Skip to comments.My kitty cat Leopold had to be put to sleep.
Posted on 07/29/2012 3:04:52 PM PDT by POWERSBOOTHEFAN
Our cat Leopold had to be put to sleep. He had a severe bladder problem that couldn't be taken care of. It's a major problem for male cats.
Does anyone here have any ideas on how to cope with such a loss? I'm so heartbroken.
This was sent to us once and we pass it on to you.... it helped alot.....
If it should be that I grow frail and weak
And pain should keep me from my sleep,
Then will you do what must be done,
For this — the last battle — can’t be won.
You will be sad I understand,
But don’t let grief then stay your hand,
For on this day, more than the rest,
Your love and friendship must stand the test.
We have had so many happy years,
You wouldn’t want me to suffer so.
When the time comes,
please, let me go.
Take me where, to my needs they’ll tend,
Only, stay with me till the end
And hold me firm and speak to me
Until my eyes no longer see.
I know in time you will agree
It is a kindness you do to me.
Although my tail its last has waved,
From pain and suffering I have been saved.
Don’t grieve that it must be you
Who has to decide this thing to do;
We’ve been so close — we two — these years,
Don’t let your heart hold any tears.
Someone once told me that she believes that the purpose of all life on Earth is to learn the meaning of love, then teach it to another. If we are fortunate enough to accomplish that in one lifetime, then we are free to move on. From what I’ve read in your comments, I would say that your feline friend attained his goal, and for that you are blessed.
I had to put my kitty, Kelsey, down at about 4 years. It broke my heart but I had her brother to look after. I adopted another little girl and all is well. Another animal will help ease the pain. I’m so sorry for your loss.
I agree, I lost a dog last year that had been with me for fifteen years and I didn’t know a person could grieve so much for an animal. I got another dog immediately and she seemed to sense that I needed comforting. She was a big blessing to me and has helped me get over the pain. I still miss my dog but the new one helped so much and I love her too.
Sorrow! Soft kitty, warm kitty, little ball of fur.......
I’m so so sorry for your loss and truly know what you are going through....my cat died in 2005....it was beyond horrible and my heart was broken. Wasn’t sure I would survive the pain...however, within days went to the local shelter and adopted two 6-month old kitties. That searing pain was replaced with love at first sight. At that moment in time they needed me as much as I needed them - don’t know what motivated me to go that day, but thankfully I did.
I am so sorry.
My folks sent flowers when my special guy died.
Over 30 years and I still miss him.
Don’t wait too long to get another, if you can. I waited over 20 to get another and now have ended up with three.
They just want to be loved.
We have a friend who fosters kittens, not dogs. The foster organization pays for food and medical bills while they get on their feet and become old enough to adopt. The place keeps our friend busy all the time. Right now, she’s taking care of 7 (now, down to 2 left) kittens that were going to be euthanized. Can you imagine?
With the economy so bad, people can’t care for their pets, especially the older or younger ones. Just like with people.
So, when you can think about it again, consider helping someone else.....
Your special pet will always be yours. Always.
Holy cow....you aren’t the only one crying.
Holy cow....you aren’t the only one crying.
We have a cat, we call her Sandy, and is 14 years old now. We got her for our daughter when she was 13, but, she’s moved on and out now, forming her own family and a career, and now, she’s got 2 other cats and a dog. Sandy stayed with us, and she’s part of “us”.
Now, Sandy developed cancer in her stomach, and the veterinarians (and my daughter, who’s also now a veterinarian), told us that she would have about 3 to 6 months left to live. But, we could prolong her life, and time with us, with chemotherapy and a few other medicines to allow her to live in comfort while getting treatments. We pondered putting her to sleep, but, couldn’t think of being without her. The vets told us that, if we opted for the chemo, she’d live for around 5 mos to perhaps another year. We went for the treatments, and, while they’re not inexpensive, we have no regrets. So, here, more than $2000 later, she’s still with us, some six months after starting treatments, but, we know that, the inevitable end will come, and we see and hear her symptoms almost every day, but, she still seems “comfortable” and sometimes, like her old self. She’ll be gone, perhaps in another few months, but, we try to stay in denial. However, once we begin to notice that she’s very uncomfortable, we’ll have to make the decision to let her go, as much as it’s going to pain us to do.
But, Sandy, and the 2 other cats we have, are and will be a part of us. We already know how hard it is to lose a pet, since we lost Fluffy, our dog back in 2004. We still have his pictures with us, since, he was/is part of “us”, just like Sandy and Dusty and Rocky are.
We hug Sandy every chance we get, and bring her to bed as often as she’ll allow us to do.
I feel your pain. When I lost my dog the heartache was unbelievable.
Advice #1: Feel it. Don’t suppress it. If that means being alone, so be it. If that means it goes on for days, so be it. It’s healthy, and an appropriate inner memorial.
