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WOMAN OF MY DREAMS?

Posted on 04/21/2012 12:42:50 AM PDT by mamelukesabre

I am a middle aged single guy with no ex wives and no kids. I've never been married and never knocked up no one. For the last 12 years I've been trying hard to find that perfect someone. You may remember me having threads on this very same topic. I recently had a couple of relationships with young asian girls and posted about it...only to have those threads yanked by the FR mods.

The asian girlfriend I broke up with and posted about is still around but we don't get along that well anymore. I found another asian girl younger than her but she is no longer in the picture. She decided I was too old. She probably had a point since she was only 26. Please see my previous threads about my physical fitness. I have been working my ass off to look 15 years younger than my age and I think I have pulled it off except for baldness.

Tonight I met a new girl and I am already in love. There is just one problem. She is a 20 year old law student from Estonia. She is short and chubby and wears very thick glasses. She is very old for her age if you know what I mean. I spent the evening dancing with and drinking with her friends.

We've already made arrangements for the future. I know I am a complete idiot. I can't help it. I will be working out extra hard now and suffering more from tendonitis than I ever have in my life.

I actually wish I really was making this up.

Flame away


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1 posted on 04/21/2012 12:42:57 AM PDT by mamelukesabre
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To: mamelukesabre

The heart wants what it wants.
Good luck.....


2 posted on 04/21/2012 12:46:06 AM PDT by Yorlik803 (better to die on your feet than live on your knees.)
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To: mamelukesabre

Best wishes.


3 posted on 04/21/2012 12:48:11 AM PDT by unkus (Silence Is Consent)
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To: mamelukesabre
If she's in your dreams, then why settle for less than...


4 posted on 04/21/2012 12:56:42 AM PDT by who_would_fardels_bear
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To: mamelukesabre
Be careful for what you wish. You just might get it.

Peace and blessings.

5 posted on 04/21/2012 1:06:55 AM PDT by rawcatslyentist ("Behold, I am against you, O arrogant one," Jeremiah 50:31)
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To: mamelukesabre
I read an interesting study a while back. It basically found that men as they age want to date women as young as they can get--mainly as an ego feed. Which is more saying to themselves I can still get this. It is what it is.

Unfortunately for you men though the younger gals are often looking at you for your security. So you have your part to uphold.

There is nothing wrong with going for what you want in my opinion. You do however have to uphold what she is often looking to you for as well though and this may be why older men choose older women. (one of the many reasons as we are also more experienced in the sack and in the head and heart :-)

As someone who dated a man 12 years my senior for six years that started when I was twenty one, I can attest to the fact that his wealth and looks were factors. As soon as his belly showed up and his pocket book depleted and his chin show signs of drooping, I suddenly found men my own age interesting again. Just saying.

You also better be a good lover. Age and experience only keep a young girls interest for so long. Diamonds though are forever. haha.

6 posted on 04/21/2012 1:11:13 AM PDT by GOP Poet
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To: GOP Poet

You make me hate myself


7 posted on 04/21/2012 1:14:43 AM PDT by mamelukesabre (If I had a dog, it would look like the dog 0bama ate)
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To: mamelukesabre

My advice? Ride your horse and see where it takes you. If you continue to desire and can attract younger ladies then this is where you are at and it is working for you. Enjoy it and swallow it whole. It will take you where you need to go. Who knows where that is. In the interim just enjoy it. Get out of your head. Life is too short.


8 posted on 04/21/2012 1:15:38 AM PDT by GOP Poet
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To: mamelukesabre

Why? There is nothing wrong with reality. Women are often attracted to money. Do we hate ourselves? No! haha. :)


9 posted on 04/21/2012 1:16:46 AM PDT by GOP Poet
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To: mamelukesabre

Go for it, dude. You only go around once.
Good luck.

FRegards,
LH


10 posted on 04/21/2012 1:20:42 AM PDT by Lancey Howard
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To: Yorlik803

Perhaps more “the crotch wants what the crotch wants” as logical thinking is absent.


11 posted on 04/21/2012 1:21:29 AM PDT by Secret Agent Man (I'd like to tell you, but then I'd have to kill you.)
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To: GOP Poet

Sounds like a shallow relationship on both sides. Bail when the other ain’t up to snuff anymore.


12 posted on 04/21/2012 1:23:15 AM PDT by Secret Agent Man (I'd like to tell you, but then I'd have to kill you.)
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To: mamelukesabre
I do hope you take my suggestion to heart in post #8. These sort of relationships can benefit both parties. Not just you and not just her. if there is a mutual attraction there is a reason. It may be a multitude of things on her end. It is just from my experience I had some clear bottom lines that were true for me over time regarding the relationship. Also he was very jealous of men my age and often felt inadequate about our age difference whereas I did not. He was aging though and I was not so I could not understand his jealousy and his self consciousness. Now of course that I am in my mid forties I see what was happening for him. He became very violent when I left when I grew up. Sadly he was obsessed.

