Skip to comments.Boybashing in Abstinence Education
Posted on 12/19/2007 10:05:39 AM PST by PercivalWalks
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Not to be argumentative, but using your logic, there is no reason then for a woman to have sexual relations with her husband after menopause.
It is the whole meaning of life. Continuing propagation and raising up the kids.
I respectfully disagree. The sole purpose of our existence is to glorify God - in everything that we do.
Propagation of the species is certainly important - especially since it is among the first of God's commands to his creation.
To suggest however, that procreation is the whole meaning of life is to allow that a pagan family with 10 children has a more meaningful existence (giving more glory to God) than a missionary couple who've had the misfortune of being childless all their lives.
Most men are of better character than our media culture gives them credit for, and of at least as good character as women.
No, he's whining. "OOOOoooohhh, they say mean things about boys. My poooooor poor son!"
Mr. Sacks seems to have forgotten what teenaged boys are like. Here in the real world, teenaged boys want to have sex with girls. That's just a plain fact. And many of those boys will say whatever it takes to get some. That, too, is just a plain fact.
And it's also true that the stigma of premarital sex attaches differently to women than it does to men -- and it always has. What the fellow is saying about that, is REALLY true -- a used girl is used goods.
Darren Washington's message is simply this: abstinence is up to the girl, because the consequences of premarital sex are much greater for her.
I agree. However when it comes to common sense - and sex especially, I tend to disagree.
As a general rule, societies where women are careful (and given the choice) about when to "give in" (read: marriage) - it is that society where you will find more civility, stronger families, and a heightened sense of community (even faith).
However, when you start to see more and more women acting like adolescent men (negligent promiscuity, disregard of family), there you will find a society in danger of decline.
So ladies, let it be known - you are the gatekeepers of civilization. Don't let us down 8^)
Dareen Washington’s analogy of a lollipop shows very poor judgement. He needs to do a little critique of his methods.
From what I have read in the press and other forums
ANGRY FEMINISTs say: ‘Off Our Backs!’
So why don’t they start with teaching women (and men)
to get off their backs?
They will have the FREE UNIVERSAL birth control they are always lobbying for ! AND they will have free AIDs prevention too. AND a host of other problems would also
be diminished to nearly zero.
Leads me to question; why do feminists and pop culture keep pushing unmarried people into sex ???
And it’s also true that the stigma of premarital sex attaches differently to women than it does to men — and it always has. What the fellow is saying about that, is REALLY true — a used girl is used goods.
Darren Washington’s message is simply this: abstinence is up to the girl, because the consequences of premarital sex are much greater for her.
I agree with you about teen sex-drive, girl-stigma and all of that, however Mr. Washington is wrong if he completely (according to this thread) puts the responsibility on the female.
Can’t Males (of any age) use their judgement and self control ?
I know men and teens that do proclaim abstinence so it is not an impossible or hopeless challenge.
Hopefully men/women and teens can learn to stay away from compromising situations right from the start, learn to recognise and understand cultural and peer pressure vs personal integrity.
Sure. And I'd go so far as to say that most guys do, most of the time. Unfortunately, almost no guy does it all the time.
So the question is: can the girl count on the male to use his judgment and self-control?
She cannot exercise any control over which head -- big or small -- that happens to be guiding the actions of the guy she's talking to. The only positive control a girl has, is to close the gate on her side, because it's almost inevitable that she'll end up arguing with some bozo's small head from time to time.
Sorry -- I have no patience with Glenn Sacks, nor do I find offense in a fellow saying something that is recognizeably true.
Is the lollipop in question a Tootsie Roll Pop? Because if so, there’s a powerful argument to be made that the previous sucker simply assisted the subsequent sucker in getting that much closer to the chewy center.
Sorry, although I sympathize with the message, I cannot abide clumsy metaphors. I could teach abstinence far more effectively, simply by dragging my two squalling, snot-crusted spawn to the talk. Also by flashing my pregnancy-induced varicose veins.
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