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Why Living “Presently” Could Ruin Your Entire Life
Medium ^ | November 25, 2015 | Benjamin Hardy

Posted on 11/27/2015 6:03:04 PM PST by sparklite2

Most lifestyle "gurus" have sold us on the idea of living for the moment, that right now is all that exists, and that we should only do that which makes us feel good.

Although this advice is alluring and justifying, it often fails to produce desirable results in the real world. Actually, in many cases, it ruins people's lives.

Living for the moment is the reason people leave marriages, lose control over their health, and why America is trillions of dollars in debt.

Instead of living for the moment, it is better to live for the past, as you'd prefer to remember that moment, and your life in general. Indeed, time is fleeting. The present moment barely exists. The moment you become conscious of it, it's over.

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1 posted on 11/27/2015 6:03:04 PM PST by sparklite2
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“Living for the moment” has been pushed as part of the pop cultural revolution of the 1960s.

It has always been extremely destructive.


2 posted on 11/27/2015 6:07:14 PM PST by marktwain
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To: sparklite2

No problem. At my age I spend most of my time in the past ... so to speak.


3 posted on 11/27/2015 6:11:45 PM PST by doc1019 (Out of my mind ... back in 5)
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To: marktwain
And if you can't be with the one you love honey, Love the one you're with --Stephen Stills. That about sums up this train of thought.
4 posted on 11/27/2015 6:13:30 PM PST by Fungi
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To: sparklite2

I never have liked the “live in the present” idea. Animals live in the present because they live by instinct with little or no memory or planning for the future. The ability to not live in the present is one thing that separates us from animals.


5 posted on 11/27/2015 6:15:03 PM PST by KarlInOhio (CNBC = Clowns Neutered By Cruz)
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To: marktwain
There's a point to living in the now. There is no anxiety for a future if you live NOW. I do this myself. My morality is Christian-based, and if I live morally, my NOW SELF feels better about myself.

I also have far less by way of fear by living in the now.

6 posted on 11/27/2015 6:16:47 PM PST by Lazamataz ( If they try firearm confiscation or gun registration, I go ballistic.)
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To: KarlInOhio

I dunno, it works for me. Plan for a future, but live in the now. Learn from a past, but live in the now.


7 posted on 11/27/2015 6:17:41 PM PST by Lazamataz ( If they try firearm confiscation or gun registration, I go ballistic.)
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To: doc1019

Agreed. I have a whole lot more past behind me than future ahead. Living in the moment at my age is a willing appreciation of the consciousness we will all lose.


8 posted on 11/27/2015 6:18:38 PM PST by sparklite2 (Islam = all bathwater, no baby.)
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To: KarlInOhio

” little or no memory “

Never had a dog?


9 posted on 11/27/2015 6:19:40 PM PST by sparklite2 (Islam = all bathwater, no baby.)
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To: sparklite2
My understanding by what many mean by 'living presently' has nothing to do with living for the moment, that right now is all that exists, and that we should only do that which makes us feel good'

It has much more to do with appreciating the present moment, taking joy in it and really observing and experiencing; and not borrowing trouble with worry. -JT
10 posted on 11/27/2015 6:21:53 PM PST by Jamestown1630 ("A Republic, If you can keep it.")
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Good way to put it.


11 posted on 11/27/2015 6:23:02 PM PST by sparklite2 (Islam = all bathwater, no baby.)
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That’s why I prefer to live in the future. “Tomorrow I’ll mow the grass. Tomorrow I’ll go to the store. Tomorrow I’ll clean the gutters.”


12 posted on 11/27/2015 6:25:11 PM PST by Greetings_Puny_Humans (I mostly come out at night... mostly.)
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To: Jamestown1630

It’s not living for the moment, it’s living in the moment. Big, big difference.


13 posted on 11/27/2015 6:26:39 PM PST by statered ("And you know what I mean.")
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The only moment we have is the present moment. When the next one comes, it too is the present moment. Live the best you can in this moment and you set a chain of causation for the next one.


14 posted on 11/27/2015 6:29:08 PM PST by TBP (Nous sommes tout Francais.)
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To: sparklite2

Now is the only time we CAN live.


15 posted on 11/27/2015 6:30:02 PM PST by TBP (Nous sommes tout Francais.)
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To: statered

Exactly. So many of us don’t stop to notice the beauty around us all the time in nature, other people, art, etc.; and, most importantly, to feel Grateful for it!

I think gratitude is one of the most useful and edifying emotions that we can feel.

-JT


16 posted on 11/27/2015 6:30:03 PM PST by Jamestown1630 ("A Republic, If you can keep it.")
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To: TBP

My causation chain needs timing.


17 posted on 11/27/2015 6:30:27 PM PST by Larry Lucido
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To: Jamestown1630

Exactly.


18 posted on 11/27/2015 6:31:00 PM PST by TBP (Nous sommes tout Francais.)
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To: statered

Yuge, as someone might say.


19 posted on 11/27/2015 6:31:28 PM PST by TBP (Nous sommes tout Francais.)
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To: TBP

I think it was an old Jewish meme that went, “Take time to savor every moment of life, because when you’re dead, you’re dead for a very long time.”

Or as Firesign Theatre put it in an interview with a resurrected Marilyn Monroe ....

“Thank you for being here, Miss Monroe.”
“It’s good to be here. It’s good to be ANYWHERE.”


20 posted on 11/27/2015 6:33:38 PM PST by sparklite2 (Islam = all bathwater, no baby.)
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