Skip to comments.I Was Banned For Not Tipping
Posted on 01/07/2010 9:51:07 AM PST by big black dog
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I have a personal rule: I don’t go out to eat (at an establishment) unless I’m prepared to tip 20% of my bill for the service.
Sometimes I’ll eat with a group and it never fails that one in a group of four or more will skate on the tipand sometimes the tax if they can get away with it. A few rare birds I’ve seen will even try to slide on the drink. And these are folks that I know can cover it.
It doesn’t surprise me that establishments will put an automatic 15% gratuity on parties of 5 or 6 or more.
"He don't tip? Whaddaya mean you don't tip?"
Loser, loser, loser. Tipping when earned is a sign of class and a boon to the freemarket system. It encourages good service.
I tip in restaurants etc. unless the service is bad, but I refuse to tip more than $5 under pretty much all situations when out with my wife and especially just myself.
That begins to approach the price of a meal, and under no circumstance will I pay a waiter or waitress the equivalent price of my meal. That’s ridiculous.
I don’t care if the night out was $60. 5 bucks is it.
Why? Considering the waiter had multiple people in an hour, they may make $3 an hour, but with my $5 tip and another couple tips that hour, they frankly make more than a lot of people.
I don’t understand the poor waiter thing because frankly, they make out like bandits and make more per hour than a lot of jobs.
And the service was mediocre at best because the place is always crowded?
Yeah, I am sure the owner is crying in his beer over his “loss”.
The drinks are cheaper because the waitstaff is paid $3 an hour in anticipation that you will make up the difference in tips. This gives the CUSTOMER more power in the relationship by deciding how generous they will tip.
Getting a “free ride” buying cheap(er) drinks, while letting others make up the difference while you NEVER tip... sounds like an attitude smacking of liberalism to me.
I never tip, either. And here in New Zealand tipping is not the normal practise. I like it like that.
I can’t believe how many FReepers are in favor of tipping: it’s ideologically wrong. The restaurant owner is getting a free ride on his business risk by requiring his customers to fairly compensate his staff, giving him no incentive to run a high-quality fiscally-responsible operation.
Never tip anyone, ever. It’s bad form.
And if they “ban” your from their premises for not tipping — better still. They obviously don’t appreciate your custom, and deserve to have their ingratitude rewarded by losing it.
Shed no tears for being “banned” from Murphy’s Taproom. It’s appears to be a fly-by-night operation else they’d pay their staff properly.
>>And you continued to pay by credit card? Pay cash in questionable places.<<
I do not like the whole tipping thing, though I do tip about 20%. I hate the awkwardness when renting limo’s and stuff. DO I tip or not with such services? The answer is “nope”. I don’t tip bus drivers either. I would rather not tip waiters and waitresses if it were possible.
My solution to the whole thing, though, is that I have pretty much stopped going to restaurants and buy all my drinks at bars in cash, by the drink, at the bar. I’ve always hated the whole tipping thing. Confusiion about tipping has caused me to not use services (valet parking, etc.) and go it alone.
Bottom line, I’m 56 and have never accepted the tipping culture.
It seems like the author has an unhealthy obsession.
With all of the problems that we face it seems really odd for him to choose tipping servers as a line in the sand.
I guess its easier for him to drive his stupid “point” home with people he thinks he can bully than it is with those who make the laws that take away our liberty.
But since that's how it is, if you're too cheap to leave them a tip, please stay home. Just choose to never go out.
Mr. Pinks arguments were spot on. They are pretty difficult to argue against.
Unless one DOES tip at McDonalds, of course.
Look at it a different way, it is like working on commission, but the rate of commission you are paid is based on the market and your own work more than just some suit deciding his profit margin.
Or as we tell our customers who complain about the price of seeds/fertilizer/plants going up— “We can go up, or we can go out.”
And most of them never realize that if they ordered the same seeds from some catalogs, they’d be paying 3 or 4 times what they pay us, minimum. And yes, we have the best vegatable/herb/flower plants—homegrown, I might add—in our county and prob several of the surrounding counties. Not to mention the most pleasant and knowledgable staff! :)
This guy is a cheapskate. We have also asked a few of our more obnoxious customers NOT to come back. Something that happens VERY infrequently.
>>but if you’re not going to take care of my wait staff, I don’t want you in my restaurant.
Good for Keith.<<
Interesting. Who’s responsibility is it to take care of the wait staff?
Why is the wait staff in Alaska Airlines Boardrooms not allowed to accept tips? Who “takes care of” them?
I tip my 15 percent, but I have to say, why are so many of you attacking this guy?
Isn’t the idea that the customer pays the salary of the worker a little absurd?
That should be the job of the employer like any other field.
When you go to Wal-Mart, you don’t hand the cashier a little extra?