You need to guard this within yourself as well and realize one day she too will be older and aging. She will not be forever young and your fantasies need to be told this every once in awhile when your obsession for the youthful female take you over. They will all be older and aged one day.

13 posted on 04/21/2012 1:24:24 AM PDT by GOP Poet
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To: Secret Agent Man

That’s life.


14 posted on 04/21/2012 1:24:51 AM PDT by GOP Poet
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To: mamelukesabre

I retired in 2010 and make more money now than when I worked, for various reasons. I have been divorced twice (they were so glad to get rid of me I never paid a cent in alimony). Since retirement I have dated quite a bit and recently met a 35 year old woman who I realized liked the money I spent on her, for fun. The other night she said the 27 year difference in our ages made no difference to her, could she move in with me so we could be together more? I quietly sipped my drink, set it down and looked her straight in the eye and softly said “ It would cut into my deep sea fishing trips too much.”


15 posted on 04/21/2012 1:25:55 AM PDT by Safetgiver (The predator class is upset because they are being shot.)
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To: Secret Agent Man

I’d love to have you educate us all about your dating and love history since your first crush. I bet there were a lot of attempt to date a chick because you found her hot. Or am I wrong?


16 posted on 04/21/2012 1:26:12 AM PDT by GOP Poet
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To: mamelukesabre
Flame away

All right. You should take that tendonitis seriously and modify your exercise routine to give your body time to heal.

As for your love life, best of luck.

17 posted on 04/21/2012 1:26:42 AM PDT by TChad
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To: Secret Agent Man

all long term relationships are complicated. notice I was not married to the man. nor married him. i am married to day. that is a real relationship commitment. all the rest often are superficially based. that is why they don’t last a lifetime.


18 posted on 04/21/2012 1:29:02 AM PDT by GOP Poet
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To: mamelukesabre
The date on your Post is April 21st.

I think you're twenty days too late.

If you're serious, I have nothing to say except good luck, you'll need it.

19 posted on 04/21/2012 1:29:45 AM PDT by Kickass Conservative (A day without Obama is like a day without a Tsunami.)
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To: Safetgiver

I love a person that understand life and themselves more importantly and can articulate it. that to me is maturity. love it!!


20 posted on 04/21/2012 1:30:35 AM PDT by GOP Poet
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To: GOP Poet; shibumi

Hubby’s 18 years older than I am, just about flat broke, got a spare tire and I wouldn’t trade him for the world.

:)


21 posted on 04/21/2012 1:34:38 AM PDT by Salamander (Hey, blood brother, you're one of our own. You're as sharp as a razor and as hard as a stone.)
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To: Salamander

:-). And then there’s this . . . love. Awesome! thanks for the post my dear. Lucky, blessed man.


22 posted on 04/21/2012 1:36:15 AM PDT by GOP Poet
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To: Secret Agent Man

Heh.


23 posted on 04/21/2012 1:36:37 AM PDT by Salamander (Hey, blood brother, you're one of our own. You're as sharp as a razor and as hard as a stone.)
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To: mamelukesabre
Good luck just don't make a pass at my dream girl...


24 posted on 04/21/2012 1:36:46 AM PDT by GrandJediMasterYoda (From the dough tree we get donuts.)
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To: mamelukesabre

Did u work for the secret service?

Seriously dude. Im in the same boat. Don’t have any kids (can’t stand them). Do what you want and enjoy! I do! And wrap your pecker so that doesn’t change..


25 posted on 04/21/2012 1:37:39 AM PDT by goseminoles
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To: GOP Poet

Damn straight that poor, fat old coot is lucky....LOL


26 posted on 04/21/2012 1:37:56 AM PDT by Salamander (Hey, blood brother, you're one of our own. You're as sharp as a razor and as hard as a stone.)
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To: GrandJediMasterYoda

is it me or is she mildly digestible in this pic?


27 posted on 04/21/2012 1:38:56 AM PDT by GOP Poet
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To: GOP Poet

It’s you.

Clean your glasses....LOL


28 posted on 04/21/2012 1:39:42 AM PDT by Salamander (Hey, blood brother, you're one of our own. You're as sharp as a razor and as hard as a stone.)
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To: GOP Poet

It must be the pearls.


29 posted on 04/21/2012 1:41:10 AM PDT by GrandJediMasterYoda (From the dough tree we get donuts.)
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To: Salamander

In the end it is a woman like you who is every man’s heart dream. A woman who wil always love his fat, poor ass! haha. My honey loves me through it all and I am truly blessed as well.


