Skip to comments.A Psychological Cry for Moral Help
Posted on 03/27/2012 12:37:38 PM PDT by restorecivilsociety
As we go about our lives, there is something happening around us that is not deemed newsworthy or important by many people. Its toxic, troubling, and traumatic. Its happening on college campuses. Its happening next door to you. Its the white elephant in the room that everybody notices, but does not want to address for countless reasons. Its what our generation praises and feels empowered by, but refuses to let their parents know about. And shockingly enough, its happening at conservative conferences thanks to people who do not practice what they preach.
So what is it? Its the hookup culture. For too long, it has been discarded and discounted as a criticism of crazy social conservative Puritans who are intolerant of privacy and not accepting of free love. Even on our side of the political fence, supposed conservatives have called it inevitable and have accepted it, even if they claim to be religious.
So if this is not newsworthy, why bother addressing it? Well, it is newsworthy, because it is always daily news for most college students. And guess what? Its affecting everybody in our generation, because it is ruining the potential for life-long love that we all aspire to have. With each hookup a person experiences, a little piece of their heart metaphorically chips off, which leaves them more prone to divorce in the future.
Hooking up is defined as a sexual encounter between two people who are not dating or in a serious relationship and do not expect anything further. It lacks commitment, is highly based upon impulse, and commonly involves alcohol and small talk. Sounds like romantic, sappy love from The Notebook, eh?
A study from Princeton University found that before hooking up, girls expect emotional involvement almost twice as often as guys and guys are in part motivated by hopes of improving their social reputation, or of bragging about their exploits to friends the next day. After hooking up, the study found that 91% of girls admit to having feelings of regret, at least occasionally and 80% of girls wish the hook-up hadnt happened.
As psychiatrist Dr. Miriam Grossman points out, female college students are emotionally drained from a hookup due to high oxytocin levels. Generally, the hormone oxytocin is released during sexual intercourse to promote attachment. Its impact, Dr. Grossman points out, explains why female college students easily ignore partners faults, and take risks [they] otherwise wouldnt. As a result, Dr. Grossman concludes that female college students who engage in the hookup culture easily find themselves longing for a relationship with the random guy that used them for sex last night.
Seeing how the hookup culture is responsible for the rise of STDs and psychological distress, why would any young person want to suffer from such awful repercussions? Factors such as the breakdown of the family unit and the influence of raging moral relativist leftists explain why many young people find the hookup culture to be fun and liberating.
First of all, the breakdown of the family unit has created a common situation in which young people are disconnected from their parents and thus rebel against them. By choosing to hook up with random strangers, young people are essentially trying to find love in others that was absent in their households. This explains, for example, why young women who have divorced parents are more likely to hookup in college than young women who have married parents and intact families.
Secondly, the impact of moral relativist leftists on our culture since the 1960s is also responsible for this new devastating sexual revolution. By influencing young women through campus Womens Centers, leftists have legitimized the prominence of casual sex as the new norm. By creating shows like Jersey Shore and The Real World, leftists have influenced young people to liberate themselves from evil Judeo-Christian values that are part of our nations foundation.
Since the hookup culture has been perpetuated by the Left, why, you may ask, would it be connected with conservative conferences like CPAC? Arent these conferences free from such Leftist ideology? Well, guess again. Plenty of young women who call themselves conservative attend CPAC boasting the latest pair of hooker heels and short skirts, hoping to go home with a lovely stranger later in the night. And the worse part of it all is when they claim to be religious, donning a cross necklace with a revealing blouse. Likewise, there are plenty of young men who are equally guilty for partaking in such behavior as well.
Why should these young women and men be let off the hook? Arent they just as guilty as the liberal young women and men who love hooking up? Instead of dismissing their actions, these people should be held accountable for their actions and should be exposed for their faux conservative values. Being conservative is not about picking and choosing what to believe in. Being conservative means practicing and preaching all of its principles, including its core traditional values.
As the next generation of future parents and people who will start families, we must stop this toxic culture from further ruining the potential for life-long love that we all truly desire in life. Its time to talk about the white elephant that is plaguing college campuses and is responsible for devastating the lives of many young men and women. If Kelly Clarkson was able to condemn the hookup culture, so could we.
Here's a clue: the Founding Fathers, highly serious and educated men, didn't talk about "values." They talked about "virtues." Public and Private Virtue were seen as essential for a Republic to survive and flourish. The Founders were right, which is one reason the Left hates them. And us.
Yep. I used to have this neighbor (who thankfully moved away) who was divorced, in her mid-50s, two grown children. I ran into her one morning while I was out walking my dog. Me: “Hey, how’s it going?” Her: “Great. I got laid this weekend!” Me: (sputter) “uh... that’s nice?” Then she wanted to tell me about it. I declined.
let's call a spade a spade - it's one-night stands, and 80% of straight women wish it had never happened. If a 'straight' woman or man can be coaxed into whorishness, and convinced it is 'acceptable behavior', then other abnormal behaviors (such as the extremely high rate of "casual sex" amongst the homosexual community) can be made to appear more acceptable, too. The focus is kept on sex and only sex, instead of on nurturing and celebrating a hetero woman's unique ability to forge a life-long bond necessary to form healthy relationships, marriages and families. Actively encouraging and socially rewarding slutty behavior doesn't empower hetero women at all - it's wholesale warfare against them that's meant to reduce their role in society to nothing other than sexual objects to be "casually" discarded.
There are plenty of leftists who also disparage hooking-up. Hooking-up is a hedonistic practice. Some leftists are hedonists, but not all.
If we want to discourage hooking-up, we need to discourage hedonism, which is something that religious conservatives, feminists, communitarian leftists, etc. have agreed on for quite some time.
Most leftists who are opposed to hooking-up are not in agreement with social conservatives with regard to premarital sex, however. If social conservatives demand that everyone work to abolish all forms of premarital and extramarital sex, then they won't get very far. If, however, they accept the less-than-perfect world of committed long-term unwedded relationships then we can work our way back toward a more healthy culture.
Hooking-up is also not a relativist notion. If anything, those people who believe that hooking-up is good for them believe that it is good for everyone. They are probably more absolutist about their opinion of the benefits of hooking-up than lots of people claiming to be religious are of the benefits of their respective ways of life.
If those who hooked-up were true relativists then they wouldn't mind it if other people chose not to hook-up, but they seem to be upset by this. They seem to think there is something wrong with those people that don't hook-up. Why would they think that? If they are relativists then they must believe that people should be able to do whatever they can get away with, or choose not to do whatever they don't want to.
The good news is that it is easier to have an argument with absolutists who have the wrong opinion, than with relativists who have no opinion. It can be shown that hooking-up is by-and-large bad for society as a whole and the individuals that engage in it.
There is hope especially since most people (left, right, or center) when confronted with the evidence will absolutely agree that hooking-up is wrong for everyone.
If however, they accept the less-than-perfect world of committed long-term unwedded relationships then we can work our way back toward a more healthy culture.
No, I don’t think so. Shacking up is shacking up.
Hook-ups rarely even lead to "living in sin", and are more-and-more often going on in public!