Skip to comments.FOREVER SIX: The Traits of a Narcissist
Posted on 10/07/2012 8:39:06 PM PDT by 2ndDivisionVet
"A person who gives too much importance to himself, to the extent that he does not think about the feelings and sentiments of other people is said to be a narcissist. People who are narcissists consider themselves to be perfectionists who can never do anything wrong. They are governed by their false ego which requires ample amounts of admiration and praise to survive. It is said that narcissists live in a world of their own where they can think only about their problems and issues regarding power, prestige and personal adequacy. This makes them selfish individuals who do not have the ability to understand the problems of people around them. Such people are said to suffer from the problem of narcissistic personality disorder. As their egos are very fragile, a slight disrespect or challenge can lead to the development of fury which can cause harm to the person who was the reason for such provocation..." --Deepa Kartha
Joanna M. Ashmun, a well-known author on the topic of narcissism, writes:
[The narcissist's] moral intelligence is about at the level of a bright five- or six-year-old; the only rules they recognize are things that have been specifically required, permitted, prohibited, or disapproved of by authority figures they know personally.
Ashmun lists the major traits of narcissism, listed as bullet-points below:
Contemptuous, Lack of Empathy:
How I became George Obama's 'brother':
A few days ago I received a call from a man I recently met named George. He was a bit flustered, and soon informed me that his young son was sick with a chest condition. He pleaded with me to send him $1,000 to cover the medical bills. Since George was at the hospital I asked him to let me speak to a nurse, and she confirmed that Georges son was indeed ill. So I agreed to send George the money through Western Union. He was profusely grateful. But before I hung up I asked George, Why are you coming to me? He said, I have no one else to ask. Then he said something that astounded me, Dinesh, you are like a brother to me.
Actually, George has a real life brother who just happens to be the president of the United States. (George Obama is the youngest of eight children sired by Barack Obama Sr.) Georges brother is a multimillionaire and the most powerful man in the world. Moreover, Georges brother has framed his re-election campaign around the fair share theme that we owe obligations to those who are less fortunate.
One of Obamas favorite phrases comes right out of the Bible: We are our brothers keeper. Yet he has not contributed a penny to help his own brother. And evidently George does not believe, even in times of emergency, that he can turn to his brother in the White House for help.
Obama Went to Bed While Consulate was Under Siege:
Fox News Special Report informed us that Barack Obama knew of the attack on the Libyan consulate within 90 minutes of it beginning...
There is no doubt that Obama knew that the attacks involved AK-47s, along with Rocket propelled grenades.
He knew that his ambassador was in grave danger and yet knowing all of this, and not knowing the status of Ambassador Stevens, Obama allegedly went quietly to bed.
Envious and competitive - According to The New York Times, Obama spends extraordinary amounts of time and energy to compete in trivialities:
For someone dealing with the worlds weightiest matters, Mr. Obama spends surprising energy perfecting even less consequential pursuits.
He has played golf 104 times since becoming president, according to Mark Knoller of CBS News, who monitors his outings, and he asks superior players for tips that have helped lower his scores. He decompresses with card games on Air Force One, but players who do not concentrate risk a reprimand (Youre not playing, youre just gambling, he once told Arun Chaudhary, his former videographer).
His idea of birthday relaxation is competing in an Olympic-style athletic tournament with friends, keeping close score. The 2009 version ended with a bowling event. Guess who won, despite his history of embarrassingly low scores? The president, it turned out, had been practicing in the White House alley...
Kantors piece is full of examples of Obamas odd need to dominate his peers in everything from bowling, cards, golf, basketball, and golf (104 times in his presidency). Bear in mind, Obama doesnt just robustly compete. The leader of the free world spends many hours practicing these trivial pursuits behind the scenes...
Grandiose - Again, according to the Times, "he vastly overrates his capabilities":
...even those loyal to Mr. Obama say that his quest for excellence can bleed into cockiness and that he tends to overestimate his capabilities. The cloistered nature of the White House amplifies those tendencies, said Matthew Dowd, a former adviser to President George W. Bush, adding that the same thing happened to his former boss. Theres a reinforcing quality, he said, a tendency for presidents to think, Im the best at this...