The whole system is stupid.
If a waiter has a couple customers an hour, they are making well over $10 an hour after tips. Sounds pretty good to me.
The minimum we tip is 10%. The better the service the more the tip, though we max out at 20% (except for breakfast because the bill is usually quite small compared to dinner -then we tip more than 20%).
>>Wait staff get paid a token salary, and are expected to work harder in order to make more money.<<
Perhaps this is the core problem.
My point was not that the government needs more taxes. Until we have the majority of Americans paying into the system, the increasing numbers of the ones who don’t will continue to screw those of us who do.
Every wait staff person I ever knew was a registered Democrat. They pay minimal to no taxes so they haven’t any skin in the game and are not affected by electing tax raising Democrats.
Most restaurant owners I know also scam on their income taxes. If they had to pay the full cost of their employees that other small businesses have to, they would also be more prone to elect officials who would change the current situation. Just look at all the liberal Hollywood types who go into the restaurant business. They know the scam.
Try looking at the bigger picture. We need to get more of the people who are in the boat, rowing. Once the majority are rowing it will be easier to throw the ballast overboard.
I'm old enough to remember when 10% was the standard tip. I've had a lot of people tell me that it has gone up to 15 - 20% because the cost of living has gone up. I'm not a math major, but if the cost of what I'm buying goes up - the cost of my 10% tip also goes up. That equates to a built-in cost of living increase.
I was also taught that TIPS meant "To Insure Proper Service". If I don't get good service (with a good attitude) I don't tip.
Find me one waiter that makes 2.13 an hour.
Most are raking it in good.
Reminded me of having lunch with a guy I know recently. He's notoriously cheap. I said I'd get the meal and he could get the tip. The meal was around $25 for the two of us, and he looked in his billfold, pulled out two ones, then grudgingly pulled out a third. I still thought this was cheap, but I usually tip 20%. On our way out of the restaurant, there was a big bowl of peppermints. He looked at them, then scooped a huge handful up and put them in his coat pocket. He grinned at me and said, "Think that was $3 worth of mints?"
Wait, your not supposed to use someone’s “beliefs” against them /sarc
Good! The cheap bastard.
“The owner could do this... The owner could do that...” Well he didn’t you cheap bastard. He through your sorry @ss out!!!! Haahaaaaa
Paultard indeed! I bet you nailed it.
As opposed to ‘sane’ or ‘conservative’ or ‘not America hater’.
DH—One of the few times I’ve disagreed with your opinion, but I guess all cultures are different. Here on the coast of NC, waitressing, esp if you are polite, efficient, friendly, and quick, has gotten many a young girl or guy spending money or money for college. In a terminally depressed area—our main sources of income are tourism and commercial fishing—you simply can’t make any money at a convenience store or clerking at a grocery store.
I don’t ever mind tipping well for good service, and I’ll leave a little something even if the service was lousy. But I see your point as well. I just don’t agree with it. :)
Most Restaurants only pay their wait staff $2.13 to start. It's completely normal and expected that the bulk of their wages come from tips. It makes them highly motivated. Suggesting that this guy is underpaying his staff suggests you are unaware of how the service industry works in the US.
McDonald’s does not have waitstaff. They make minimum wage or more. A good waitress/waiter can make a living wage on tips. A bad one goes broke. It is free enterprize.
I take care of an elderly gentleman whose greatest joy is going to Bob Evans. He is dying from pancreatic cancer. His wife is dead. He has no children. He LOVES the waitresses at BE. I don’t know if they return that love, but they sure act like it. He is a big tipper, but he became one after they treated him so well, not before.
When I go to Walmart (or any other retail/department store) I don’t have an employee of the store waiting on me, bringing me items from around the store so I can see if I want to purchase that/those items while I sit comfortably at a table. I travel around the store, finding the items I want, and then go to the checkout (sometimes the automated ones) to make my purchase. The cashier isn’t providing me with direct service. I find this to be a bad example.
If they made out like bandits, everyone would be a waiter/waitress.
I don't care how much they make - they earn it by having to deal with the majority of society who are idiots & obnoxious.
Nothing will make you want to disassociate yourself from the human race faster than being a server or working retail.
Well, the way I look at it, tips are reserved for people who provide an additional service at a service location. For instance, the restaurant makes the food, but the additional service of getting it for you deserves the tip. Same with pizza deliveries.
Also, Im not sure how to categorize it, but I always tip my barber. It seems to be the accepted practice.
Hoosier makes an excellent point.
What is so special about waiters or waitresses that it is okay to pay them a pittance an hour (but then really pay them a lot more after tips than even bare minimum wage jobs).
I don’t see why the cashier at McDonald’s making $7 an hour doesn’t deserve as much as that waiter at Applebees probably bringing in $15 an hour after tips.