30 posted on 04/21/2012 1:41:56 AM PDT by GOP Poet
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To: mamelukesabre
She offered her honor

And he honored her offer.

And all night long

He was on her and off her.

31 posted on 04/21/2012 1:42:32 AM PDT by EggsAckley ( There's an Ethiopian in the fuel supply ! ! ..)
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To: GOP Poet

Well, to be honest, sometimes I’m more like his worst nightmare.

[but I digress]

;]


32 posted on 04/21/2012 1:44:41 AM PDT by Salamander (Hey, blood brother, you're one of our own. You're as sharp as a razor and as hard as a stone.)
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To: Salamander; GrandJediMasterYoda

i think we lost the OP, but we’re having a hell of a time :)! He’s probably out getting laid sucking in the belly while we have all the laughs. haha


33 posted on 04/21/2012 1:45:06 AM PDT by GOP Poet
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To: Salamander

haha. Yep. It’s confirmed. Sounds like love to me :).


34 posted on 04/21/2012 1:46:57 AM PDT by GOP Poet
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To: GOP Poet

He’s a hit-and-run poster.

You should’ve been there for his “finding the perfect dog” thread.

Wowza!

What an auto-immolation that was.


35 posted on 04/21/2012 1:47:17 AM PDT by Salamander (Hey, blood brother, you're one of our own. You're as sharp as a razor and as hard as a stone.)
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To: GOP Poet

I reckon...LOL


36 posted on 04/21/2012 1:49:26 AM PDT by Salamander (Hey, blood brother, you're one of our own. You're as sharp as a razor and as hard as a stone.)
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To: goseminoles

great advice!!! nice touch on the secret service comment. haha.


37 posted on 04/21/2012 1:50:48 AM PDT by GOP Poet
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To: mamelukesabre

My advice (I am a woman): Slow down and stop trying so hard! Be yourself. True love comes when you least expect it and weren’t forcing yourself to try and find companionship.

You can’t change anyone, so don’t try to. Move on if something about that person really bothers you, because if it’s hard to take now it won’t get any easier.

Talk to a lot of people and don’t have it in your head “Could this be the one?” Just talk to them as people, and you’ll know it in your gut as well as your heart if you’ve found true love. When someone seems like they’re
constantly trying to meet “Miss Right”, they can come across as a stalker!

Relax. If this new, younger girl you met is meant to be your true love, like I said, take it slow. Dinner, a movie, talk about common interests, goals, what do either of you want in the way of a family? If you find you have common interests and a love connection, date at least a year before getting married, if you plan too. Things will reveal themselves in that time,
good or bad. And if it’s bad, walk away.

I was 22 and maybe it’s a female thing but finished college and started thinking about the future. Before it was just yeah, your my boyfriend, but I
got serious and tried so hard to find the right guy. I took a job in retail to make some money while I made resumes and looked for a career. I was so busy I forgot about my love life! And then in walked Mr. Right! We had so much in common! He was finishing college and wanted a P/T job. I got him hired the next day! We talked about everything! He still says he can sue me for sexual harassment at the work place! Two kids and going on 16 years of Marriage, we’re still together.

One funny thing is I always said I loved the way he dressed. Later, I found out he would go into a high end department story and find a mannequin that looked good and request those clothes in his size! So he could never dress the kids when they were little, you should have seen what he’d have them wearing!


38 posted on 04/21/2012 1:51:27 AM PDT by MacMattico
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To: Salamander

auto immolation! haha. dang. sorry i missed it. finding the perfect dog and the perfect young strange. no wonder he has tendinitis. dude’s a mess. If you have the link can you post it? I need a good life. Auto immolation. just hilarious!


39 posted on 04/21/2012 1:54:00 AM PDT by GOP Poet
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To: MacMattico

great story and advice. thanks for sharing. love the mannequin details and ensuing fallout from that—haha. Definitely should still sue you ;).


40 posted on 04/21/2012 1:59:11 AM PDT by GOP Poet
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To: GOP Poet; mamelukesabre

I know a guy that is on his fifth wife from the Phillipines. I imagine he is around 62 now. He brings them over to the U.S., they make for a good wife cooking, keeping house, “and they are all REALLY good in bed.”

After whatever years they have been married and they have full citizenship or a green card or something, they ask for a divorce.

“That’s fine - by that time I’m wanting something different anyway. Its sort of like leasing a fancy car - and about the same price too.”

The last time I saw him he was going to a “family” party with his current wife and all but one ex-wives. And his son that he had with the first one (an adult now).

I thought it pretty odd - but to each his own. And everyone is happy and got what they wanted.