I think that Im a better speechwriter than my speechwriters, Mr. Obama told Patrick Gaspard, his political director, at the start of the 2008 campaign, according to The New Yorker. I know more about policies on any particular issue than my policy directors. And Ill tell you right now that Im going to think Im a better political director than my political director.
Oddly unaware of the passage of time:
Narcissists often look, or think they look, significantly younger than they are; this youthful appearance is a point of pride to them, and some will emphasize it by either preserving the styles of their golden youth or following the styles of people the age they feel they "really" are. That their faces don't show their chronological age is a good sign that they haven't been living real lives with real life's wear and tear...
Remember the president's odd statement when he appeared on The View last month?
"I told folks I'm just supposed to be eye candy here for you guys," President Obama said during a back-and-forth about him being the only man on the program. The show's five co-hosts are women.
Barack Obama's gift for the Queen: an iPod, your Majesty:
Barack Obama met the Queen at Buckingham Palace today and gave her a gift of an iPod loaded with video footage and photographs of her 2007 United States visit to Richmond, Jamestown and Williamsburg in Virginia. In return, the Queen gave the President a silver framed signed photograph of herself and the Duke of Edinburgh apparently a standard present for visiting dignitaries.
To my special friend Gordon, 25 DVDs:
As he headed back home from Washington, Gordon Brown must have rummaged through his party bag with disappointment. Because all he got was a set of DVDs. Barack Obama, the leader of the world's richest country, gave the Prime Minister a box set of 25 classic American films - a gift about as exciting as a pair of socks... The Prime Minister gave Mr Obama an ornamental pen holder made from the timbers of the Victorian anti-slave ship HMS Gannet.
Obama only began donating to charities once he decided to run for President:
Does it not bother you that a guy like Obama can serve a poor district and give away a paltry $1000 to charity? He only stepped up his giving when he decided to run for President and he knew his charitable giving would be made public. How could anyone see that much misery and not try to personally do something about it?
Barack Obama only started making substantial donations to charity when he became a public figure.:
From 2000 through 2004, before being elected to the United States Senate, Obama gave less than 2% of his earnings to charity even though he made $250,000 a year (In the two previous years, Obama gave less than 1% of his income to charity). Since becoming a national figure, that amount has jumped to about 6%.
Hyper-sensitive to criticism:
Press Corps Increasingly Aggravated at Thin-skinned, Aggressive White House:
The White House has adopted a pugilistic attitude towards the press, lashing out at journalists who criticize the president, shutting others out, and adopting a deferential attitude towards the press corps that has some journalists reminiscing about the openness of -- gasp -- the George W. Bush presidency... One of the most irritating practices of the Obama White House is when aides ignore inquiries or explicitly refuse to cooperate with an unwelcome storyonly to come out with both guns blazing when it takes a skeptical view of their motives or success...
Lack of a sense of humor:
"Obamas no-humor zone: what does it say about him?":
Obamas angry reaction to the New Yorker cover has highlighted a fact that has been obvious for some time: the man has no sense of humor.
Oh, I know, every now and then he tries a little quip. But his hearts not in it. It seems to me that most of these jokes have had the same theme: mocking himself for his tendency to be a bit too perfect, and the extremity of the adulation he inspires in his supporters. They fall flat, in part perhaps because he believes he is rather perfect and deserves the worship.
"Obama's silence exposes lack of moral character":
A Democrat Super PAC ad features a man, Joe Soptic, claiming Romney's Bain Capital shut down his plant, terminating his health insurance and resulting in the death of his wife who had stage 4 cancer. Pretty serious stuff... The ad was a bald-faced lie, yet Obama has remained silent even in the face of evidence of his campaign's collusion with the ad's creators. What kind of man would not immediately try to correct such an egregious lie? What kind of man would make himself party to such a lie? Answer: A man without any moral character...
...Obama's absence of moral character, though, has never been in doubt. Rewind to the Illinois state senate in 2001, 2002 and 2003 when Obama thrice opposed the Illinois Born Alive Infant Protection Act that would have required doctors to care for babies born alive after failed abortions.
