It may be that doing a decent home calibration of your TV would vastly increase your enjoyment. Sets tend to come from the factory with absurd settings, brightness and contrast set to unrealistic levels, etc., all so they look as bright as possible on display in stores. This could VERY easily be causing the harshness you seem to be describing. I’m a huge movie buff and find *good* HDTV to be a fantastic addition to cinematic beauty. And I can tell you that a decent home calibration of a set can make a stunning difference.
FREE calibration procedure from PC World..