Posted on 02/24/2017 12:44:23 PM PST by BJ1
I think he’s a big, big man....the kind of man apparently not common especially among the haters here on FR.....
There is no right answer because divorce is just so wrong.
The kids have already been abandoned by a parent. That can’t be undone.
Man, you’re focusing on all the WRONG questions. Who CARES if she’s a mean rotten ex? What would you like for him to do about it? Kick her ass and show the kids that he’s the boss?
Of course my advice works both ways. It also works one way. Even if one ex is a jerk - the other MUST show respect.
Yes, the flowers and breakfast might be a bit much. But the key here is to be nice Even if the ex is a jerk. Be nice.
The kids are watching. And learning.
My take:
She cheated on him because he is a pajama boy. This feels like more media emasculation propaganda.
I am all for showing respectful treatment of others to our children. I am not for being some cuckold to the media’s current concept of womanhood.
You are wrong.
This is a real man and an incredible father. He is teaching his sons important lessons. This isn’t about being divorced, this is about what he is teaching his children. He would do these things if he and his wife were married because he wants to raise his sons well. He is keeping his part of being a father...which makes him a real man
I couldn’t find who left whom in the article. For all we know, he cheated on her and feels guilty. What new man in her life would allow her ex to come over early to help make breakfast?
Yes. And it does not say (or I missed) the ages of the kids, which would be relevant here.
I expect that his actions and style will also help their mother to teach them to treat people with respect and generosity. I do not see a downside to what he is doing.
I bought presents for my daughter to give to my ex....otherwise where is she going to get the money let alone how is she going to shop? When she was older I would give her money to go buy gifts but when she was young....l
OH my goodness...being male is not the same as being a man. Certainly you don’t think those males who best the wife and children are men.....
Yes I have and I think this dad is great
While your post may be “morally right”, it is not in synch with the reality for many, many families.
You say that the kids have been abandoned by a parent? Which parent? It seems that the father is certainly trying to do his best. I don’t think we know enough about the mother, who may be an excellent parent, herself.
“cannot be undone” - but where do you go from there? It is what it is.
He’s training his two sons to grow up to be doormats. This isn’t going to help them.
> “Raise good men. Raise strong women. Please. The world needs them.
Wrong order: Raise strong men and good women. We’ve got tons of worthless “strong” sluts and tons of weak nice men. Neither of which are particularly useful or happy with their roles.
Point taken.
“On the downside the ex probably tells the kids what a scumbag this good man is”
If so, it will come back and bite her later on when the children put it all together. Which they ultimately will do.
“On the downside the ex probably tells the kids what a scumbag this good man is”
If so, it will come back and bite her later on when the children put it all together. Which they ultimately will do.
Let me tell you Beta males what’s going on.
1. Ex told hubby it’s not you, it’s me line and split.
2. Hubby is still not over it and thinks that there’s still a shot he can get her back.
3. Hubby comes over and takes care of the kids while ex bangs her side piece she’s been seeing the entire time behind his back during the marriage.
Why is this so hard for you guys to figure out?
Women initiate divorce 70% of the time, even when they are the ones cheating.
I think it’s safe to say it was her.
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