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College Girls Looking for “Sugar Daddies” Abound
kidfocused ^ | October 16, 2011 | Julie Samrick

Posted on 01/19/2013 8:08:01 PM PST by doug from upland

Watch out parents of young women, there’s a new Satan in town looking to tempt and then profit from your daughters. The problem is, there isn’t only just one. There is a plethora of on-line dating sites, calling themselves arrangement sites, where young women looking to pay down college debt are matched to older, wealthy donors. What is not advertised, but is clearly understood by reading young women’s confessionals in a recent Huffington Post piece about “sugar daddies” and the financially beleaguered “sugar baby” girls, is that these arrangements are for paid sex, and the industry is booming.

One college student, “Taylor,” describes how she earned $350 for an afternoon of sex from an older sugar daddy she’d never previously met.

The article goes on to describe the win-win trend of these couplings and the scores of people who sign up for them. 35% are college students on sites like arrangementseekers.com, who advertise upfront only that they are looking to pay down debt.

Noel Biderman is the 39-year-old founder and CEO of Avid Life Media. He’s also the creator of several of these arrangement websites, including one for married people looking to have affairs. He says that most members are registering online from large cities like New York and Los Angeles, where there are higher standards of living and more expensive student loans. Students from NYU make up the most sugar babies, while students from UCLA and UC Berkeley are close behind.

A decade ago it may have made sense to say, “Hold your daughters close; send them to small, private colleges, away from this kind of exposure.” But as many of us know, just flip on the television set and watch 10 minutes of MTV or VH1 (which don’t even play music anymore) and you’ll see the pressure and warped reality high school and college aged kids face today, where viewers quickly become immune to binge drinking, casual sex, teen motherhood and overall shallow thinking.

By the way, Biderman admits unashamedly that he advertises his sites on MTV and VH1, since both television stations appeal to the demographic he covets.

And the girls, the “sugar babies,” who are making it all happen? They are certainly not victims in all this. I contest this is not only about falling victim to debt and a weak economy, as is offered as explanation in the article. Student loan debt has been an inevitable part of young peoples’ lives for decades. No, what has changed in our culture is that increasingly the prevalent messages to young people, to all of us even, is that casual sex and the lure of money buys happiness. What is truly unfortunate is that these girls are making bad decisions with these lies in their minds to justify their actions.

When, after the train ride home, Taylor breaks down in tears and says the experience with the older man for $350 made her feel “dirty,” she should’ve listened to that voice, to her conscience. Instead, she is now back online looking for another sugar daddy arrangement, as a new college semester has begun.

I actually blame the girls in this matter even more than the older men. If the girls weren’t there, the men wouldn’t have anyone to pay. And those girls who say that casual sex is no big thing are lying, by the way. At least there are some girls who admit to how it makes them feel about themselves afterwards.

These girls also have friends who contribute to, or at the very least condone, what they’re doing. Peer pressure is one of the most powerful forces in a young person’s life. I wish there were more young girls who would have the courage to tell their friends that what they’re doing is wrong in this case.

No wonder the rate of married couples has plunged in the past 20 years. Why get married when one can have sex whenever? Why get married when one can have a baby and raise the baby without a partner? Why get married when a girl sees men as greedy opportunists, and not as loving partners?

Most everything young people see in the media today sends the message that it’s OK to have recreational sex. So I really shouldn’t be surprised after all that sex for money is the next leap.


TOPICS: Society
KEYWORDS: college; hookers; sugarbabies; sugardaddies
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1 posted on 01/19/2013 8:08:10 PM PST by doug from upland
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“The Modern Daddy” is described as:

You are always respectful and generous. You only live once, and you want to date the best. Some call you a mentor, sponsor or benefactor. But no matter what your desires may be, you are brutally honest about who you are, what you expect and what you offer.

And the “Goal Seeking Sugar Baby”:

Attractive, intelligent, ambitious and goal oriented. Sugar Babies are students, actresses, models or girls & guys next door. You know you deserve to date someone who will pamper you, empower you, and help you mentally, emotionally and financially.

The benefits are simple: prospective sugar daddies surf the site and select the sugar baby (male or female) whose price they can afford. Monthly rates average $1,000 to $3,000. Most of the sugar babies are women between the ages of 18 and 26, and KTLA breaks down the member numbers as follows: UCLA, 180; USC, 70; UC Riverside, 69; UC Irvine, 64; and Cal State Northridge, 59.


2 posted on 01/19/2013 8:11:50 PM PST by doug from upland (Obama and the leftists - destroying our country one day at a time)
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To: doug from upland

” Why get married when a girl sees men as greedy opportunists, and not as loving partners? “

A “loving partner” wouldn’t take this bargain. The “men” that do are pigs and should be ashamed of themselves. What would their mothers say?


3 posted on 01/19/2013 8:14:13 PM PST by yldstrk (My heroes have always been cowboys)
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To: doug from upland

Its prostitution, pure and simple.