It’s MORALLY WRONG to give the waiter more via tips.
Tipping sets different standards for different jobs that are equally as difficult and low-paying.
I tip in restaurants, but this is my feeling about it.
Now, when it comes to valet parking (hardly ever done it though) or coffee shop-type situations with tip jars....never will I ever tip them. That’s just idiotic.
He wants all the benefits of going out and visiting with his friends but none of the incidental costs.
Stay home and get your own food/drink you toolbox. I bet the people he was visiting with thought he was a loser as well and are glad to be rid of him at this event.
I can't stand people who need to be on a separate check when they are out with a group. Stay home!
In all businesses the customer pays the salary of the employees- the money just doesn't spring out of no where. As I stated to another poster, waiting is like working on commission, except, instead of the commission being decided by some manager figuring out his profit margin, you as a consumer can determine the value and compensate accordingly.
If you go and buy a $50k car, you are paying the sales person probably around $5k in commission whether he treats you well or poorly. Tipping allows you to set the rate of what you think the value of service is.
After thinking about this a bit, I do thing there is a group of workers in society who should be paid $3.00 an hour and rely on tips to make living wage... ALL GOVERNMENT WORKERS.
I guess I have to chime in here. I am an excellent cook, and do not go out to eat for the food. I go out for the service and convienience of not having to clean up. I find that most of the time:
1) My water, coffe, coke, tea, etc. gets empty and remains that way
2) My food is usually delivered either slightly warm or cool. This is not the kitchens fault.
3) I will not see my waitperson more than 4 times during my entire meal 1, take order..2, deliver drinks..3, deliver food..4, deliver bill
this type of service deserves nothing from me for service. This is what they get paid wages for. If you want a tip from me, deliver me service. Clear my table when I am done eating, keep my cup or glass full, ask me if everything is ok, and above all, deliver my food while it is still hot..This will net you a 15 or 20% tip...in other words, they have to give a damn, or I sure won’t..
I’ve never heard of cooks getting part of the pooled tips.. That’s a new one to me!
Probably because you've never done either job. I have. Servers work harder & have more difficult jobs than counter people.
Apples and Oranges. The discussion on tip practices at restaurants was settle years ago. In the USA we tip. In Europe they do not.
Those are the rules established, polite people live by them. Those who choose not to deserve to be excluded from a restaurant at the owner's choosing.
>>With all of the problems that we face it seems really odd for him to choose tipping servers as a line in the sand.<<
As an oldster myself, I understand his position. I continue to re-evaluate my paradigms on a daily basis. One of them is tipping. When I say Reservoir Dogs, I admitted that Mr. Pink was precisely right. But like so many things like this, even when you win, you lose.
I tip, when necessary, but my solution to this whole thing is to just not find myself in a position where it is even an option.
I suspect the author, like me, has, over the years, drawn MANY lines in the sand. This is just one. Did you know that as people get older, they also tend to reduce their circle of friends? They become more “discriminating”.
(Grin!) Fair enough too. Cultures are different — here a tip is considered an insult by many.
It was explained to me this way, when I emigrated 15 years ago: New Zealand was settled originally by people leaving England from the servant class to make a better life for themselves, with nobody as their “master”. This is probably why New Zealand has an egalitarian feel to it, with a really blurry line between our classes.
Tipping reinforces the servant/master relationship, in many ways. It’s one thing to pay a fair price for something, and quite another to pay for servitude — which is something that our settlers left back in England.
We still get excellent service, but that’s because it is an expectation of the job rather than something driven by the tip. Waiters (in fact everyone in NZ) receive a minimum wage, which is currently sitting at $12.50 before tax per hour. That’s not a huge wage, but one can live on it by being careful.
Putting aside my personal feelings on tipping, I will state the following, please.
1. That man is perfectly within his rights to not tip. He is paying for what he is getting and anything above that is optional.
2. Most ppl would stop eating out if the prices were reflective of owners paying top wages to their staff.
3. Altering a credit card slip is considered fraud. Federal offense.
i would not want to be married to this guy... ewww...
Sonic Drive Ins.
While we are all debating the topic of tipping, let me ask this:
Do you tip the carhop at Sonic?
Why or Why not?
Do you tip at other fast food places? What about if you use the drive through window at Sonic?
I’ve had people tell me it’s rude not to tip the girl who brings me a Sonic Burger, onions rings and a Route 44 diet lime-aid. (Yumm!)
>>It is a shame that servers have been reduced to working for $2-something per hour on their paychecks, and I don’t like the system at all.
But since that’s how it is, if you’re too cheap to leave them a tip, please stay home. Just choose to never go out.<<
And what I have done - “almost” never. And even then, it tends to be take-out. I NEVER tip for take-out.
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