Skip to comments.Mother makes appeal for a lover for 21-year-old Otto (He has Down's Syndrome)
Posted on 03/17/2009 1:00:43 AM PDT by 2ndDivisionVet
Like most mothers Lucy Baxter wants her child to live a fully rounded life - including the experience of a physical relationship and even finding love. But her 21-year-old son Otto has Down's syndrome and has had trouble finding a partner. So she is appealing for women to come forward so Otto can 'enjoy the same experiences as other men his age'.
She says she is even prepared to go so far as to pay for a prostitute for her adopted son. Miss Baxter, 50, also hopes he may one day become a father - despite the controversy this may attract. 'Society has a learning disability when it comes to Down's syndrome,' she said.
'Why should these people be kept separate and pigeon-holed when they have the same emotions, desires and feelings as so-called normal people?
'If he doesn't get a girlfriend, I will feel really bad, because I have sold him this thing that he is like everybody else. That's why I'm working overtime to get this sorted for him.'
Miss Baxter from Abingdon, Oxfordshire, works for the mental health charity Mencap and campaigns for the rights of those with Down's syndrome.
She is single and has never married but has three other adopted sons - James, 27, Titus, 14, and Raphael, seven. They all have Down's syndrome. She has already helped James to set up a page on a social networking website to invite potential partners to come forward for him. 'I'd like all my boys to find love and enjoy sex,' she said.
'I would have no problem paying for Otto to go to Amsterdam to visit a brothel if that's what he wanted.
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That’s a helluva mother right there.
Spiritually, yes. Physically, no.
Every human being has his particular cross to bear. I appears that this woman has allowed her emotions to cloud her judgment.
What’s his determined “developmental level”? If he’s really only mildly developmentally disabled, then it’s not as bad (very close to normal) compared to a man with the “developmental level” of a twelve year old or less. Also, how much of what’s going on here is from just the mother, and how much of this is just from this man independently? There really are those with Downs Syndrome who do live like how most people normally live, because it’s only at a mild level.
What did Otto ever do to you? LOL
Can’t, I’m speechless.
Convenient they’re all boys. Wonder if she’d want the same for a 21-year-old daughter with the mind of a toddler.
Ah, come on, now you’re insulting those with DS, including my 15 year old who has DS.
Yes, there is a lot that isn’t said here.
This woman is a sick product of the pop culture and does nothing beneficial for her son this way.
“I have sold him this thing that he is like everybody else.”
That phrasing strikes me as odd (”sold”?)- as if she doesn’t really even believe it. Not sure you are doing them a favor when you say “you are just like everyone else”.
You are special. You are loved. You bring me joy, are kind, etc. But - you are just like everybody else? Heck - I’m not like everybody else!!
“’If he doesn’t get a girlfriend, I will feel really bad, because I have sold him this thing that he is like everybody else.”
This woman doesn’t think correctly about life. She has allowed PC and Reductionist Philosophy to determine her process. This was easy to see even earlier than reading that she is willing to hire a prostitute for her son.
The truth is, he is NOT like everybody else.
When children are born that are not like everybody else, they should not be lied to. They are different, they are wonderfully different, and they should be placed in the hands of Almighty God to teach them how their difference will bring glory to Him.
A child with Downs who can assess his place and is very aware of his own personality and needs can be taught to trust in the Living God for what he needs.
That is unless he has already been ruined by the teaching that mind is merely brain, brain is merely muscle, and muscle is merely an evolved chemical composition. In this teaching no SOUL is accounted for, neither spirit. Finally, no recognition of God, and no accountability to Him. Just get him a prostitute for sensual pleasure -— no accountability. The man is just an animal in heat, evidently, in his mother’s view.
Who says he has the mind of a toddler? Some guys with Down’s Syndrome are far more advanced/adapted than that. I worked with adults with developmental disabilities for several years. I’m thinking of one guy with Down’s Syndrome who carried on a long term relationship with a woman who also had Down’s Syndrome. I’m not saying they had sex, but they kissed, held hands, danced, went on dates. He would sing Elvis tunes to her, show off. He was emotionally on the level of your average teenage boy. He had a job. Liked playing football.
I think she’s putting the cart before the horse. She shouldn’t be looking for sex. She should be helping him to find relationships. He should be able to date, go to movies, dances, take a girl out to eat, etc. It makes no sense to look for sexual gratification without having had the experience of building a relationship. He should hook up with social servive orgs that service other people with disabilities. Catholic churches often sponsor socials/dances for these orgs. He should go to some dances, interact, maybe meet someone who likes him. Talk. Hold hands. Go on a date. That’s plenty for now.
My mom sold me that I’m better looking than Brad Pitt, therefore I demand to sleep with supermodels.
That was cruel. Not even I would recommend that.
I knew this was England before I clicked.
She wants him to become a father? She’s kidding, right? I thought people with DS were not able to have children. It’s a genetic thing that interferes with fertility. Am I wrong? Perhaps I misunderstood something along the way.
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