Skip to comments.WOMAN OF MY DREAMS?
Posted on 04/21/2012 12:42:50 AM PDT by mamelukesabre
I am a middle aged single guy with no ex wives and no kids. I've never been married and never knocked up no one. For the last 12 years I've been trying hard to find that perfect someone. You may remember me having threads on this very same topic. I recently had a couple of relationships with young asian girls and posted about it...only to have those threads yanked by the FR mods.
The asian girlfriend I broke up with and posted about is still around but we don't get along that well anymore. I found another asian girl younger than her but she is no longer in the picture. She decided I was too old. She probably had a point since she was only 26. Please see my previous threads about my physical fitness. I have been working my ass off to look 15 years younger than my age and I think I have pulled it off except for baldness.
Tonight I met a new girl and I am already in love. There is just one problem. She is a 20 year old law student from Estonia. She is short and chubby and wears very thick glasses. She is very old for her age if you know what I mean. I spent the evening dancing with and drinking with her friends.
We've already made arrangements for the future. I know I am a complete idiot. I can't help it. I will be working out extra hard now and suffering more from tendonitis than I ever have in my life.
I actually wish I really was making this up.
Love your page, bike, ball python, and long hair!! I wish I knew how to construct my page. Anyways, nice to meet u and your hubby. Looks fun!
FReepmail me and I can send you basic HTML and instructions.
Yeah, we’re fun, alright...like a sackful of coyotes and bobcats fun....LOL
Fun and easy 3 steps for ya!
Step 1: Grow up
Step 2: Stop soliciting strangers on the internet for advice on scoring “The Woman of your Dreams”.
Step 3: Have a real and meaningful relationship.
Thats all there is to it! Try not to over-think it.
Also, meditate on love. Find someone you can really love for who they are, not how old they are or if they are terribly beautiful. When you do find someone to really love, find out if they really love you. If you love each other then get married. To be married is to be committed to loving each other for your whole lifetime no matter what happens. Love is a choice and a commitment. Marriage is the ground by which that love can grow and flourish.
Of course, God is the source of true love, so get connected with Him and He will guide your love and love through you. Love focuses on it's object and not on it's self. Love is the song that life is meant to sing. Hope you find it's song.
At least he’s trying to find a conservative chic. Not easy. Trust me. I haven’t posted a want me ad, but man, this would be the place to find a good woman.
I wish you the best of luck, god knows I have been single for too long...
But my bet would be thumbs down. The reason I say it is of the most successful relationships I have had, the very best were the ones where we were friends first. I have been single since my wife passed, going on about 12 yrs. We were married for about 12 years. I knew her and we were friends for about 2 1/2 years before we started going out.
But don’t get me wrong, I was hot for her even before we got together, she was a beautiful 5’2” blonde gal who weighed about 115 dripping wet...
But we were friends first and that was key.
Now I am so isolated I doubt whether that could ever happen again.
We should have a rule on FR. Every time we post her picture we have to say a prayer for her. She could be saved in no time.
Can he still sue me if he admitted he enjoyed the harassment?:)
“Tonight I met a new girl and I am already in love. There is just one problem. She is a 20 year old law stud from Estonia. She is short and chubby and wears very thick glasses. She is very old for her age if you know what I mean. I spent the evening dancing with and drinking with her friends”
Oh grow up. This is my Friday and Saturday night in Tallahassee. Quit your bitchin.
Hey mamelukesabre...there’s nothing hotter than a guy who knows who they are, knows what they want, goes after that aggressively, and adores you. We know whether we want you in about five seconds. Some red flags from your post - you shouldn’t feel like you have to “work out more” just for this chick...are you trying to re-create something from the past, with the obsession over age/nationality...you seem to want acceptance - that only comes from inside you, from knowing you do everything the best you can within reason, you TRY to live in a way that makes God happy (just try, He knows if you try, He loves you just the way you are)... Just let go, Babe, and trust things to be the way the way they’re supposed to be. I hope she’s your girl!
So, did one of the two guys who showed up next buy the Porsche?
See a “pro” for some “advice”.
I love the smell of tuna fish in the morning.....
They took it for a test drive and when they came back, the clutch cable was broken and the pedal was on the floor.
Eventually a rich black couple bought and restored it for their daughter as a college going-away gift and it went to a very good home.
Stop thinking and just “be with it”. If both of you enjoy “it” while it lasts you could be suprised how long “it” could last.
Their garage was nicer than my house.
[and no, they didn’t want to adopt me...I asked]
The rich black couple wasn’t from Chicago were they?
If “it” lasts more than 4 hours, please contact your physician.
He was a doctor, I think.
Wonderfully nice people.
I cried a little when the daughter squealed in delight over the car.
I knew it was going to be with someone who would love it as much as I had.
To Mr. mamelukesabre: Red flags are waving wildly from your post. Guys who “purchase” a wife from the list of foreign prospects think very little of themselves. They think that is all they can get.
Get a life. Work on yourself. Get some professional help. You sound desperate.
[I’ll keep that in mind next time hubby’s fixin’ to deck somebody who makes a lusty comment about his “daughter”]
So sorry about your sweetie.....:(
had a friend that tried the Russian bride thing back in the late 90’s. The one thing he said was that Russian women (meaning women that were born and lived in Russia for all their lives) didn’t age well. He said “they don’t go over the hill, they go off the cliff”.
