Posted on 10/14/2013 8:03:57 PM PDT by nickcarraway
Eleven is the average age that kids view pornography. Sometimes it happens inadvertently via a mistakenly unfiltered search term. Or it occurs over at so-and-so’s house whose parents aren’t so savvy with Google filters and firewalls. But at some point or other, sexually curious youth will access pornography.
I have an eleven-month-old son, and while some might say it’s premature, I’ve begun thinking about how my husband and I will handle the topic of porn with him. I certainly don’t want him viewing hardcore smut as a preteen. But if forced to choose by my Internet provider, as will soon be the case in Britain, would I say no to allowing porn in my household altogether? I don’t think I would.
Let me back up for a second and explain why. Several years ago my husband-to-be filmed porn stars on and off set for a reality TV show. Porn brought up extremely conflicting reactions in me. On the one hand, I considered myself sexually liberal and wanted to be accepting of all facets of sexuality. On the other, I found porn at best, tacky, and at worst, degrading.
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And I care why?
Didn’t have google when I was eleven. Had porn though.
Liberal versus reality again.
“On the one hand, I considered myself sexually liberal and wanted to be accepting of all facets of sexuality.”
Like it or not scumbag, that includes pedophilia, bestiality, necrophilia and sadomasochism.
The age you sexualize your child, is the day you begin life as an abusive parent.
Emily,
I wouldn’t worry about the porn, your child will have his sexuality forced on him at a young age, possibly by an illegal immigrant.
Also, I don’t know what computers will be like in a decade or so but, all that computer porn is gonna load your system with viruses. Make sure your antivirus is up to date.
In ten years look for her son to be wearing lipstick and a dress and trying to find his “sexual identity”
Is this a mom who will be give her young son a hand when the time comes?...
When I was eleven, all I had was National Geographic...wait, that didn’t sound right.
You didn’t have a Sears catalog?
That was pretty good (the double entendre). I edited the "be."
5.56mm
When I was 11, Hustler, Playboy, and High Society magazines were not difficult to come by... ummm, let me rephrase that...
Thanks. It was originally “be giving”
Mothers are experts on everything!
Parent fail. Enjoy prison, sonny.
Was this nutjob dropped on her head at an early age? Too bad she’s already passed on her genes.
In 5th grade?
Good point. Not sure a Brit would get it, but good point nonetheless.
Heh, the Sears catalog!
The closest I ever got to porn as a kid was a matchbook I found on the ground when I lived in the Philippines.
It was an explicit matchbook, probably from Olongapo City.
These people are perverts, she might as well be having sex with the kid for everything she is “teaching” him
has she ruled out incest? didn’t sound like it
This is disturbing and sad. It is one thing to explain what it is to a child who will probably see it, and quite another thing to facilitate their access to it.
That is wrong on so many levels.
Reread the article, and picked up another angle. This writer might be on to something. She stated she would like to be part of her sons porn watching, like allowing your teenagers to drink in the house. Having been a boy many moons ago, I think this approach will kill the kids desire to watch in two seconds flat. Reverse psychology, it just might work. Having your mom help you surf for porn would creep any normal kid to the bone. I could see this leading to a worldwide Viagra shortage a decade from now.
Let your husband handle it - no eleven year old boy wants to talk to his mother about porn.
She is open to “all facets”. That being every facet of evil.
There you go.
Later.
Brilliant. Remember seeing some uncomfortable scene in movies or on tv with parents around? I remember seeing some Mutual of Omaha outdoor show about procreation. It was the first time I ran to do my homework..lol
Sometime in my early teens, don't remember when exactly, I found some of my dad's old Playboys. In retrospect they were fairly classy poses and the young ladies would probably be considered overweight by today's standards. My how times change.
Oddly enough I didn't become an axe murderer, rape or otherwise take advantage of women, objectify them, etc. If anything I gained an appreciation for the beauty of the female form. Now, today's porn? Haven't bothered with it outside of the last few bachelor parties. Seems rude, crude, and tasteless.
My oldest is an adult, and I know he has viewed porn. He's been cautioned that like so many things coming out of Hollywood and marketing types it isn't any more real than the latest movie with giant sentient robots or schools for wizards.
LOL
That was when we were kids. In the not-to-distant future it will probably be watched by the whole family.
Satan is a tricksie devil, isn’t he...?