41 posted on 04/21/2012 2:00:34 AM PDT by 21twelve
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To: GOP Poet

Check yer mail....:)


42 posted on 04/21/2012 2:04:58 AM PDT by Salamander (Hey, blood brother, you're one of our own. You're as sharp as a razor and as hard as a stone.)
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To: mamelukesabre

I know I am a complete idiot. I can’t help it. I will be working out extra hard now and suffering more from tendonitis than I ever have in my life.

Dude. Have one more drink and go to bed. Wake up and go fishing. I am. And with no asian females...


43 posted on 04/21/2012 2:09:11 AM PDT by goseminoles
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To: mamelukesabre
It's obvious, you are a complete idiot.

You aren't going to get younger and may not be able to maintain good physical condition into old age. You may get stuck with a younger woman who cleans out your life savings and leaves you drooling in your wheelchair.

Life IS an endless vicious cycle.

44 posted on 04/21/2012 2:12:18 AM PDT by SWAMPSNIPER (The Second Amendment, a Matter of Fact, Not a Matter of Opinion)
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To: Salamander

My great Aunt and Uncle were 18 years apart and when she told her father they were getting married, he said “What are you going to do when he gets older and you have to take care of him?” She said love him and take care of him! As life would have it, he lived to be 98 and she lived to be 82. He never really needed that much taking care of and they only died two years apart!


45 posted on 04/21/2012 2:15:10 AM PDT by MacMattico
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To: MacMattico

Wow...that’s beautiful...:)

I doubt I’d survive mine by much, either.


46 posted on 04/21/2012 2:18:08 AM PDT by Salamander (Hey, blood brother, you're one of our own. You're as sharp as a razor and as hard as a stone.)
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To: mamelukesabre

Seriously, im 41 single. I have 4 degrees. Not a nerd. Quite the opposite. I am wanting the same as you. I don’t have kids and have been divorced once. No hard feelings. I still like to party. I fish. I have a boat. Im simple and I enjoy life. I hope that true love happens. But im not banking on it.. and im an average guy you would see at your workplace. I don’t care for drama and noise...


47 posted on 04/21/2012 2:20:02 AM PDT by goseminoles
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To: MacMattico
True story:

The ex took off and left me and my dogs cold, hungry and alone.

The car he left me was a Porsche Turbo 924 [Porsche is German for "you can't afford the parts"] so I had to sell it.

I put an ad in the paper and one day, the phone rings.

This DEEP voice asks if I still have the car.

[and I actually thought to myself, after hearing the voice, "Oh, good. Things aren't bad enough. Now the Devil is calling me]

So he comes to see the car but decides he's not interested in it...but is interested in me.

Two other guys were on their way to look at it and for some crazy reason, I asked him to stay until they left, 'just in case'.

I trust nobody but oddly, I trusted him completely and instantly.

He did stay and he passed his first test when my Ibizan Hounds loved him.

[they don't like *anybody*]

He passed the ultimate test when I let the Dobermanns and Am Staff downstairs to meet him. They licked him silly.

He came back the next day for a "date" and we've been together ever since.

So, basically, he kidnapped me.

[I love a Viking spirit!]...LOL

My parents were horrified when I brought this home to meet them

Nobody ever saw a thundering, Sicilian biker coming...LOL

48 posted on 04/21/2012 2:32:12 AM PDT by Salamander (Hey, blood brother, you're one of our own. You're as sharp as a razor and as hard as a stone.)
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To: mamelukesabre
My life is an endless vicious cycle

Dear Mamelukesabre, Unlike you, I was divorced and having the burden of two very young daughters to raise on my own - the wife having abandoned all of us. There is no reason to go into the details, but for one thing:

I felt prompted to pray one sleepless night a couple of years after; that I would give my heart and service to a woman in need with one small son; not my will be done, but Thine.

That prayer was answered by Christ's grace. Today I have a ER Nurse that I give my heart and service and am privileged to pray daily for that wee lad now a Staff Sargent in the United States Air-Force.

My advice to you, friend in need, is to pray. Start with adoring God who answers prayer; give praise to God who has sustained you thus far. Confess as much sin as you can; cast as much selfishness as far away as you can. Thank the Lord for helping you to pray this way; thank Him that He knows the desire of your heart and what you will ask even before you ask it.

Then Ask in only one or two sentences and be specific as you can as you have felt prompted.

God delights in the prayers of His children and His answers are full of His excellence.

Many Answers to Prayer,

SR

49 posted on 04/21/2012 2:37:06 AM PDT by sr4402
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To: GOP Poet

You offer good advice, too!


50 posted on 04/21/2012 2:42:04 AM PDT by MacMattico
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