Skip to comments.It Depends on the Definition of "Need" (Are men attracted to needy women?)
Posted on 07/04/2006 7:39:31 AM PDT by Enterprise
"?DEAR MARGO: I am a 38-year-old successful female who is emotionally and financially secure. I have been told that I am very attractive and intimidate men. I would like to get married but am thought to be too independent"
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In the past, I just thought that these men were needy. However, I was having a group discussion in mixed company where a man said it seems like women don't need men anymore.
I feel as though women were forced to become independent and support themselves. Now, men seem to be threatened by our success. Do I need to act like I "need" men to find my soulmate? I abhor needy females, yet I do want to share my life with someone with the ultimate goal of getting married and perhaps having children.
What is ironic is that I would walk away from my career for the right man and situation. In many ways, I feel like I would rather be alone than have to acquiesce to a man's ego. -- MS. INDEPENDENT
DEAR MS.: As to your question of whether women need men, some do . . . some don't. I will tell you this: You, me and countless other women have been considered "intimidating," but only to a certain kind of man.
As for putting on the persona of someone who "needs" a man, don't try to act the part of a submissive, subordinate cupcake; it is too hard, and you would become disgusted with yourself.
Believe it or not, there are many men who cannot function with a clinging vine. Trust me, there are men out there whose personalities are complementary to yours. -- Margo, autonomously
Dear phony letter writer and phony letter answer babe - you both need to stay out of the gene pool. Thank you - the management.
Maybe she is a -itch.
If she is anything like any of those women on the ABC show last night, she's going to stay single forever.
Maybe she's fugly.
Another "position paper" from DNC Headquarters?
I read this line and thought that this is a phony letter. But then, you might be right.
Doesn't she contradict herself in these lines? She's thirty-eight and wants to get married and have a family? Better get moving on that!
And therein lies her problem. Marriage isn't supposed to be a competition between two egos - if she sees it that way it's no wonder men avoid marrying her. I suspect the men in her life know her by a certain 5-letter word.
EVERY woman on earth is psychotic, it is just a matter of extent. If you can find one whose psychosis is tolerable then more power to you.
Not for very long.
I went through a Venus Flytrap phase in my youth.
I can name that tune in four letters...
For a 38-yo never-married woman, "independent" most likely means
"I always want things my own way, I'm unwilling to think about what my potential partner would like, and can't stop myself from cutting guys off at the knees if they ever give an indication that perhaps I might occasionally think about what somebody else wants"
It's a good guess that anybody who feels compelled to write this tripe in some lame attempt to inflate their own ego is probably a total loser pig.
That said, how about some pics?
Sooner or later they turn on you.
She's correct though. There are men out there who are intimidated by successful women and will avoid her. Too much work, maybe she will have standards that they cannot meet, she's not going to fall for their lines, maybe they are not successful enough in their own lives. A smart guy will know when a woman is out of his league.
Then again, also consider that some men cannot function in a relationship with a woman because they simply need to dominate and need a submissive female to stroke their egos all the time. Seen plenty of those morons along the way as well.
She "Needs" ME!
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