Same guy ended up marrying a wonderful Asian woman he met in a similar fashion.
You mean a sophomore in college, right?
She is very old for her age
So she acts and talks like a 25 year old? That and a fake ID will get her a beer......
Here's a tip, let what hair you have grow long then you can pull it back in a ponytail and tie it with a little rubber band. The young chicks really dig the hip old guys with ponytails and an earring. Yea, I almost forgot the earring......
Oh, and one other thing, if you can afford a Vette then you can stop working out. Young chicks don't care if you're fat and going bald as long as you own a Vette.......
You might want to also get yourself a boat, minimum of 26 footer. The young chicks love to party on boats just as long as you bring the beer too. The advantage of the boat is they won't have to worry about obtaining fake ID's to get into bars. But keep in mind that the boat thing is only good thru the warm months. Once winter arrives then you have to revert back to using the Vette as your chick magnet.....
Good luck dude, party on!
Awwwwwww, for the love of GOD! Did you have to do that during breakfast?
I am 73 years old and been married through thick and thin to the same great gal over 51 years, she was my dream girl and always will be. When dating and thought I was pursuing her, she later confided the hunter had been the hunted right up to saying, I do. So I would be the worlds worst to be offering courting advice, for I didnt, and still dont, have a clue when it comes to that game.
I found the best way to “plan” for the perfect relationship is to not plan or have any expectations. If it blossoms into something where you both realize that you are meant to be, then God will bless it. If it is not obvious to both of you over the next year or so, then you had a wonderful experience that will strengthen future relationships. The age difference only complicates things because when she is 40, you’ll be approaching 80. I would advise opening your heart and cherishing the time together, but keeping the expectations low - expectations ruin most things that are worth having. Best wishes ya ole coot.
So, how far are you from Richmond VA? lol
I am in my 25th year of a fairly happy marriage and I just want to tell you that you are going about this all wrong. There is no "perfect" woman out there (nor is there a "perfect" man). Also, trying to meet women online or from magazine ads, whatever, is like playing the slot machines in Vegas. You might hit a jackpot every once in a while but most times, you go home a loser.
I also highly recommend against dating a woman that is significantly younger than you. It cannot end well. If she's not a gold digger who will deplete your life savings, leaving you high and dry (and once again alone), than she will not be happy seeing you grow old when she is still young enough to go out on the town and do things that younger folks like to do. Eventually she will come to regret her choice and you will get hurt one way or the other.
Not sure exactly how old you are but I'm close to 50 and I see a lot of women at that age who are available and would make good mates. If I were not married myself, I would have little difficulty establishing relationships with them.
So stick with women in your own age group. Start out slow. Keep your expectations in check. Give the relationship a chance to get off on the right foot. Go out to dinner or a movie a couple times a week at first. Stay in the "casual dating" mode for at least six months before any talk of a long-term relationship. That means no shacking up or sleepovers. At the end of the night, you go to your place and have her go back to hers. You definitely want to start out as "friends" first and let things slowly develop.
If you find yourselves getting in arguments, end the relationship then and there. I find that couples that argue and fight with each other in the dating stage are doomed to failed marriages later on. My wife and I dated for two years and never had a major fight. That's when we know the marriage had a good chance of being successful. Make sure your political views are somewhat in line with each other as well. My wife is not as politically active as I am but she is as conservative in her views as I and we raised pretty decent kids as a result.
Also, we are pretty much equals. That is another key to a successful relationship. Neither of us have the "my way or the highway" approach. If we are both not on board together, whatever it is one of us wanted doesn't happen. That means that I have to have less of an ego but on the other hand, my wife has to step up a little and not expect me to take the lead on everything.
Well good luck and I hope things end up well.
There is a 100% correlation coefficient on this
Drop the Subject
Cease to Seek after Happiness
Do what must be Done
In Time, Joy may Find You
I am 35, and my wife is 14 months older then me. I’ve been with her since I was 14, we have 2 kids. I love her, but I can’t stand to be around her anymore, but losing her would be like losing my right arm.
I fantasise about being in your situation, you can keep all your earning, do whatever you want to do, and have as many friends as you like. You don’t have to answer to anyone. Mate, your free as a bird!
If I had it to do all over again, I’d be like you, middle age, no wife, no kids, and no worries.
KNOW I LOVE YOU - TOO
And yes,if you check current immigration law a foreign woman can do *exactly* what's described in scenario #2.
And a cast iron skillet upside the head if she ever sees that post.
Long may you rock 'n roll together. :)
As my old, dear dad used to say *A man is not old as long as he is learning something new, seeking something.*
Here's a clue....you will NEVER find the "perfect" someone....
A real relationship takes work and compromise to make it work...
My expertise....Married 32 years...same woman...who was never perfect but still the love of my life...because I choose to love her...
How right you are!
Borrowed from Kimo’s Rules
Goals are deceptive - the unaimed arrow never misses
“*A man is not old as long as he is learning something new, seeking something.*”
Do not *ever* say that out loud at a biker party.
WHy are you so locked in to the twenty somethings?
The first clue should be that you think love happens instantaneously. Your lack of maturity has probably driven off women of your own age who would be a far better match. Moreover your effort to look 15 yrs younger says you have some serious personal problems.
Good luck. I doubt you will find what you are looking for since shallowness is unattractive after about 5 mins.
May a Sith Lord administer to you a cosmic enema with a barbed nozzle for posting such images.
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