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'Cheap sex' is making men give up on marriage
NY Post ^ | September 2, 2017 | Larry Getlan

Posted on 09/03/2017 11:34:00 AM PDT by EdnaMode

Thanks to cheap sex, marriage may be doomed.

The share of Americans ages 25-34 who are married dropped 13 percentage points from 2000 to 2014. A new book by sociologist Mark Regnerus blames this declining rate on how easy it is for men to get off.

Regnerus calls it “cheap sex,” an economic term meant to describe sex that has very little cost in terms of time or emotional investment, giving it little value.

Regnerus bases his ideas, in part, on the work of British social theorist Anthony Giddens, who argued that the pill isolated sex from marriage and children. Add online pornography and dating sites to the mix and you don’t even need relationships.

The result is “two overlapping (but distinctive) markets, one for sex and one for marriage, with a rather large territory in between comprised of significant relationships of varying commitment and duration,” Regnerus writes in “Cheap Sex: The Transformation of Men, Marriage, and Monogamy” (Oxford University Press).

In generations past, women generally made men wait until marriage to have sex. To get a wife (and, therefore, sex), men had to be clean and presentable and have a good job. This, Regnerus reasons, gave men all the motivation they needed to become respectable members of society.

Now with porn on-demand and greater reproductive freedom, sex is a commodity available at any time. This has left men with little motivation for marriage, writes Regnerus, who cites demographer Steven Ruggles’ prediction that one of every three people in their 20s will never marry.

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KEYWORDS: loserman; marriage; men; mgtow; promiscuity; pua; redpill
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Marriage is down 13% among Americans 25-34, meanwhile, the left is pushing illegal immigration, same sex marriage, and transgenderism.
1 posted on 09/03/2017 11:34:00 AM PDT by EdnaMode
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To: EdnaMode

Women made men wait to marriage?? In what world did that happen?


2 posted on 09/03/2017 11:36:33 AM PDT by Sacajaweau
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To: EdnaMode

There is a whole lot of OTHER reasons men are not getting married.

A family court system that will bankrupt them for life
Women who are feminist-nazis are not marriage material
Affirmative action that has destroyed college slots and employment for men
Etc.


3 posted on 09/03/2017 11:39:30 AM PDT by 2banana (My common ground with terrorists - they want to die for islam and we want to kill them)
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To: EdnaMode

Nah, atheistic anti-family culture, education and family courts is more the culprit.


4 posted on 09/03/2017 11:39:44 AM PDT by jacknhoo (Luke 12:51; Think ye, that I am come to give peace on earth? I tell you, no; but separation.)
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To: EdnaMode

Some of us knew that in 1968.


5 posted on 09/03/2017 11:40:23 AM PDT by miss marmelstein
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To: EdnaMode

Free milk vs the Cow.


6 posted on 09/03/2017 11:40:32 AM PDT by dfwgator
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To: EdnaMode

>>The Transformation of Men

Men didn’t really change. Women changed. Then men re-prioritized.


7 posted on 09/03/2017 11:41:32 AM PDT by Bryanw92 (If we had some ham, we could have ham and eggs, if we had some eggs.)
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To: EdnaMode
'Cheap sex' is making men give up on marriage

But great sex is best in a committed relationship.

8 posted on 09/03/2017 11:42:37 AM PDT by FatherofFive (Islam is EVIL and needs to be eradicated)
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To: 2banana

“There is a whole lot of OTHER reasons men are not getting married.

A family court system that will bankrupt them for life
Women who are feminist-nazis are not marriage material
Affirmative action that has destroyed college slots and employment for men
Etc”

One more...it ends your sex life.


9 posted on 09/03/2017 11:43:36 AM PDT by Bonemaker
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To: miss marmelstein

Living 2 blocks from Las Olas and A1A in 68 we knew that.
Had to love the Ocean Mist


10 posted on 09/03/2017 11:43:56 AM PDT by CGASMIA68
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To: dfwgator

No such thing as cheap sex, there is a price to be paid
one way or another.

Well, anyway, I remember sex, don’t know why it seemed
so important at the time.

Next time around, asexual budding it’s so much simpler.


11 posted on 09/03/2017 11:44:21 AM PDT by tet68 ( " We would not die in that man's company, that fears his fellowship to die with us...." Henry V.)
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To: Sacajaweau

To be more accurate, women made men wait until ‘they put a ring on it.’ i.e. they were engaged.


12 posted on 09/03/2017 11:44:25 AM PDT by chaosagent (Remember, no matter how you slice it, forbidden fruit still tastes the sweetest!)
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To: EdnaMode

I came of age in the late 70s/early 80s. Women then still looked pretty darn good. Too many young women these days look like overweight, sexless blobs. Totally unappealing. And a lot of men are not much better. Honestly, I’d say about 50% of young women these days look undatable to me.

When I look at other couples in public, a lot of them just seem hopelessly out of shape. They way they walk and act implies they are damaged in some way. I rarely, if ever, noticed that growing up.

From what I’ve seen, American physical attractiveness peaked in the early 1960s (for both sexes).


13 posted on 09/03/2017 11:44:38 AM PDT by rbg81 (Truth is stranger than fiction)
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To: EdnaMode

In economic terms, we have reduced the risk and quality value premium between the cost of marrying “normal” women and prostitutes to almost nothing.


14 posted on 09/03/2017 11:44:55 AM PDT by PGR88
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To: Sacajaweau

Back in the old days, before the social upheavals of the ‘60s, before the birth control pill, women being virgins at marriage was much more common.

Of course not everyone was a virgin bride. But more were than nowadays.

There were also “shotgun” weddings back in those days, so that couples who jumped the gun made it right by getting married.


15 posted on 09/03/2017 11:45:04 AM PDT by Dilbert San Diego
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To: 2banana

I agree. Marriage becomes less and less a desirable option because of negative attitudes towards men, divorce laws that are skewed against men, easier access to sex outside of marriage, lack of career opportunity for men, etc.


16 posted on 09/03/2017 11:45:26 AM PDT by Crucial
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To: Dilbert San Diego

I meant to say, jumped the gun and she was pregnant as a result, caused couples to marry quickly.


17 posted on 09/03/2017 11:46:39 AM PDT by Dilbert San Diego
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To: 2banana

Women who are feminist-nazis are not marriage material

Bingo!


18 posted on 09/03/2017 11:46:56 AM PDT by Vision (Evil is powerless if the good are unafraid - Reagan)
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To: Sacajaweau

Making men wait until marriage, certainly happened in my youth. It was the societal expectation, and I believe, the norm!


19 posted on 09/03/2017 11:47:18 AM PDT by erkelly
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To: EdnaMode

Also, where I live, I’ve noticed Asian massage parlors popping up like weeds over the last 5-7 years. They are not quite as numerous as nail salons, but getting there. Would not happen unless men were paying big $$ for happy endings.


20 posted on 09/03/2017 11:47:20 AM PDT by rbg81 (Truth is stranger than fiction)
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