Self-imposed, self-invented eccentric dietary regime:
Foods That Barack Obama Eats:
Obama's eating habits are notoriously disciplined. He favors salmon for dinner and trail mix for snacks. His build is lean and muscular with no excess body fat. He might have even less fat now, because he seemed to get thinner the longer he spent on the road.
Forever Six From the age of five to six, Barack Obama -- who had never known his birth father -- was temporarily abandoned by his step-father Lolo Soetero, who returned to Indonesia:
After living in Seattle, Washington, with her infant son Barack from September 1961 to June 1962 while taking classes at the University of Washington, Ann Dunham returned to Honolulu and resumed her undergraduate education at the University of Hawaii in January 1963. In January 1964 she filed for divorce from her estranged husband, Barack Obama Sr., who had left Hawaii in June 1962 to pursue graduate study at Harvard University.
[Lolo] Soetoro and Dunham met at the East-West Center while both were students at the University of Hawaii. Soetoro and Dunham married in Hawaii in 1965. Soetoro, a geographer, returned to Indonesia in 1966, to help map Western New Guinea for the Indonesian government, while Dunham and her son moved into her parents' house in Honolulu to complete her studies at the University of Hawaii... In 1967, Dunham and her six-year-old son moved to Jakarta to rejoin Soetoro.
Why is the age of six so important to a child's self-esteem? Because, as Ashmun explains, trauma or arrested development around the age of six can be mapped directly to the traits of narcissism.
She writes that, "some psychologists trace NPD to early infantile neglect or abuse..."
Selected Characteristics of Normal Six-Year-Olds
...The items below are not intended to be a comprehensive description of six-year-olds, but only the selected bits that seem to be related to adult narcissists' traits discussed elsewhere... My interest here is in pointing out that many of the narcissistic characteristics that are abnormal in adults are completely normal at six years of age and that the survival of these childish characteristics into adulthood is, essentially, immaturity rather than bad intentions. But bear in mind that, while everyone who grows up passes through this stage of development, most of us spend only a few months this way before moving on to more integrated behavior. Narcissists, on the other hand, apparently spend the rest of their lives in this state of highly volatile ambivalence and uncertainty.
... "The child is now the center of his own universe." (p. 2, 15) [Emphasis in original] delighted by any silly thing that calls attention to himself; may do silly, show-offy things to call attention to himself when he feels neglected or shut out (pp. 71-72)
arrogant (p. 7) self-important ("extremely aware of the importance of being Six") (p. 22) demands rather than asks (twice on p. 6, 16) thinks own way is always right (p. 7) once started, will stick to a course of bad behavior or bad judgment regardless of the inevitability of being punished for it (p. 7) asks to be flattered and praised as "good," even ("rather sadly and touchingly") following his worst behavior (p. 6)
can't accept criticism (p. 7) feelings are hurt over very small criticisms, comments, failures (p. 6) "He is so extremely anxious to do well, to be the best, to be loved and praised, that any failure is very hard for him." (p. 6)
wants to win every time (p. 4, 21, 45) poor sport, can't stand to lose (p. 7, 16) argumentative and quarrelsome (p. 21) defiant, pert, fresh, snippy (p. 6, 17) competitive, combative (p. 20) belligerent, verbally and physically aggressive (p. 21) threatens, calls names, gets physically violent (p. 21) violent temper tantrums may require physical restraint because of striking out (p. 29) jealous, envious (p. 7, 21)
to make sure of winning, will cheat or make up own rules (pp. 21-22, 45) complains that others are cheating and not following the rules (p. 45) some are very cruel to younger children (p. 22) does not always tell the truth (p. 16) will not admit to wrongdoing (p. 41) [Note: A technique is given for getting the facts out of kids that also works with narcissists: instead of asking if they did it, ask how they did it.] goodness means the things explicitly required or allowed by parents or other authority figures; badness means the things explicitly disapproved of or forbidden (p. 66)
little forgiveness (p. 22) very critical of others' conduct (p. 22) expects friendships to be resumed immediately following tremendous complaint and conflict (p. 22)
wants to boss (p. 21) "Many children think their father knows everything -- even what goes on at home while he is at work."(p. 16) thinks his teacher knows the best and only right way of doing things; may not know which rules to follow when school rules differ from home rules (p. 18)
"highly undifferentiated -- everything is everywhere" (p. 7) can't always tell the difference between "yours" and "mine," and so often steals (pp. 39-41)
"random and unconstructive expenditure of energy" (p. 31) more interested in merely handling or using tools than in what is accomplished with them (pp. 53-54) less interested in actual final products than in whatever he may be doing at the moment(p. 56)...
