My advice (I am a woman): Slow down and stop trying so hard! Be yourself. True love comes when you least expect it and weren’t forcing yourself to try and find companionship.
You can’t change anyone, so don’t try to. Move on if something about that person really bothers you, because if it’s hard to take now it won’t get any easier.
Talk to a lot of people and don’t have it in your head “Could this be the one?” Just talk to them as people, and you’ll know it in your gut as well as your heart if you’ve found true love. When someone seems like they’re
constantly trying to meet “Miss Right”, they can come across as a stalker!
Relax. If this new, younger girl you met is meant to be your true love, like I said, take it slow. Dinner, a movie, talk about common interests, goals, what do either of you want in the way of a family? If you find you have common interests and a love connection, date at least a year before getting married, if you plan too. Things will reveal themselves in that time,
good or bad. And if it’s bad, walk away.
I was 22 and maybe it’s a female thing but finished college and started thinking about the future. Before it was just yeah, your my boyfriend, but I
got serious and tried so hard to find the right guy. I took a job in retail to make some money while I made resumes and looked for a career. I was so busy I forgot about my love life! And then in walked Mr. Right! We had so much in common! He was finishing college and wanted a P/T job. I got him hired the next day! We talked about everything! He still says he can sue me for sexual harassment at the work place! Two kids and going on 16 years of Marriage, we’re still together.
One funny thing is I always said I loved the way he dressed. Later, I found out he would go into a high end department story and find a mannequin that looked good and request those clothes in his size! So he could never dress the kids when they were little, you should have seen what he’d have them wearing!
great story and advice. thanks for sharing. love the mannequin details and ensuing fallout from that—haha. Definitely should still sue you ;).
The ex took off and left me and my dogs cold, hungry and alone.
The car he left me was a Porsche Turbo 924 [Porsche is German for "you can't afford the parts"] so I had to sell it.
I put an ad in the paper and one day, the phone rings.
This DEEP voice asks if I still have the car.
[and I actually thought to myself, after hearing the voice, "Oh, good. Things aren't bad enough. Now the Devil is calling me]
So he comes to see the car but decides he's not interested in it...but is interested in me.
Two other guys were on their way to look at it and for some crazy reason, I asked him to stay until they left, 'just in case'.
I trust nobody but oddly, I trusted him completely and instantly.
He did stay and he passed his first test when my Ibizan Hounds loved him.
[they don't like *anybody*]
He passed the ultimate test when I let the Dobermanns and Am Staff downstairs to meet him. They licked him silly.
He came back the next day for a "date" and we've been together ever since.
So, basically, he kidnapped me.
[I love a Viking spirit!]...LOL
My parents were horrified when I brought this home to meet them
Nobody ever saw a thundering, Sicilian biker coming...LOL