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Does a Man Ever Truly Stop Loving His Ex-Wife?
Dail Mail ^ | 6 July 2012 | Sandra Howard

Posted on 07/06/2012 8:04:05 PM PDT by nickcarraway

SANDRA HOWARD asks the question that unsettles every woman whose husband is divorced

Years after their divorce, Frank Sinatra and Ava Gardner remained deeply in love. I saw for myself how abiding their mutual affection was when, one evening, more than a decade after they had separated, I joined them for supper.

Frank and Ava, the great crooner and the Hollywood star, were dining quietly in an unassuming New York restaurant and my first husband, jazz pianist Robin Douglas-Home, and I had been invited, too.

Frank and Robin had forged a friendship over a biography he had been writing of Sinatra. I was modelling for the Eileen Ford agency in New York at the time. It was 1962, a full five years after Frank and Ava had divorced when the four of us enjoyed that modest meal together. Yet what endures in my memory is the palpable chemistry that still existed between the singer and the actress.

Although he was married four times, Frank’s one great love remained Ava, and vice versa. I recall how they sat close together on a bench seat in that restaurant all evening, his arm draped around her shoulder, a proprietorial smile of pride on his face.

She was sinuous and elegant in a classic black dress: Frank once said she had the ‘easy grace of a tigress’. Although their marriage had been volatile, their love for each other never faltered. Ava, in fact, never married again. But Frank did: twice more in fact, and I have often wondered whether Ava’s successor, the waif-like actress Mia Farrow, felt undermined by the potent attraction Ol’ Blue Eyes felt for her beautiful predecessor.

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1 posted on 07/06/2012 8:04:10 PM PDT by nickcarraway
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To: nickcarraway

Yes.


2 posted on 07/06/2012 8:07:23 PM PDT by whitedog57
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To: nickcarraway

Yes!


3 posted on 07/06/2012 8:08:18 PM PDT by doc1019 (Voting for the lesser of two evils is still voting for evil.)
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To: nickcarraway

Yes!


4 posted on 07/06/2012 8:10:21 PM PDT by TheStickman
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To: nickcarraway

Easy as pie.


5 posted on 07/06/2012 8:12:11 PM PDT by Stentor (Former free citizen of the US. Currently subject of the same.)
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To: nickcarraway

Who says he ever loved the _itch?!


6 posted on 07/06/2012 8:12:35 PM PDT by Revolting cat! (Bad things are wrong!)
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Sandra, please come back. At least get closer. I so missed you. I’m a much better shot now...


7 posted on 07/06/2012 8:14:10 PM PDT by Cyber Ninja
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To: nickcarraway; SpinnerWebb

Does a bear crap in the woods?


8 posted on 07/06/2012 8:16:49 PM PDT by tx_eggman (Liberalism is only possible in that moment when a man chooses Barabas over Christ.)
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To: nickcarraway

No.

Though I have been happily married to a wonderful woman for 15 years my first wife will always be my true love. We met in college, grew up together and after 18 years she decided she needed her space. She filed for a divorce I didn’t want. She remarried 4 years later. She died from breast cancer 3 years after remarrying. I got remarried one month before her death. In a letter she wrote to be delivered to me after her death she told me she had never stopped loving me. I know I have never stopped loving her.


9 posted on 07/06/2012 8:17:24 PM PDT by redangus
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To: nickcarraway

YES!


10 posted on 07/06/2012 8:18:03 PM PDT by big bad easter bunny (If it weren't for coffee I would still be living with my parents!)
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To: nickcarraway; a fool in paradise

The question would be more reasonable if it axed about the future ex!


11 posted on 07/06/2012 8:18:36 PM PDT by Revolting cat! (Bad things are wrong!)
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To: nickcarraway

If I’d have shot mine when I first wanted to, I’d have been out by now.


12 posted on 07/06/2012 8:19:51 PM PDT by umgud (No Rats, No Rino's)
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To: nickcarraway

I don’t know that it would be called love, but I don’t believe there’s bond of some sort is ever completely broken.
1. Marriage was instituted by God. “And the two shall
become one flesh.” It may be hell on earth, and may devolve into loss of respect or hate...
2. God hates divorce, so while the papers are signed and the
couple goes their seperate ways, I don’t believe there
really is such a thing as divorce.

I’m old, it’s just my opinion from observation, but it also hits close to home in some ways.


13 posted on 07/06/2012 8:21:02 PM PDT by WestwardHo
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To: nickcarraway

All yes, for at least awhile.

Many yes, forever.


14 posted on 07/06/2012 8:25:56 PM PDT by Secret Agent Man (I can neither confirm or deny that; even if I could, I couldn't - it's classified.)
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To: redangus

A most touching and romantic tale. Thank you.


15 posted on 07/06/2012 8:26:01 PM PDT by Old Sarge (We are now officially over the precipice, we just havent struck the ground yet)
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To: nickcarraway
Does a Man Ever Truly Stop Loving His Ex-Wife?

It doesn't matter if the man never stops loving the ex. If the ex holds nothing but vitriol in her heart, then love is useless.

16 posted on 07/06/2012 8:27:48 PM PDT by Old Sarge (We are now officially over the precipice, we just havent struck the ground yet)
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To: umgud

Thanks my screen needed cleaning anyway.. LOL


17 posted on 07/06/2012 8:27:58 PM PDT by bleach (If I agreed with you, we would both be wrong.)
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To: nickcarraway

Yes to all four of mine....


18 posted on 07/06/2012 8:28:42 PM PDT by baddog 219
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To: nickcarraway

When the vitriolic acid is spilled and etches it way into the soul of each partner leaving it a mass of of denatured protein, anguish and screaming nerve ends, NO. When you hurt the child, it is game over!

But most do not end this way and thus the lady from the past still exists in the present. I was lucky and she does not exist in my present life and I raised our child.


19 posted on 07/06/2012 8:30:49 PM PDT by cpdiii (Deckhand, Roughneck, Mud Man, Geologist, Pilot, Pharmacist. THE CONSTITUTION IS WORTH DYING FOR!)
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To: nickcarraway

My ex-husband still loves me and is sorry he left our family.


20 posted on 07/06/2012 8:30:59 PM PDT by ottbmare (The OTTB Mare)
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