Posted on 12/15/2012 8:02:00 PM PST by Nachum
In the wake of another horrific national tragedy, it’s easy to talk about guns. But it’s time to talk about mental illness.
Three days before 20 year-old Adam Lanza killed his mother, then opened fire on a classroom full of Connecticut kindergartners, my 13-year old son Michael (name changed) missed his bus because he was wearing the wrong color pants.
“I can wear these pants,” he said, his tone increasingly belligerent, the black-hole pupils of his eyes swallowing the blue irises.
“They are navy blue,” I told him. “Your school’s dress code says black or khaki pants only.”
“They told me I could wear these,” he insisted. “You’re a stupid bitch. I can wear whatever pants I want to. This is America. I have rights!”
“You can’t wear whatever pants you want to,” I said, my tone affable, reasonable. “And you definitely cannot call me a stupid bitch. You’re grounded from electronics for the rest of the day. Now get in the car, and I will take you to school.”
I live with a son who is mentally ill. I love my son. But he terrifies me.
A few weeks ago, Michael pulled a knife and threatened to kill me and then himself after I asked him to return his overdue library books. His 7 and 9 year old siblings knew the safety plan—they ran to the car and locked the doors before I even asked them to. I managed to get the knife from Michael, then methodically collected all the sharp objects in the house into a single Tupperware container that now travels with me. Through it all, he continued to scream insults at me and threaten to kill or hurt me.
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“(God bless gay marriage, by the way—maybe FINALLY someone will bring some taste and style to the costuming of this silly ritual).”
From one of her other posts. This chick is more messed up than her kid.
Yes, I think it probably is a crapshoot. I’m nearing 50 and no regrets either.
Way BACK when I was a youth, the little incorrigable would be treated by his father (Uncle if no father) to a “hunting accident”.
Usually administered with a 12ga. under the chin while crossing a fence.....
Hunted pheasants with the dad for years before I found out such things.
Don’t have any particulars, only suspicions.
I followed the link and apparently the father is the same way. At least, that’s what the mother implies.
But I suppose the post did make her blog interesting for a day.
The child is displaying rage. You can’t beat rage out of this child. Pretty easy to beat more rage into him though.
This freakish behavior doesn’t respond to discipline. The child needs major intervention to avoid a lifetime of monsterhoood. The family members are in genuine danger. If the child treats his mother like that (and she has the power to resist), just think how he treats his siblings; those kids live harrowing lives of fear and it grows along with their tormentor.
These people never, ever freaking quit, do they?
There was a very long article in the New York Times about this. Soceopathic children. Science is thinking their born this way. Old school discipline has no effect. They will wear you out until beaten to death like a raccoon. They put several together in a highly structured school with one on one shrinks. They actually got worse as they teamed up,learned and competed with each other. The girlsrarned to manipulate the boys using sex very early pitting one boy against another for their own enjoyment. The shrinks after weeks of exhaustive study expressed no hope.
I’m afraid to say what I think is the solution for creatures like this. I’ll content myself with agreeing that they are not curable.
There was a time about 20 years ago when hospitals in our area equipped to handle both long and short-term mental health patients were on almost every corner. Most everybody had health coverage with a $250.00 calendar year deductible and then 20% co-pay. Mental health benefits allowed up to $25,000 a year for inpatient care but really limited outpatient psychotherapy benefits.
Psychiatrists admitted every patient that crossed their paths, gave them a psychiatric diagnosis and admitted them very early in the year. By the end of January their benefits were gone and they were suddenly well. The doctors would bill before the hospital and so they were paid first. Those that participated made a whole lot of money. Patients that had a legitimate need for help didn’t get it because they had no coverage and no money to be seen for treatment on a continuous long-term outpatient basis.
At one time kids born with Downs Syndrome, low IQ and other similar issues were also thought to be mentally ill, not quite “right in the head” and families dumped them into the state hospital system where they simply ceased to exist and more often than not were housed with really severely mentally ill people.
Just never been a good system, at least during my lifetime.
If one lets the world raise their child, it is a crapshoot. However mental illness can occur, but proper parenting vastly improves outcomes.
Womder if she could take the two younger children to a trusted friend or relative and get outta there.... Leave as fast as humanly possible.
he’s as broke as the Ten Commandments.
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First time I’ve heard this and it’s funny! Thank you, elcid1970 made me LOL!
At the first sign of extreme violence/behavior I would have to make the hard decision- to put my self and other family members’ safety first and put the affected person in a residential home.
There comes a point where the behavior trend becomes evident and it gets worse as time goes on.
Plus what I think is, the parent is behaving exactly like someone in an abusive relationship, keeps “going back” to them when they flip over and be sweet as can be.
Gonna be hard but they have got to get the h out.
I read the comments after the blog article.
I must disagree with those who accept people telling them that nothing can be done until unless a crime has been committed.
If someone threatens you, it is assault. It is legally actionable.
If someone physically attacks you, it is battery. Also actionable.
Hard choice, but must be done.
I wanted to respond to those who commented that access to weapons should be restricted:
Restrict/control the access of the person with mental problems to others.
Do NOT restrict or infringe upon stable peoples right to bear arms.
I.e. keep the person with mental problems away from others, so they can’t harm them..... don’t take means of defense away from those who haven’t got mental problems.
Um, hope he's a late germinator (age 55, school board member), as opposed to the current case (in which you, as Mom, would not be coming down for breakfast)?
Since he is a danger to himself and others, she should Institutionalize him.
Send her a DVD of The Omen and get back to me.
Some folks posting on this thread are so full of shit i can smell it even from here in middle TN
Sometimes anti freepers have a point
Kookville
100% agree.
Like Gender identity disorders? YOU CAN'T TALK ABOUT MENTAL ILLNESS! QUICK! GRAB THE GUNS!
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