I think a lot of the men verses women afterthoughts have to do with emotional immaturity on the men’s part. A lot of guys/men still act like little boys and continue to act that way much later in life than women. And BTW, I’m a guy.
The problem with this is that the more sex partners you have (male or female) the more your heart is hardened, the more difficult it will be to emotionally attach to someone. Basically they’re screwed. This is why the best prospect one has for a long term committed relationship is for both partners not to have any sexual experience (aka virgins) before marriage. The hook-up culture is just making hookers of all our women and you’d be crazy to marry one (you’d be crazy in nay case with laws so stacked against men in the west now a days).
#1 God designed sex so that it was bonding between man and woman. So it makes sense that at least women, who are more relationally motivated than men would be crestfallen when the man moves on to the next “hook-up.”
#2 Most men who are having intercourse with a woman to whom they have no intention whatsoever to commit themselves are willing to utter those words as they reach climax, “I love you.” Women are primed to believe what he’s saying. But if they really thought about it, would this mean that he actually loved all of the 50-100 women that he had intercourse with previously and to whom he uttered those same words?
Men don’t typically want one-night-stands either. However, men seem to be better able (or more willing) to fill a void (so to speak) with strip clubs, one-night-stands, or pornography.
Honestly, I think men are more prone than women to conflate sex and love (in and outside of marriage). Men need sex to feel loved/accepted/etc. ... and if the real thing is absent, they’ll fill the void with whatever moderately acceptable substitute they can find.
SnakeDoc
While I agree that women don’t appreciate one night stands I don’t agree that this is the product of al mighty “evolution” not to be reigned in because it was reigned in and to good effect for many years. Young men may have a greater propensity to accept one night stands, raping drunk women, and general sexual malfescence but that is more a product of a culture that constantly pounds into mens heads that they can’t be expected to be more than animals. Most men and women last time I checked have not had one night stands, most men don’t use prostitutes either but you wouldn’t know it from the way the issue is reported on. Most men have never used illegal drugs either to go off track a bit. I still don’t
see why ignorant destructive practices are given such unchallenged status when it is the fringe and the immature that indulge the most in such irresponsible behavior. Maturity, reason, love, and building families is just a part of the human sexuality for most people and we are lucky it is so.
The most important thing to remember about one night stands is that “herpes is forever.”
Which explains why young women often cry after sex, while the young men wonder WTF is going on with this mental case.
Men know its as empty as women do. That simple.
There’s no free lunch. Without love, nothing matters. It doesn’t matter what area of endeavor you are talking about. Strip away any successful entity, and at the heart of it is either a more pure form of love, or a more pure form of hate.
Indifference is what hate leaves behind in its wake. It’s why everyday German clerks could go home to their families at night and say, “We are taking every precaution to ensure that the Jews are dying as quickly and painlessly as possible.”
As such, when two people have sex, and there’s no love in it, the only thing you can expect as a result is indifference. Both the men and the women know this, even if they can’t verbalize it.