 100% better in bed than conservative chicks...
Uh, I think my husband of 25 years would beg to differ!
What does your wife think?
Climb to the top of a very tall building, or a very high bridge.
They’re not better in bed, they just put out easier.
Been there, done that. Think with the big head.
Maybe she’s just ignorant and you can educate her.
Call her stupid and see how she reacts.
Show her this thread.
Seriously that’s rough dude. I couldn’t deal with that unless maybe it she was a quiet Edith Bunker type and didn’t mind hearing every day how her favored party are a bunch of communists and also didn’t mind me taking her absentee ballot and filling it out for her.
You have to decide if you can handle sleeping with the enemy or not and how much you love her.
My uncles are conservative, at least one of my aunts is a dumb lib who voted for Gore/Kerry/Obama, but a nice lady. But my uncle doesn’t like being the only Republican in the house.
I have liberal relations in my family. The only difference between them and me are their politics. A lot of libs are sports fans like me. Heck, I'm a die hard White Sox fan and the team-owner had a big party for Obama when he won, while I joined the NRA for the first time. It isn't so simple.
Granted, it makes a lot of things better if a couple agree on their polictics. Like I said though, the heart rarely listens to reason. Love is blind, and all that...
Maybe, but the "make-up" sex will be worth it. :)
If you can’t break away from her, try asking her to explain her beliefs when they come up.
A woman can be fat as can be, kisses sweet as honey But that don't mean a thing to me If she ain't got no money If the purse is fat....that's where it's at.
I 100% disagree.
Agreed....and please be celebit with her until possible marriage or you will really be screwed, so to speak.
LOL...with the chocolate lab???
A very wise old-timer once confided, “son, if you marry for money, you’ll earn every penny”.
Think John Kerry.
I'd leave that part for you.... :)
Paul’s letter to the Romans, chapter 1, verses 18 through 24:
18 But God shows his anger from heaven against all sinful, wicked people who suppress the truth by their wickedness. 19 They know the truth about God because he has made it obvious to them. 20 For ever since the world was created, people have seen the earth and sky. Through everything God made, they can clearly see his invisible qualitieshis eternal power and divine nature. So they have no excuse for not knowing God.
21 Yes, they knew God, but they wouldnt worship him as God or even give him thanks. And they began to think up foolish ideas of what God was like. As a result, their minds became dark and confused. 22 Claiming to be wise, they instead became utter fools. 23 And instead of worshiping the glorious, ever-living God, they worshiped idols made to look like mere people and birds and animals and reptiles.
24 So God abandoned them to do whatever shameful things their hearts desired. As a result, they did vile and degrading things with each others bodies.
My advice: Stay FAR away. I grew up in urban Minnesota so you pretty much know that liberal women were a rule, not the exception in my area.
The liberal women I’ve dated were shallow, into themselves and really had no independent skills to speak of. They thought they could get a man or their mommy or daddy to help them with independent skills. They were also very dependent. None of those are signs of somebody that would make for a good girlfriend or wife. I blame this on the third wave of feminism.
The 3rd wave feminization of women have turned many western women into beasts that aren’t marriageable. If she’s a liberal, most likely, she’s a third wave feminist or holds some third wave feminist beliefs. A third wave feminist (Think that Garafalo skank) sucks as a girlfriend. Nothing that third wave feminism teaches would make a woman into a good girlfriend or wife. Why do you think Garafalo type skanks always have horrible relationships?
So if you’re prepared to do the following:
Make her feel like a princess.
Put up with her whininess.
A person who tries to crowd out your personality instead of adding to your own personality.
A person that really has NO concept of economics (This will show up when you pay for your dates) then go ahead, date a liberal.
The current girl I’m dating right now can be considered somebody who’d fit the mold of first wave feminism
As for any young man that’s dating today, they should read this essay first before they even CONSIDER dating again.
Yep...that’s it. I always cringe just a bit when I read those words.
You left out the most important part - whether she’s the bra-burning, PETA-supporting, abortion-rights-protester kind of liberal girl, or a Democrat or even moderate who just thinks liberal is the new black? If it’s the former there’s not a lot of hope, but if it’s the latter, there’s a chance.
Also, look at what all these Freepers who’ve said they’ve been happily married to a ‘liberal’ say compared to the warnings of those who say it would be a nightmare - I don’t think any of the ones who’ve had a successful marriage to a ‘liberal’ were marrying the kind of women that the people who tell you to run away think that you’re going to end up marrying. Obviously, this ‘love’ is going to cloud your judgement a bit, but as long as you don’t rush into things you should have a reasonable idea of whether or not it’ll work long before you’re actually married.
Also, if it does get serious, what are your non-negotiable issues? I can imagine abortion would be one, and gun ownership seems to be another, and there might be some deal-breakers for her. If or when the relationship gets serious, you guys obviously need to have a talk about this.
It’s not about whether or not you guys agree on everything - you’ll never find anyone who has the exact same opinions as you, so it’s all about what things matter and how much. For you two, politics might be a big issue, but I know people who’d have more of an issue with their romantic partner cheering for the Yankees over the Red Sox than they would if that partner voted exactly the opposite of them...
And, last but not least, if you guys come to a mutual understanding that it’s not going to work out, she sounds like she could still be a wonderful friend. In fact, I’m close friends with a guy, and we had such different views on life, relationships, and such that I don’t think for a second either of us were under an illusion that a romantic relationship might ever work but that hasn’t stopped us from having a wonderful friendship.
Is you be a Christian?
If so, there is some little thing about not being “unequally yoked together”.
In any case, love is easily found in conservative circles. Save yourself and your future offspring from the grief and RUN LIKE YOUR HEADS’ ON FIRE!!!
I have never heard of them described as 'hearts' before.
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