Posted on 08/20/2015 7:04:09 PM PDT by MinorityRepublican
Anna Duggar partially blames herself for her husband Josh's admitted infidelity, it has emerged.
The 27-year-old - who shares four children with Josh - will likely 'on some level.... absorb some of the blame' for her spouse's cheating and addiction to online porn, a Duggar family insider says.
And she will 'no way' leave Josh for his actions - which the 19 Kids and Counting star confessed to after he was named as one of the 37million spouses to allegedly have Ashley Madison accounts.
'Anna will not leave him. As with her in-laws, she is turning more to her faith than ever,' the insider told PEOPLE Magazine. 'She is fully and permanently committed to her marriage and children.
(Excerpt) Read more at dailymail.co.uk ...
Anna also made a vow to have and to hold which she seems to be confessing she habitually broke.
1 Corinthians 7:5 Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.
If she has been defrauding him, then she is turning him over to Satan to be tempted to bitterness for being defrauded and to seek sexual release and pleasure other than at home. If she is confessing that she did not keep her vow "to have and to hold", then she has been defrauding him and she is not a victim, but a co-vow breaker. It does not justify Josh, only the blood of Christ can do that, but it makes her also a hypocrite and a sinner who contributed to and inflamed her husband.
It is a head-scratchier that so many defend a wife who does not desire her husband and then lambaste a husband who finds another outlet for his desire. Covenant vows are broken both by defrauding within the marriage and by failure to forsake all others. The Duggers now have an opportunity to live real family values in the storms of a dysfunctional situation that is the result of a myriad of sins. Sad for them that what ever happens will under the weight of shame in the public eye.
In fact, she doesn't seem to be confessing anything at all. She's not quoted even once in the linked article -- it's all "a source" close to the family. And the worst direct accusation made against Anna's behavior is "...that there will be 'some suggestion' in the family household about whether Anna 'should have been more aware of the pressures Josh was under' and the 'issues he was facing...'"
Looks to me like she's going to be absorbing blame because that's just how this family rolls. It's the woman's job to be a perfect wife, even when that means reading her husband's mind and adjusting accordingly.
No, serial adulterers are very much like serial wife-beaters (and often they are one in the same).
One type of wife takes her husband back again and again when he apologizes. She’s always hoping he changed this time around. (Of course, he’ll find a way to blame her for making him beat her.) But he never changes; each time she takes him back, he simply learns more about how to manipulate her.
The other type of wife also takes her husband back again and again when he apologizes. She, too, is always hoping he changed this time around. (And, of course, he finds a way to blame her for making him cheat.) He never changes either; he only learns how to be sneakier.
For a while, I sat in a church group listening to many Christian women cry about their husbands’ infidelities. Some of these women were still very young and beautiful. There were older women there, too. All of these women considered it their Christian duty to stay with their husbands. Each husband would pretend to change and would fool everyone for some time. Eventually, each and every one of those husbands were discovered cheating again.
Like those men, this one will never change, either. It has nothing to do with his wife. He is the problem.
I've seen the same thing. And when the woman has finally suffered enough, her church has plenty of pious Christians who've never had to face anything like her problems in their own families, ready to shame her for being the victim of adultery and/or abuse, and to accuse her of unChristian-like vindictiveness for refusing to allow herself to go on having her anti-husband keep mocking her faith-filled efforts to single-handedly hold their marriage together.
I’ve witnessed some of that in churches myself. I’ve never understood that kind of thinking.
“It is a head-scratchier that so many defend a wife who does not desire her husband and then lambaste a husband who finds another outlet for his desire.”
You are so right. If she had just given him a piece of ass more often, none of this would have happened.
Except her credit card info wasn’t in the database...just his. That you would accuse her of infidelity with no evidence whatsoever, when SHE is the victim here, says a lot about the type of person you are.
Lots of people in this thread trashing the wife who did nothing wrong...absolutely pathetic and shameful. You all should be ashamed of yourselves. It seems the fans of Josh Duggar will bend over backwards to defend this deviant’s actions, even attacking the reputation of his wife without any evidence whatsoever.
I noticed in the article that Anna herself has said nothing on the subject. All the content is speculation from others.
There is indeed a school of thought that ascribes to women the responsibility for every action of men, but Mrs. Duggar has not declared herself an adherent.
^^^^^^^^^THIS^^^^^^^^^^^
If Josh said he wants a sex change, the controversy would vanish overnight. He’d probably get his TV show back.
These people just need to go away.
They have no idea the size of the club they have handed to Christian-haters.
I totally agree with you. The judgmentalism and vitriol displayed by some of the comments against this young women are over the top. We have a young mother of 4 stairstep children who innocently married a young man with a sex addiction to pornography. His mind and view of sexuality have been poisoned by pornography since he was a teenager. He did not marry a porn star. He did not marry a prostitute. He did not marry a stripper. All of these women only act like they are sexually interested in their male customers. No normal, healthy pure young woman can compete with the fake male fantasies of pornography. Nor should she be made to feel as if she should have to in order to keep her husband from looking elsewhere for sexual gratification. No doubt, if she had been “ready to go” regardless of whether she was exhausted with 4 small children, 9 months pregnant, up all night with sick babies, was on her period or just given birth, her husband would have resorted to pornography and infidelity because that is what men poisoned by pornography do.
Some of these people have said it’s perfectly justified for a husband to pursue homosexual affairs if his wife won’t engage in sodomy. After all, she’s not the, ahem, orifice she was before having children.
I’m tempted to have my daughters read some of this stuff as “aversion therapy”: “My dears, you can’t recognize these nutters just by looking at them. Old Maid With Cats is a perfectly legitimate life path.”
Are wives and husband suppose to have sex with each other? Of course.
Is one declining to go along with a certain fantasy or act excuse for the other to cheat? No.
Not sure why this is even an issue.
And Anna's partly blaming herself? Normal.
Wives and husbands, tend when something goes wrong with the other, to indulge in the "if only's".
95% of the time there was nothing realistically they could have done but they still do it.
It's called love.
She is an idiot.
Yep—they’re only hurting their kids with all the bad publicity they keep setting themselves up for.
Enough already—go live modest lives and try to get yourself right, Josh.
She is not an idiot. She spent the last 7 years loving him and bearing his children. This scandal is public and she needs time to deal with it. I pray for her. I hope she finds the strength to deal with it all. I seriously doubt that Josh can change. There is now a rather long history of his sexual perversions. It’s a very sad situation, but we are not living it, she is.
I think having four little kids would make cheating pretty difficult.
I don’t see how she can ever trust this guy. He seems really disgusting.
You do realize Josh had serious problems before they were married, right? And you do realize they have four very young kids, right?
I think you are nuts if you are trying to blame the wife for this jerk’s behavior.
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