Posted on 07/12/2008 11:43:12 PM PDT by Gene Lalor
> TEEN “TECHNO-VIRGINS” (PART ONE)
Published in July 13th, 2008
Okay, I’m a tad too prudish when it comes to this topic so I’ll let the reader get the specifics from this Salon.com article. It directly relates to my previously-published posts on those Gloucester High Girls Gone Wild and to the promiscuous inclinations of today’s kids: http://www.salon.com/mwt/broadsheet/2008/05/21/teens_oral_sex/.
It’s tough to label them kids anymore since that designation brings to mind children playing with Barbies and watching Sesame Street.
Then again, twelve-year olds haven’t engaged in those innocent activities for quite a while, if ever. And I’m certainly not referring to all kids engaging in what used to be called adult pleasures, but it’s difficult if not impossible to know how many are. Should we trust any percentages offered by “experts” since what pre-teens and teens are doing nowadays isn’t usually practiced in public and how many of them would fess up, anyway?
We’re told that 60 is the new 40 and that 70 is the new 50. That may apply to some adults but definitely not all and most definitely is far more a psychological more than a physical experience. It once was called arrested development, fundamentally, a refusal to concede to the reality of aging.
Among the young, however, we’re witnessing a reversed phenomenon.
Most kids just can’t wait to grow up. That’s been a kid trait for eons, growing up and having the freedoms and independence their parents and other elders enjoy, with nary a thought about those same parents’ angst which always attaches itself to their freedom and independence, things such as job and career worries, financial and mortgage worries, and progeny worries.
Those same progeny are experiencing that reversal with mixed results. They don’t count the years in decades as with adults; they simply don’t have and can’t have that perspective so far down life’s road. Only the very rare twelve year old wants to be 32 but they sure want to be 15 or 17 or even 21. And, again, that usually does not reflect a physical but a psychological/ mental “preparedness.” Put another way, many teenagers want to think they’re older even if biology says otherwise, but many haven’t even studied biology and want to follow their importuning sensual urges rather than what their brains dictate.
As noted in previous posts, today’s kids may have a ton more of life’s tangibles–such as cell phones, iPhones, and other requisites of modern society but they also have more pressures and stresses that their elders never experienced.
Aside from the obvious, our sex-oriented society and media and their tainted role models, within the last year a new and very negative influence has become a factor: Many kids now have to wonder where they will be living next month or next week due to parental bankruptcy and foreclosures on their homes: http://money.aol.com/news/articles/real-estate/_a/children-caught-up-in-foreclosures/20080709154309990001.
Much of the above may seem like an introduction to a treatise on The Defense of Lascivious Teenagers, which is the farthest thing from the truth. In subsequent articles, I hope to present more details and, most importantly, some thoughts on reversing the trend.
The bottom line is that if our young end up in a moral gutter, can America be far behind?
I’m a 22 year old virgin.
*shrugs*
Far behind? We led them there!
At least bill clinton and his apologists did.
Far behind? We led them there!
At least bill clinton and his apologists did.
I don’t see much change since I was a kid way back when. Kids have always been curious and experimenting with their sexuality generally starts around puberty - which in girls is now 10 - 12 years old. 40 years ago I think it was around 14-15 years old. Few girls had developed breasts before high school, now they’re still in grade school.
The difference now is that TV news programs carry stories from all areas of the country - and a spike in child pregnancies in a small Massachusetts town is shown on programs nationwide - as well as the internet. Back in the 50s and early 60s local news covered the local area and national news covered stories of true national interest. We weren’t as well informed.
The parents must take control of raising their own children. Someone is going to raise them, and you ought not let it be the public schools, Dr. Spock, network television or peers who are not raised with good values.
Find a like-minded church or social organization for friendship both for yourself and your children. You will not regret it. If you are blessed with a large family, your children may have their siblings as their closest friends (even though they still bicker). We live in a time when suitable DVDs are plentiful and inexpensive, if you cannot/don’t want to avoid video altogether. Have some prayer time together every day. When you raise your own children, you get to know your own children, which gets you to love them more.
What I find disheartening is that I’ll never find a woman who I can settle down with early enough. They’ve all been plagued by years of disheartening indoctrination from both the teachers unions and Hollywood. Everyone’s into drinking beer and smoking dope. You find one and chances are she’s already taken or you never see her again. It’s like trying to find a needle in a haystack, or perhaps more appropriately, a stand of hay in a stack of needles.
Dr. Sivana, I could not possibly agree with you more. As a single parent to a teen age boy — I have had to fight the fight almost on a daily basis.
The evening news is a helpful training tool, it provides great topics and scenarios of good decisions and bad decisions, that gives me the opportunity to point out the up side to sound decision making and the down side to bad decision making, which helps my son to build the kind of conscience consequence driven decision making that happy well adjusted contributing members to society engage in on a daily basis in maintaining a job, a bank account, obtaining an education, presenting yourself respectfully to teachers and other adults, while at the same time not mocking or trivializing my son’s struggle with “curiosity,” which is often the expedient why to stop a bad behavior, but it is not a permanent solution, only through engaged conversation have I been able to afford my son the opportunity to be able to make sound decisions for himself.
Parents have to be parents. They can be friends second, but they must, they must be parents first.
I know first hand, I am involved in my sons activities (intentionally from the periphery) but I can point out the parents that put their own needs first over the needs of their children and you can see the drama and immaturity in their actions and in their home.
The children that do not have an engaged and insistent parent in the home tend to be the more rebellious kids that I have come into contact with (I will not generalize or broadly paint all kids) but my experience has never proven my observations wrong.
The bottom line is; the parents that are able to find a healthy balance between “parenting, counselor, and provost,” tend to have invested a lot of personal time, devotion, and commitment in their kids to prevent them from being guilted and peer pressured into making some of the most life altering decisions of their young lives, decisions that they are not emotionally ready to experience.
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