Was she the BEST for the job? Probably not.
My wife is the daughter of a soldier in Patton’s Army: Silver Star, Bronze Star, 3 Purple Hearts. She is a chip off the old block, without a doubt the strongest individual I have ever known. She was a great Army nurse in Vietnam. She was in the right spot.
Women have skills and (I dare say it) INHERENT traits that suit them far better to some jobs. I accept that and known dozens of Army nurses through my career. EVERY ONE of them earned her place there and didn’t need any waivers or lowered standards to do their jobs.
Congratulations on marrying a fine woman.