Porn really is in the head, in the soul. It’s in what you DO with what you see. A nude might or might not be porn depending on who’s looking at it, and how he is looking at it. If the thing at the front of your mind is that you want to scr*w, it’s definitely porn. Believe it or not, God had something higher than the gutter in mind when He created human sexuality. You can be a very sexy guy (or gal as applicable) and not be lusting at ALL.
Great thinning. Why not also indulge his curiosity for drugs, alcohol and anything else he wants also so he doesn’t feel repressed about anything so he’ll be totally messed up by 15.
I’ll never forget when I visited my German girlfriend when she went back to Mannheim University for a semester. It was prime time TV viewing hours in the house, so she and I went upstairs to sit with her parents to watch some TV. A show called Wahr Liebe came on. It was basically prime time porn on network television. The particular segment that aired that night was a piece on “cock rings.” Full intercourse was shown. Heidi’s parents acted like nothing was wrong as we sat there and watched. I was too young and brash to realize that I should excuse myself.
You are NOT wrong that the whole family WILL sit around and watch this stuff in the future. It already happens in Europe.
As the saying goes: The eyes are the gateway to the soul.
Satan’s game is in making humans love LESS, not love MORE.
A thrilling operation of gonadal activity (ok, maybe you could come up with a better phrase than I can, but I am studiously trying to avoid using “sex” — a term with multiple meanings — here) does not equate to love any more than having a cake with candles on it makes today your birthday. You can’t fool the God who filled nature with spirit. Sex is a spiritual thing. It’s possible to be very sexy — with joy! — and without lusting. That old thing about intercourse in marriage being the only genuine use for it — turns out to be as true as there are stars above.
And... the key to being a good lover is to load up on the love of God.
Doesn’t surprise me when you are talking about the Germans. Those folks are some really weird and twisted dudes. What they like would make the hairs stand on end on Bob Guccione’s neck.
Yeah, I’ve seen some positively stunning nudes. Not as in “dang, I gotta get me some of that” but stunning for the way they captured beauty. These are almost universally black and whites. The photographer has done a masterful job in lighting, shadow, composition, and posing... Me, as a photographer I still struggle with focal depth and shutter speeds...sigh... It’s a hobby, it’s not supposed to be frustrating, right? Actually that’s why I don’t golf. I can get all the frustration and humility I need in my life shooting with my Nikon or my AR...
Cheap tricks masquerading as the special love... and it’s very sad.
Yes — it’s basically the attitude. Now some people might lust and lie and say it’s just art... but it would be very possible to view this as just art. “She’s beautiful all over and I wish I could say hello” isn’t lust. “I got to scr*w and it tickles me to think about it” is lust.
Now when people are obviously doing cheap tricks in the photos, that’s “supposed to be porn.” And it would not be gainful to gawk at it, though I might feel sad for that person who consented to do this.
Given how ubiquitous smart phones & tablets are becoming, keeping kids from viewing hardcore porn is already virtually impossible. It will only be more so in the future.
Back in the day, all I could find was rather classy nudes in books of art at the library. The times, they are a-changin’.
There’s someone, that in a just society, would have her child taken away and given to a pair of responsible parents that actually would love the child, rather than make it a political/socialization experiment.
11? Damn, I was a late bloomer.
You sound as old fashioned as I am.
My Dad had a talk with me when I was maybe 14. He basically told me that what my school classes told me about human biology, while not wrong, was far from complete.
He told me I would be facing a lot of temptations if I wasn't already, but never forget this: God gave man sufficient blood circulation to supply his brain or his dick, but never both at the same time. Never put yourself in a situation where your brain would be temporarily shut off until you were married to the girl you wanted to spend the rest of your life with.
It was great advice. A few times, I cut short or even walked away from dates where things seemed to be moving in that direction.
But once I found the girl I wanted to marry, I saved it for her until our wedding night. Nearly 30 years later, the frequency may have diminished, but not the intensity.
My parents thought they were giving us a balanced approach. My Mom would leave copies of "Ann Landers Answers Your Questions About Sex". Dad would leave his back issues of Playboy.
If you make the mistake of letter your kid go to public school, he’ll be having it forced on him in elementary school, especially the homosexual stuff.
**You didn’t have a Sears catalog?**
Sears used to have their underwear models wear black leotards with the bra and panties over them.
I remember people who tore out and burned the underwear pages after SEARS did away with the leotards.
OMG!! She MARRIED someone who filmed PORNO??????? ANd then SPAWNED a Child??? OMG!! DISGUSTING COUNTRY we have here anymore.
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