So… 
Fluttershy & Rarity; the elements of Kindness and Generosity.
Posted on 11/10/2014 8:44:34 AM PST by SeekAndFind
So…
Fluttershy & Rarity; the elements of Kindness and Generosity.
I know we have a piece of it... in one of these boxes...
probably several.
Aye — Though sometimes it's amazing how blind we [humanity] are to recognizing the needs of others even in the general sense.
(It doesn't help that there's a rather large internal drive to present a false front and try to hide needs either.)
See if you can isolate the marriage/divorce stats by ethnicity.
There’s one ethnic group in which a majority have married & then stayed married.
If you get my drift.
I thought of that, too.
It's also interesting to note that those seem to be the in-general hardest things for the respective spouse.*
And I don't think those are exactly discreet qualities, meaning that love engenders respect and respect enables love.
(Or put another way: if you love someone, then you have to respect them as a person; if you do not respect someone as a person you cannot love them.)
* — The feminist movement has made it especially hard for women to respect their husbands; and indeed has done much to destroy all dignity and respect for that role.
The majority of first time marriages succeed.
The statistics listed here are skewed by multiple divorcers.
If you are marrying for the first time to someone else who is marrying for the first time, your marriage is likely to last.
To all FReeper men... Go home and hug your wife as hard as you can.
I would give everything I own for 1 minute to be able to hug my wife again.
What great advice....read your about page..God bless and virtual hugs...
This implies, accurately and maybe more easily accepted, that the failures (defined as broadly as this study, i.e. to include couples who stay together hating and/or abusing one or each other) are caused by a tendency toward selfishness and being inconsiderate. Movie example: The War of the Roses, a fairly accurate portrayal of a marriage between two iconic irreligious self obsessed liberals (all the main characters being portrayed by actors who were and are the same).
I am one of the many pets she keeps.
The two words to keep a marriage going....”Yes, Dear.”
The majority of marriages do not fail. Faulty stats
In addition to having both husband and wife being believers in God - particularly the husband loving his wife as “Christ loved His church - I would also add making sure you LIKE each other as friends.
Many married couples I’ve been around say they love each other, but they don’t seem to like each other very much. I’m speaking from my own parent’s example. They are still married, but they don’t seem to enjoy each other’s company very much and are cross and rude to each other. They stayed married solely out of commitment - which I respect and appreciate - but it saddens me that I don’t believe they ever were friends.
Liking each other and becoming each other’s best friend is a big plus when it comes to happiness in marriage. My wife and I just celebrated our 36th anniversary and we enjoy each other’s company as much or,more than we ever did.
My advice to young people - know God, follow His commands regarding sexual purity, marital commitment, and loving/respecting each other - but make sure you LIKE each other before you ever get to the point of marriage.
One side note, I’ve heard many times from well meaning Christian advisors, and I am a Christian as well, that when the apostle Paul tells husbands to love their wives and wives to respect their husbands, somehow that means that wives don’t have to love their husbands and that husbands don’t have to respect their wives. I believe that is a distortion of what Paul was trying to say.
Paul was tying to say that real, Godly marital love is impossible without both husband and wife respecting and loving each the other. Does Christ only “love” His church, yet has no respect for it? Are we to only “respect Christ” and yet not love Him as well? Is genuine love possible without respect? I don’t think so.
I do think my parents love each other, but they really don’t have much respect for each other, so while they are still married, I don’t think they have much joy.
That is so bad! Lol
Correct.
Now back on my meds. . . .
Jesus was unsurprisingly about 2000 years ahead of the “scientists” when he indicated, as evidenced by Matthew 7:12, to do other what you would have them do to you.
Husbands, be KIND to your wives this evening! Wives, be GENEROUS to your husbands! My feeling is that America has experienced a wake-up call with the recent elections...the time is nigh for we who know America’s greatness to come to the fore and LEAD us into a bright, new future! May Almighty God let it be so.
Re: “There are two prerequisites for success in a licit marriage, once formed. the husband needs to love the LORD more than he loves his own life. the wife needs to love the LORD more than she loves her own life.”
Amen to all you posted. I would still add that if one wants joy in their marriages - it really, really helps if they “like” each other. Liking is different than loving. You don’t have to have either to have a marriage, but if you do you are doubly blessed.
Many husbands and wives love each other, but don’t like each other. That was my point, and my advice to young Christian unmarrieds was to be sure your prospective husband or wife was not only someone you “loved” (which is an act of the will, by the way), but also someone you truly liked, form a real friendship with (which is not something that is necessarily an act of the will).
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