Advice #2: I recently read that emotional heartache has been scanned (MRI, I think), as activating actual pain neurons, indicating a physical componant to emotional pain. So as weird as this may sound, taking some pain meds, such as aspirin, may help diminish the intensity if it gets too bad.
Advice #3: As with all grief management, remember to eat, go for walks (get outside), and get plenty of sleep (try melatonin if you can’t feel sleepy).
Advice #4: Pray.
This won’t help right away. But take comfort that you did what was best for him even though it caused you great suffering. That was the most loving thing you could do for him. I am very sorry for your loss.
Try to remind yourself of the good times, know he would want you happy, that he had the best possible life with you, and that you have a created a happy life.
The intention wasn’t to make it be about us or our kitty but when started it kept going until it was becoming impossible to type on the tablet.
She was the last link to a house that had been in the family since the early 1900’s. A house where we raised three great kids and made our home until it became too much for us.
She was our oldest son’s wife’s kitty but when they started to have children she had to go so we took her.
As I said even though I am more of a dog person and really pretty much a hard butt, it was very traumatic. She was a connection to past treasures.
Mrs p6 is looking at me wondering why I’m wiping my eyes and I dang well am not going to let her know!
The hurt will soften but the love will always leave a hole inside somewhere. Thank God for the gift of the years. Be proud that you did the right thing. There is a kitten or cat who needs a new home at a nearby shelter. Give one of the a home right away - not to replace your kitty, but to have its own chance at a good and happy life. For what it’s worth: I believe Heaven is chuck full of animals!
You can’t just swap them out like a tire change, have you ever lost a beloved pet unexpectedly?
You didn’t read everything, the cat was only 4.
My sympathies to you Friend. I have had to do the same many times over the years with many a pet cat and dog. When the time comes for my boy, my male cat Scooter who is my best bud, my pride and joy(and diabetic) I know it’ll just kill me. But know that “Leopold’’ is no longer suffering and is now with St. Francis of Assisi, patron saint of animals. Grieve for him but not too long, “Leopold’’ in his own way wouldn’t want you do. If he could, bless his little feline heart, he would want you to go to a shelter and bring home one of his friends who needs a good home.
Earlier, we lost Sweetie. And, she was a sweetie.
She was a talker and did everything you wanted her to do. Obeyed every thing.
Suddenly, she began to lose weight. The vet thought she had leukemia. But, her siblings showed no symptoms and still don't. She lost 12 ounces in 5 days.
She couldn't eat, etc. We took her to the vet and he put her down. A most difficult decision for us.
She was gone before he could give her the second shot. The pain-killer stopped her heart.
I know she knew she was dying and she indicated to us that she accepted it.
Talk about hard. It has been months, but I have tears writing this.
Oh, I know how it is. When animal lovers get together on these pet threads, individual stories just start to flow.
Those little critters sure do find their way into our hearts.
This problem happens mainly to fixed male cats. The vet had us monitor his diet, because diet has a lot to do with the crystallization. I believe it had something to do with high content of a certain ingredient in off-the-shelf dry food but I can't remember what it was.
I wish I lived closer. My wife and I took in the pregnant neighborhood stray and she had 3 little ones 4 weeks ago. Mama is a manx/manx mix, and 2 of the 3 kittens have little stubs instead of tails. Get a shelter kitty, save it's life and enrich yours, it will help.
God made us custodians of the beasts of the earth, and as such we sometimes have to make the hard choices like yours. Saving those animals from a slow, agonizing death is obedience to God.
Sorry for your loss. Makes me remember my pets I’ve lost. You can remember that every day they were with you, they were loved. You’ll get him back one day. He’s gone for now, but not forever.
If you didn’t feel this bad, it would mean he was of little value to you. We really feel the loss of things that mean something to us. It gets better. Certain days may bring it back.
I’m very sorry about your loss of Leo.
I posted a thread back in May about the loss of my best dog ever, Boss. I got many sympathetic comments, as you have.
Here is one comment I received which may provide some solace:
I know what youre experiencing. The memories of the dogs I have loved are with me every day. I find Romans 8:21 a comfort. It says that the entire creation, of which my dogs are certainly a part, will be redeemed in the new earth. I look forward to seeing them again. Ill look for Boss, too. I love the ridgebacks.
I lost my Bootie (not a pun) on the 8th of July...he had had an amputation of a hind leg last Nov and was hyper-thyroid so had to take that nasty medication which the vet who came to our house to euthanize him said was very bad for cats.
He was my loving buddie, the only thing that kept me going sometimes and gave unconditional love.
I know your pain and can only recommend you look at a lot of pictures and/or videos to keep the memory alive.
I’m sorry about your loss. I have a cat and she has kidney problems. She’s as light as a kitten now for a cat that’s 17 years old and used to weigh over 8 pounds.
My daughter loves her dearly. We’ve had her since my daughter was about six years old. We’re dreading that day when she does go. But for now, we just enjoy her.
