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Death of an Aunt
lyby ^ | October 17, 2012 | lyby

Posted on 10/17/2012 9:03:37 PM PDT by lyby

I have experienced the death of family members, friends, and acquaintances. Probably the earliest I recall was when I was about four years old.

My grandfather's death in 1982, knocked me down. I was the first granddaughter, and we shared the same birthday for 22 years.

Other family members have since passed on... friends and acquaintances have since died...

Last night my aunt, thirteen years older than I and like an older sister to me, died...

I celebrate her life and the impact she had on my life; however, I cannot stop crying...

She and her husband, who passed on about twenty years ago, took my sister and me camping, taught me how to drive a stick-shift VW, gave me my first razor to shave my legs, visited my husband and me when we moved from VA to Miami...

My husband and I drove from AL to VA a couple of weeks ago to see her. We had been told she had only a couple of months to live... I wanted to see her before she died and had thought when she passed I would not have to attend her funeral.

Now it is time... And I cannot stop crying.

Our daughter and I will leave tomorrow to pay our respects...

Rest in peace and God bless you, Aunt Betty.


TOPICS: Miscellaneous; Society
KEYWORDS: death; familymember

1 posted on 10/17/2012 9:03:43 PM PDT by lyby
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To: lyby

I am so sorry for your loss. Prayers for you and your family.


2 posted on 10/17/2012 9:06:30 PM PDT by Texas56
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To: lyby

HUG. It’s so hard to lose someone so special.


3 posted on 10/17/2012 9:08:02 PM PDT by amom
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To: lyby

Did she know Jesus as her Lord and Savior?


4 posted on 10/17/2012 9:08:13 PM PDT by bimboeruption (Clinging to my Bible and my HK.)
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To: bimboeruption

Absolutely! Thank you for asking.


5 posted on 10/17/2012 9:09:57 PM PDT by lyby ("Mathematics is the language with which God has written the universe." ~ Galileo Galilei)
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To: lyby

I found long ago that it’s not who someone was in your life (in this case your aunt) but what they meant to you, how they helped shape who you are and how close you were to them that makes their passing so hard. I’ve dealt with it and I know it’s tough. I had only one aunt, Aunt Martha. And I was not alone in thinking she was the sweetest woman on the planet. Cherish the memories you had with your, I know I do those I had with mine.


6 posted on 10/17/2012 9:11:17 PM PDT by South40 ("Islam has a proud tradition of tolerance." - Barack Hussein Obama - Cairo, Egypt, June 4, 2009.)
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To: lyby

It’s wonderful she was in your life and you can call up memories like the ones you have. Imagine. Some of us have never had someone like that. She’ll always be with you and you with her. Go ahead and cry.


7 posted on 10/17/2012 9:11:29 PM PDT by FryingPan101 (2016 looms)
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To: lyby

Go ahead and cry. I cried like a baby for weeks before my wife passed and weeks after. Then, even years after, when certain thoughts and memories would go through my mind.

I’m a big, burly gruff guy but cry over the damnest things, sometimes just thinking about our brave soldiers and those who died bringing us this great nation. Steel Magnolias reduces me to a blubbering mess.


8 posted on 10/17/2012 9:12:10 PM PDT by arrogantsob (The Disaster MUST Go. Sarah herself supports Romney.)
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To: lyby
Its always hard. know that coming together with family can be heartbreaking, and restorative at the same time. I had a relative die just before my wedding, and was glad, he got to spend his last day with 80 relatives, ruined my marriage, but in the end a mitzvah.
9 posted on 10/17/2012 9:12:21 PM PDT by waynesa98
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To: lyby

18 months 17 days. You will never get over it, you might get through it. I’m still working my way through it. Good luck to you.


10 posted on 10/17/2012 9:14:53 PM PDT by 23 Everest (When seconds count. The police are just 23 minutes away. 831 Bonnie)
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To: lyby

What a beautiful tribute to your aunt! Having lost my wonderful sweet Mother in March, I know the pain of losing someone so dear to you. But I’ve also come to realize that their love never leaves you, but continues to nurture and inspire you. The devastating difference though is that you can no longer communicate with them. But because of our belief in Jesus, I do have the glorious anticipation of seeing Mother again someday. I hope and pray you have that same anticipation with your aunt!