To be sure, I'm no psychologist, but the traits are the traits. Whether or not they apply to this president is left as an exercise for the reader.
He’s a dysfunctional mess, for sure.
He has no business serving as the the leader of this Free Republic.
He is an embarassment, and a failure.
First rate analysis.
2nd Division Vet, thanks for this timely post.
If you’ve ever been close to a genuine Narcissist, this expose’ tells the truth, WITHOUT exaggeration.
I speculate that a narcissist is especially liable to latch onto a political philosophy and never deviate from it despite objective evidence that it leads to failure. Perhaps the most notorious example of this psychological characteristic in history is Adolf Hitler. One remembers Churchill's description of Hitler in The Gathering Storm:
into that void after a pause there strode a maniac of ferocious genius, the repository and expression of the most virulent hatreds that have corroded the human breast-Corporal Hitler.
If Obama is a narcissist and he was fed Marxism with mother's milk, it would not be surprising that we see a president who simply cannot abandon his worldview even after the election debacle of 2010. We all laugh at Hitler as a carpet chewer but in the course of the war as the failures of his policies became more and more blatant, he persisted all the more in them to the destruction of the Reich. No one would deny that Bill Clinton has elements of narcissism about him, but even he was able to change course after his midterm election repudiation, perhaps because Bill Clinton never had a real commitment to any philosophy other than Bill Clinton.
It is conceivable that we have as president of the United States a narcissist who is a drug addict and, as a result, is incapable of governing except as a Marxist. His performance during the debate presented a syndrome of symptoms consistent with drug abuse as has his inattention to his duties in the course of his administration. It is unnecessary here to support the argument that Obama is a Marxist. It is clear that he cannot deviate from his beliefs nor can he compromise with Congress. Is it because he makes calculated political decisions or because he is psychologically driven? Marxism and narcissism are dangerous combinations but when one adds a mind made chemically toxic by drug abuse (as was Hitler's in the end), we have a dangerous situation liable to go out of control. All this in a man with his finger but inches from the red button.
Hitler was willing to sacrifice the entire nation to his narcissism, in fact, he invited the physical destruction of the country when its impending defeat proved unworthy of himself. If Obama needs an October Surprise to win this election and it involves making war who can believe that a man in such a beleaguered condition would hesitate to sacrifice lives or even risk the country for his selfish profit?
I doubt that the military will let him launch anything, except on warning of imminent attack. They kept the football from Nixon near the end and this tyro is at least 10X worse than Nixon ever was.
Consider whether anyone would have anticipated the Cuban missile crisis hours before news of the missiles in Cuba was leaked? By way of parallel, we know that Kennedy at the time was under the influence of drugs but seems to have performed well. I have never been satisfied that we have the accurate history of these events in which Kennedy and his brother were portrayed as the sole exponents of reason beating back Curtis LeMay and the "knuckledraggers". But, based on the facts as we now know them, we must concede Kennedy performed well.
However, it is not a happy prospect to have a commander-in-chief whose condition-whether drug addicted, narcissistic, or Marxist, or any combination of the three-is potentially unstable.
Gen 4:8-9 (8) And Cain talked with Abel his brother: and it came to pass, when they were in the field, that Cain rose up against Abel his brother, and slew him. (9) And the LORD said unto Cain, Where is Abel thy brother? And he said, I know not: Am I my brother's keeper?
Damaging, for sure, but not something that can’t be overcome, with God’s healing.
My career is Corrections, and I have met plenty of jacked-up individuals in 29 years, some of them I have known for that long.
Even with the worst of parents (which BO’s weren’t by a long shot) some people keep it together, or eventually get it together.
Some with much better opportunities throw it all away. Pretty strange deal, life on this planet.
We just didn’t need this dude in the White House.