Remember what Leopold gave you and it is okay to grieve over him.
I sympathize completely, having had to make that tough decision for two dogs who suddenly had strokes, one old, one relatively young.
With the young one, I literally went directly to the local pet rescue and brought home two little boy dogs who needed a home. It comforted the “little brother” Fifi left behind, and also distracted me from my misery.
There’s a new kitty out there who needs your love and care.
I guess that’s what’s hardest for me...
Did I do everything I could for him with his diseases?
Was the vet looking out for his best health?
Many questions but I can’t see how it could have been done differently.
may the Good Lord comfort you
So sorry PBF. Adopt another kitty when you are ready. Save a life in Leopold’s honor.
I have been in your exact shoes & it hurts worse than anything. I like to think that your beloved Leopold is being shown the ropes by our late, beloved Blanche...............be well.
Those darn cats, they can really tug at your heartstrings.
We recently lost two of our three cats within two months. The 1st one, Shadow, was 18 years old and very frail for a long time. Finally went to sleep in a corner and never woke up.
That was hard but was a blessing. The 2nd one, Marbles, was only 11 years old and died quickly and unexpectedly within a day. Not much suffering and we don’t know the cause of death. It was devastating. I cried in private for several days before the pain started wearing away. I truly grieved more for Marbles than most of my human friends and relatives that have passed away. I don’t know why that is but I think it is related to the love those special pets give us. I truly missed the unconditional love, affection and companionship Marbles provided every day.
Since we still have one cat left, we decided to wait on getting another, simply for the fact we know a new cat wouldn’t be welcomed by the remaining kitty.
The pain does fade but I truly believe God places these special creatures in our lives for our benefit. I hope and pray I will see all my special pet friends in heaven and we will have a joyous reunion!
If you have no other pet, I would adopt another one as soon as possible and throw yourself into the care of your new friend. This will hopefully distract you from some of the grieving but grieve you must. May Leopold live in your heart forever. Be grateful for the time you had with him, however short!
Sorry to hear about your kitty....you will probably cry off and on for a couple of days and then it gets easier...Do not stiffle your tears, they are part of the healing..I have 2 old dogs buried in my back yard...the first one I had the vet come out to the car to put her down. They wouldn’t let me leave the parking lot until I stopped sobbing and I live right next door to the vet....it hurts for quite a while then the pain gets softer...
Had the same problem with my Frisco, 6 years ago.. Have two more cats. Still miss Frisco. Let yourself grieve. Don’t let anyone diminish it. Cats are awesome friends and it hurts when they have to go.
Pumpkin and Leo would roughhouse like kids and we even had to break them up,LOL.
Pumpkin was beyond pissed when my mother and sister brought him home,but he quickly adjusted.
I don’t know if my mother is going to adopt another cat,but if she does it’ll be a girl.
My sympathy. You are entitled to a period of mourning.
Male cats get crystals in their urine, it is a common problem, sometimes they can be saved by putting them on special urinal foods. I have a male that has to eat this stuff, it has to be by prescription only, for some reason. I have another male that I feed this food to also just in case and also my female eats it because it is too hard to separate them at feeding time. I got lucky, my vet told me that if he had another attack I would have to put him down but it has been three years now and he is fine. My advice to any male cat owner, find food specifically made for the Urine problem for male cats and use it exclusively, it is not as good as the vet prescribed stuff but it usually works if they have never had an attack before.
Oh I am so sorry...I can’t even imagine the pain of burying a child. We love our animals but understand that there is a difference. Prayers for your loss.
Looks like my advice was reiterated about elebenty-leven times here on FR. I know that Craigslist here in NYC has death row kitties advertised every single day, and death row doggies. It breaks my heart to read those posts. Perhaps your local Craigslist has some babies listed that need a good home like yours.
Male kitties are prone to this.
You cant just swap them out like a tire change, have you ever lost a beloved pet unexpectedly?............................................ Yes, more than one and we adopted others. The ones we missed the most was our 15yr old flat hair retriever, and long hair 21yr old Tabby that grew up together. We lost a couple to accidents, and medical problems. The cats we have replaced, the dog we would, but we don’t have the 2 acres now, where we can let it run like we had when we had our retriever. Currently we still have 2 USA short haired Tabby’s that remain inside. Outside they would be alligator food, since we have those roaming the area at night. Talk about losing pets unexpectedly, we have missing pet signs posted daily around here.
Thank you for your kind words of support. :)
Leopold was my buddy and I know it’ll take time to move on.
I miss his kneading and purring.
Thanks again everyone for your kindness. I appreciate it.
Leo was so funny with his air of ‘sophistication’.
He had this sort of ‘prim and proper’ attitude with the way he would sit with his front legs crossed.
Our other cat Pumpkin is the laid-back “Cool kitty”,LOL.
I’m sure He has a place for our beloved Leopold.
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