11 posted on 10/17/2012 9:24:32 PM PDT by TruthSetsUFree
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To: 23 Everest

Thank you ALL for your uplifting words. I knew when posting on FR, support would be here! Just what I need in this time of mourning and celebration of a beautiful life. THANK YOU! ~ lyby


12 posted on 10/17/2012 9:26:33 PM PDT by lyby ("Mathematics is the language with which God has written the universe." ~ Galileo Galilei)
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To: lyby
I celebrate her life and the impact she had on my life; however, I cannot stop crying...

I feel for you.

I too, lost an Aunt I dearly loved about 4 years ago.

The only consolation I have is I know she went home to her Heavenly Father; I know she was ready.
13 posted on 10/17/2012 9:28:52 PM PDT by SoConPubbie (Mitt and Obama: They're the same poison, just a different potency.)
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To: lyby

Your words about your aunt and family are so very touching. Thank you for sharing. I have been dealing with grief over the loss of my Dad for the past two years. You bring all the joy to words of what your loved ones mean to you. God bless you. Prayers going up for you my FRiend.


14 posted on 10/17/2012 9:41:16 PM PDT by antceecee (Bless us Father.. have mercy on us and protect us from evil.)
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To: lyby

I can feel your intense sense of loss — the depth of your love for your aunt is reflected by your welling tears of sorrow. Thanks to God that he not only gave us a life together to live on earth — he also gave us eternal life, as well. Amazing how He wants us to live with Him — He must really love us.


15 posted on 10/17/2012 9:44:13 PM PDT by Kay
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To: lyby

My Aunt was the first person I was really close to that died. We were anything but close in age— I was born when she was 59! But she taught me so many life lessons and was always there for me when I needed something. She helped history come alive for me. I can’t say I know exactly how you feel but maybe a little— it was a stab in the heart and so painful. I decided that day to grow up (finally) at age 24 and take more responsibility for myself. She was always big on self reliance and responsibility. I wish my husband would have been able to meet her— we met 6 months after she passed away.

I send my prayers your way, and remember a good cry can be a good
thing. I still miss her terribly but can now mostly remember the good
times. I can laugh telling stories to my kids about her. Her life definitely enriched mine. Grieving is tough, but it will get better.


16 posted on 10/17/2012 9:47:11 PM PDT by MacMattico
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To: lyby

if you didn’t feel this way, she wouldn’t have really meant that much to you. it gets better, you know from others that have passed. but for each person you have to let grief/loss work its way through it and that’s where you are right now.


17 posted on 10/17/2012 9:47:24 PM PDT by Secret Agent Man (I can neither confirm or deny that; even if I could, I couldn't - it's classified.)
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To: lyby
She is not really gone unless you forget her. And you won't forget her... Every time you shave your legs, you will remember her. Every time you see a commercial with a camping scene in it, you will remember her. And every time you see an old VW, you will remember her. She is still right there with you, right this very minute... Right by your side. If you think about her for a bit, you will hear her words of comfort - what she would be telling you if she were physically present.

I've been through this with my grandfather and grandmother, my father, and just this past May my brother. Whenever I see an old barn still standing because it was built well... I think of my grandfather and his gnarled, carpenter's hands. Biscuits the size of a tuna can, or wonderful hot cornbread? My grandmother is smiling at me because that was her specialty. A beautiful sunset, or a red-tailed hawk? Dad is saying "Hi son! I'm right here with you..." Or if I hear "Long Train Running" by the Doobie Brothers (or any other of a myriad of songs my brother used to play drums to or sing in his bands over the years) my brother is right there in the passenger seat next to me, reminding me that things are okay, and that he hasn't felt this good in years.

Just pay attention... She is not really gone. Know that she is looking down and smiling at you, and that love transends death... She wants you to be happy and to understand that her leaving this earth is not the end, but is instead just a step in the journey.

My prayers for your peace and comfort go up to Our Father in heaven. Lord, please be with lyby in her time of loss and heal her according to her needs... Amen

18 posted on 10/17/2012 9:50:26 PM PDT by Raven6 (Psalm 144:1 and Proverbs 22:3)
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To: lyby

We grieve for our loved ones who died in Christ, but not like those who died with no hope. I have been to funerals for saved and unsaved people alike. To anyone with spiritual discernment, the differences are stunning.


