Skip to comments.Need advice: Friend marrying broke Muslim loser [vanity]
Posted on 11/10/2011 9:50:19 AM PST by Feline_AIDS
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What is even worse is a Jew marrying a Muslim and I heard how Jewish women married muslims and it was literal hell ! And further to mention, what happens of there is a divorce and there are kids and the divorce takes place in a muslim country ?
I admire your willingness to help, but why are YOU leading the charge? Your friend’s dad and brothers each need to grow a pair and take care of business. Tell them so.
A-men! The best way to be ignored and alone is to treat women well.
Neither of your cons comes within a mile of being as important as any of your pros, much less all of them together. Tell her all of it right away. Aside from helping her to break it off, it will keep you from lifelong regret when he kills her or she kills herself.
Probably nothing you can do for her other than wait and watch her mess her life up terribly.
I'm sure a Christian church will issue a fatwa on her...oh, wait a minute...
When she is married to the muslim, and he gets citizenship, I'm sure she will survive the honor killing. Then again, anything can happen.
Sorry, I lived in the Middle East for almost two years.
When the time comes for my daughters to marry, they will be able to tell easily if the young man has a heart for God, and that is what is significant. But having parents that pray and such is quite valueable.
I would tell her, even though it will do no good. No harm will be done she will not be a friend any longer to you when he is done brainwashing her anyway.
The harder you speak against him the more she will be defiant about it.
Obviously her parents have spoken to her about it and deepened her commitment to do just the opposite.
One day she may learn her mistake, after a good beating or acid thrown in her face or she tires of wearing a Burka. She may come out of it dead. Her children will be Muslims, and if they separate he will take them to some foreign craphole like has been done so many times.
Once she knows the facts and chooses to ignore them she is on her own.Wish her the best of what will be an unhappy life.
I am looking for that myself. I try to shy away from other converts, because I think that converts, and converts especially should have the benefits of having Christian inlaws. Something they have never had themselves. I can’t offer that to them.
And there are some areas that I am weak in that marrying someone who grew up in the faith would be strong in. I think it’s very complementary.
The wussification of Western men is one of the many unfortunate accomplishments of our deceptive media. Western men have been given the false impression that women who outwardly professes to be feminist or "independent" are really feminist on the inside. In fact, all women instinctually and uncontrollably yearn to submit themselves to a dominant man. Witness the way even the most stone-cold feminists melted before the carousing and physically-abusive Bill Clinton.
People outside the West still know about this universal trait of women just like our great-grandfathers used to know it. Such knowledge is very useful for a man with a wife or girlfriend(s) and for a father seeking to protect his daughter. I am afraid that there is no way to detach your friend from her muslim boyfriend unless she finds another man who is more dominant and masculine than the muslim.
Any woman who has a dominant man will never in her life be happy with another man who is less dominant.
And when he goes back to the M.E. guess who the creditors are coming after.
Threatening her life while drunk has nothing to do with his Muslim faith or politics. He’s an abuser and they come in all flavors. She should be getting treatment for her depression which may be linked to this abusive relationship. I’d focus on her health and safety.
What Norm said....
show her all the stories of women who married muslim men on the internet. There are plenty. They are very misogonistic and they will not change their attitude just because they live in the usa. The men take off to other countries with the kids. She won’t see the kids again.
Show her the story of the Amina and Sarah honor killings in Texas. Yaser Abdel Said. The whole family helped him out get away and escape justice. This guy was disgusted by America but was lazy and hooked onto an American woman so he can live in the USA and not work and live off the government. He also made creepy videos of his daughters and stalked them.
The kids will be forced to “follow the rules of Islam”. She will have no say. The man is the one in charge, very arrogant and she will learn the hard way.
Islam.......You can check in, but you cant check out.
It doesn’t work like that. The men think they OWN the kids.
Tell her to watch the Amina and Sarah honor killings Dateline special on Youtube. the creepy videos and arrogant controlling behavior and attitude of this man.
My friend married a “not particularly religious” Muslim man a few years ago. He was originally from Morocco, but came to the US when he was 18. When they were first dating, she enjoyed how he persued her, was so “charming” and paid lots of attention to her. She got pregnant before they were married, and he took her to Morocco to meet his parents. All her friends were worried sick when she went. They finally got married, and she bore him 2 sons. After they got married, he became verbally and emotionally abusive. She became a shell of her former self. She filed for divorce when things began to escalate were on the verge of physical violence. They now have joint custody and SHE is paying HIM spousal support!
I hope your friend wakes up and gets out before it’s too late.
btw - if he has a passport for another country, that’s probably where he’s going when he gets too deeply in debt and can’t repay loans
Sorry - I meant for my last comment to go to Feline_AIDS
Show her the 10 minute youtube video “Fitna”, the one Theo Van Gough was murdered for creating.
Most middle eastern men are passive aggressive which could be why your friend exhibited symptoms of depression right around the time she met him. There is no better way to bring on depression than dealing with a passive-aggressive mate. If you ask me how I know, I will tell you that I once dated a passive-aggressive man for about 1.5 years and not one day went by that I didn’t either cry myself to sleep or tear up over something. Our very first date left me sobbing but it took another year-and-a-half to figure out what was going on.
Middle eastern men also pursue females relentlessly, spreading compliments and promising anything it takes to get their way. As American men do not usually behave this way, it can be hard to resist.
I dated a middle eastern man once, and I mean one time. When on our first date he asked me to marry him, that was it for me. Since our relationship was so short-lived, it was pretty easy to ditch him but once they’ve got their hooks in you, it can be very very hard.
In my opinion it is imperative that you sit down with her, perhaps take her out to dinner and maybe even print out this entire thread. The relentless posts about the Sally Fields movie should give you both a few laughs midst the seriousness of your concerns.
And no matter whatever you decide to do or say, you cannot make a mistake. So go do the right thing.
If this guy is the quintessential arrogant islamoslime that you describe, then he’s got to be a brazen horndog as well.
Daddy needs to pay someone to tail him for a week. Odds are good that the dirtball picks up chicks in his ample spare time. Anonymous tips by way of 8 x 10’s in mail may snap some sense into this young lady. Even the most open-minded skull of mush doesn’t take too kindly to this type of personal violation.
Good luck. You can always “joke” to her about looking at the bright side... he only wants to kill her when he’s drunk.
Hopefully she didn’t have children in the marriage!! I was literally BORN into that cult, my father being a big wig in it; did all the P.R. stuff for any media in Western NY.
I’m 51 now but left the cult officially 10 years ago. They have literature on how to win custody if you are a JW seeking to get your children away from a “non-believer.”
Anytime someone talks about this subject, I simply whip out a list of stuff that you CAN’T do as a JW (the list is practically endless) and stuff you are REQUIRED to do.
Of course no JW “in good standing” tells any potential “recruit” this stuff.
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