4 posted on 01/19/2013 8:16:35 PM PST by rbg81
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To: doug from upland

Are these the real life Sandra Fluke’s club?


5 posted on 01/19/2013 8:16:36 PM PST by sickoflibs (Losing to O is NO principle!)
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To: doug from upland

Not much difference in comparison to a prostitute and her johns.Younger females want the $ and the older males want the sex. They are both using each other and its quite immoral.


6 posted on 01/19/2013 8:22:26 PM PST by tflabo (Truth or Tyranny)
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To: doug from upland

Very dangerous, they are setting themselves up for addictions too, they are rewarding their brains with cash for deplorable behavior, each time they submit, the voice will become quieter, they will become numb to the negative effects, jaded, a slow death, then when they get older, if they ever marry or have kids, it will rush over them like a tide and haunt them for the rest of their lives, so very sad, no love, just sex, meaningless, selfish indulgence.


7 posted on 01/19/2013 8:29:14 PM PST by IslamE (epiphany)
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To: rbg81

Or, as York County PA four term DA Stan Rebert said, “We all pay for sex.”


8 posted on 01/19/2013 8:31:16 PM PST by lightman (If the Patriarchate of the East held a state like the Vatican I would apply for political asylum.)
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To: doug from upland

See what happens when ‘they’ raise the minimum wage and the part timers (college students) are no longer hired AND the work hours cut back to 30 to keep from PAYING health care, there are only so many ‘Gentlemans Clubs’ sooooo, why should they ‘give it away’ to their college chums when some geezer willing to pay in an afternoon that would take a week or so to earn on the open (part time) market?


9 posted on 01/19/2013 8:32:14 PM PST by xrmusn (6/98 "It is virtually impossible to clean the pond as long as the pigs are still crapping in it")
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To: yldstrk

“What would their mothers say?”

Well good lord, don’t tell your momma that kinda thing! Keep it under your Stetson.


10 posted on 01/19/2013 8:36:59 PM PST by DesertRhino (I was standing with a rifle, waiting for soviet paratroopers, but communists just ran for office.)
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To: yldstrk

no side in this equation is any better than the other. pigs and hoes abound.


11 posted on 01/19/2013 8:37:15 PM PST by Secret Agent Man (I can neither confirm or deny that; even if I could, I couldn't - it's classified.)
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To: lightman; rbg81

> Or, as York County PA four term DA Stan Rebert said, “We all pay for sex.”

Or lunch: “there’s no free lunch”.


12 posted on 01/19/2013 8:45:26 PM PST by Jyotishi (Seeking the truth, a fact at a time.)
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To: doug from upland

Sluts play loose for rich guys. Yeah. That’s something the world has never seen.

PS, if you have to protect your grown daughter from whoring herself out, something went wrong a long time ago.


13 posted on 01/19/2013 8:48:50 PM PST by cizinec ("Brother, your best friend ain't your Momma, it's the Field Artillery.")
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To: doug from upland

I wonder if Bill Clinton has an account.


14 posted on 01/19/2013 8:52:42 PM PST by Antihero101607
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To: DesertRhino

Sing it again.
Da-da-da-da...
Though she was born a long, long time ago
Your mother should know (Your mother should...)
Your mother should know (Know-)
Your mother should know (Your mother should...)
Your mother should know (Know-)
Your mother should know (Your mother should...)
Your mother should know (Know-)


15 posted on 01/19/2013 9:10:29 PM PST by A_Former_Democrat
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To: A_Former_Democrat

A better question would be to ask their future husbands if they like contracting STDs. ;)


16 posted on 01/19/2013 9:17:07 PM PST by JCBreckenridge (Texas is a state of mind - Steinbeck)
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To: yldstrk

I believe the site in question handles both sexes; prostitution is not just men vs. women.

These days, both sexes are just as guilty; regardless of what mother may think


17 posted on 01/19/2013 9:41:53 PM PST by i_robot73
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To: cizinec
Thank you.

Old men want young women to have sex with.

From before time began, old men would pay such women for sex.

Gold pieces, dowrys, fast cars, roles in movies, diamonds, you name it.

If a woman has no sense of her self worth, she'll sell herself for these trinkets.

If they are raised correctly, women will wait for a decent man who will marry them.

Imagine some good man finding out that his soon to be bride sold her body for $.

I know what I would say. The answer is no.

18 posted on 01/19/2013 10:03:11 PM PST by boop ("You don't look so bad, here's another")
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To: doug from upland

Honestly, I’m surprised there hasn’t been a huge push for legalizing prostitution.
If a woman has a “choice” whether or not she can have her offspring killed why should she not also have the “choice” about who she allows to have access to her body and how much she should charge them for that access.


19 posted on 01/19/2013 10:10:01 PM PST by sawmill trash (Just clinging)
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To: sickoflibs

Do you really think Sandra Fluke has any interest in men?


20 posted on 01/19/2013 10:19:09 PM PST by cdcdawg
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