19 posted on 10/17/2012 9:57:20 PM PDT by patriotsblood
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To: lyby
Thanks for sharing your memories of your dear aunt/best friend. What a blessing to have such a wonderful relationship...full of so many fun adventures!

May you find His comfort in the sweet memories of your aunt and the thoughts and prayers of FRiends.

20 posted on 10/17/2012 9:57:30 PM PDT by Jane Long (Soli Deo Gloria!)
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To: lyby

Peace be with you.


21 posted on 10/17/2012 10:02:31 PM PDT by Talisker (One who commands, must obey.)
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To: lyby

You’ve experienced the death of loved ones before and so have I. Some are more personal than others. You and your dear aunt had a very close personal bond. No wonder you are taking it so hard. It is different. You will grieve for a long time. That’s natural. Cry all you want.

This Christmas will be the second one without my dad. I miss him every single day. It is getting easier in the sense that I don’t cry when I think about missing him. I remember his gentle smile and twinkling blue eyes.

God’s blessings to you for a good sleep and courage for a new day. I will say a prayer for comfort for you, lyby. It will get better, tiny bit by bit, in the sense that you can go on without her present in your life here on earth.

In Jesus, you will see her again in life everlasting. Bless you dear!


22 posted on 10/17/2012 10:02:35 PM PDT by mplsconservative (A non-vote is a vote FOR 0bama.)
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And all I can write to EACH of you who have replied: Thank you so much for your uplifting words. I KNOW Aunt Betty is in heaven... what a beautiful soul... She told my sister and me that we think too highly of her... We LOVE HER - she shared her life with us and loved us... THAT’S what life is supposed to be, isn’t it? Agape...


23 posted on 10/17/2012 10:13:36 PM PDT by lyby ("Mathematics is the language with which God has written the universe." ~ Galileo Galilei)
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To: mplsconservative

And all I can write to EACH of you who have replied: Thank you so much for your uplifting words. I KNOW Aunt Betty is in heaven... what a beautiful soul... She told my sister and me that we think too highly of her... We LOVE HER - she shared her life with us and loved us... THAT’S what life is supposed to be, isn’t it? Agape...


24 posted on 10/17/2012 10:13:36 PM PDT by lyby ("Mathematics is the language with which God has written the universe." ~ Galileo Galilei)
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To: lyby

Prayers to you and your family.


25 posted on 10/17/2012 10:17:35 PM PDT by Dogbert41 ("...The people of Jerusalem are strong, because the Lord Almighty is their God" Zech. 12:5)
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Thank you... Everyone’s words have meant more to me than ya’ll will ever know... The Peace of Christ shines through each and every comment... THANK YOU.


26 posted on 10/17/2012 10:27:43 PM PDT by lyby ("Mathematics is the language with which God has written the universe." ~ Galileo Galilei)
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To: lyby

Agape love is it my dear. You will see your Aunt Betty again. God has promised with His love through Jesus.

Try to get some good sleep tonight, though I know it will be difficult. Let the exhaustion take over. You will feel better in the morning.


27 posted on 10/17/2012 10:28:16 PM PDT by mplsconservative (A non-vote is a vote FOR 0bama.)
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To: lyby

In memory of all the great Aunt Bettys of the world.


28 posted on 10/17/2012 10:28:33 PM PDT by Persevero (Homeschooling for Excellence since 1992)
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To: lyby

Prayers being said.


29 posted on 10/17/2012 10:32:24 PM PDT by freekitty (Give me back my conservative vote; then find me a real conservative to vote for)
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To: lyby

WOW, what a loss....no wonder you grieve so strongly. You were blessed...and so was she.


30 posted on 10/17/2012 10:35:30 PM PDT by goodnesswins (What has happened to America?)
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To: lyby

My Mom died suddenly in her sleep. At the funeral home, a woman approached a Christian friend of Mom’s and said she was sorry for the loss. Without skipping a beat, the friend said, “Oh she’s not lost. We know exactly where she is!”

May your thoughts dwell on the wonderful relationship you had with your aunt, and the wonderful reunion you will have some day.


31 posted on 10/17/2012 10:35:44 PM PDT by ntnychik
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AMEN! Thank you for sharing...


32 posted on 10/17/2012 10:40:35 PM PDT by lyby ("Mathematics is the language with which God has written the universe." ~ Galileo Galilei)
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To: lyby

Let it out. Cry as much as you need. This is a time for tears. You are in my prayers.


33 posted on 10/17/2012 10:46:40 PM PDT by AD from SpringBay (We deserve the government we allow.)
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And I thank EACH of you for your uplifting comments... And I should go to sleep... With the warmth and comfort of your words - EACH OF YOU - and the gentle embrace of our Lord, Jesus Christ, I bid you “good night”.


34 posted on 10/17/2012 11:06:05 PM PDT by lyby ("Mathematics is the language with which God has written the universe." ~ Galileo Galilei)
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To: lyby

I’m so sorry for your loss. You are in my prayers.


35 posted on 10/18/2012 12:01:41 AM PDT by Pinkbell
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May God bless you and your family. You’ll be in my families prayers.

Over the last 30 years I’ve only cried 3 times and all 3 were hard cries.

1- When Obama won in 2008
2- When Ronald Reagan passed
3- After dropping my daughter off at college this past August.


36 posted on 10/18/2012 12:10:09 AM PDT by albie ("Work as if you were to live a hundred years. Pray as if you were to die tomorrow." Benjamin Frankli)
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When my Great Aunt died when I was in my 20's I cried so hard that they nearly had to carry me out of the Church. I belong to a family of stiff lipped Norwegians who don't show very much emotion, so they really wondered about me. Besides me there were just a few sniffles in the Church. When I cried I was not just crying for sadness, but very much also for thankfulness that she had been in my life. My tears were sadness mingled with profound joy.

When I was a girl, so broken by a bad divorce between my parents, and in need of special love, she was there to give me the attention I needed. She and my Great Uncle let me know that they loved me and I spent weeks at their house. I remember her giving us sugar cubes, which back in simpler times was special to children, and I remember her making me ice cream sundaes. I remembered small things that she did, that for a small child really meant big things. In time I got over my grief and now there are joyful memories and a looking forward to seeing her sometime in what will seem just a little while in heaven.

Since then many I love have died and gone on to be with The LORD. I actually spent months crying and grieving for their loss, even though I know I will see them soon. The funny thing is that one day The LORD helped by having me drive by a simple sign in front of a Church that read "Tear not, for I am with you". After reading that sign I felt that The LORD spoke to me through it. He ministered to me and my constant tears were stayed. I still at times grieve for my loved ones that I miss so much, but truly look forward to the day we all will meet again.

Mathew 5:4 Blessed [are] they that mourn: for they shall be comforted.

37 posted on 10/18/2012 12:12:27 AM PDT by Bellflower (The LORD is Holy, separated from all sin, perfect, righteous, high and lifted up.)
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To: lyby
Must be something about being an Aunt Betty. I had one too. She could not have children due to a heart condition so, I was her child. It was a treat every summer to be able to spend the summer and holidays with her. She taught me how to cook, embroidery, bought me that first razor for shaving my legs, and taught me so many things!

I lost my Aunt Betty many years ago and I still cry when I think of her and her wonderful husband.

Cherish those times you had together and vow to be an Aunt Betty in someone else's life.

38 posted on 10/18/2012 1:45:35 AM PDT by texgal (end no-fault divorce laws return DUE PROCESS & EQUAL PROTECTION to ALL citizens))
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To: Bellflower

Thank you, Bellflower, for sharing your memories and experiences...

Our family shared a lovely funeral service for my Aunt Betty! The chapel was filled with people who cherished her! The tributes were uplifting! - especially the poem my brother-in-law, Buddy Buchanan, read about the ship: we mourn its leaving our sight, but those on the other side of the horizon celebrate its coming!

And to ALL my FR friends, a BIG heartfelt THANK YOU.

~ lyby


39 posted on 10/21/2012 4:17:24 PM PDT by lyby ("Mathematics is the language with which God has written the universe." ~ Galileo Galilei)
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I will “save” this thread to re-read over and over again... What a blessing your comments are to me... Praise be to God, our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ, and the Holy Spirit Who resides in each of you...


40 posted on 10/21/2012 4:25:12 PM PDT by lyby ("Mathematics is the language with which God has written the universe." ~ Galileo Galilei)
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I will “save” this thread to re-read over and over again... What a blessing your comments are to me... Praise be to God, our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ, and the Holy Spirit Who resides in each of you...


41 posted on 10/21/2012 4:25:12 PM PDT by lyby ("Mathematics is the language with which God has written the universe." ~ Galileo Galilei)
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