Skip to comments.What is our obligation to those who make bad decisions?
Posted on 04/07/2014 5:18:44 AM PDT by servo1969
One of the things Ive tried to drill into my children is the truism that the single biggest indicator of poverty is single motherhood. That data, incidentally, does not reflect the old-fashioned kind of single motherhood, which was the result of widowhood or abandonment. Instead, were talking about modern single motherhood, the kind that sees women who are deluged with birth control choices nevertheless get pregnant with boyfriends or hook-ups who feel no emotional connection or sense of economic obligation to either mother or baby.
One of my children has a part-time job at a cafe and is, for the first time, meeting adults who have full-time jobs but who arent middle-class professionals living in single family homes in solidly upper middle class neighborhoods. One of these adults is pregnant and is unhappy about the fact that the cafe, where shes been working for only five months, will not give her maternity leave.
Inquiry revealed that the pregnant woman is not married; that shes living with a boyfriend who may or may not be the father of her child (my kid doesnt know), and that the boyfriend doesnt work. Except for getting regular nooky at night (assuming that the pregnant woman still wants that kind of attention), the mother-to-be will be, for all practical purposes, a single mother.
My child found it concerning that the boss wont pay this single mother not to work for him. My child was therefore stymied when I asked this question: Why should he pay for her foolish choices?
I noted that, while its entirely possible that this woman was using enough birth control to protect six woman, and nevertheless still managed to get pregnant, the greater likelihood was that she was careless. Indeed, if she really wanted to protect against single motherhood, she could have abstained from sex until she had a ring on her finger and some economic prospects.
I threw in the fact that its incredibly costly to do business in California, especially in the food service industry, which have extremely low profit margins. Employers generally are drowning in regulations, which makes businesses very expensive to run. Add in taxes and all the other costs of business (rent, insurance, salaries, benefits, supplies, etc.), and its guaranteed that the employer is clearing just enough money for his personal expenses (mortgage, insurance, food, etc.). This owner is almost certainly not living extravagantly but is, instead, living a very temperate life.
Much of the money that the federal and state government are taking away from this man, both from his business and from him personally, is going to welfare programs for single mothers, something this employer must know. Since hes already paying for the welfare this young woman will inevitably end up using, why should he pay twice by carrying her on the books even though shes contributing nothing to his business? Even if he was feeling charitable, the government has left him nothing with which to be charitable, not to mention the fact that the government, by snatching money from his pockets, has already decided on his behalf which charities he should support including economically foolish single motherhood.
Such a simple question: Why should he pay for her foolish choices, when the government is already taxing him heavily in advance to pay for all the foolish choices of intentionally single mothers across America?
Man's only chance of immortality is via offspring and the only source - women.
The consequence is millions of women and children living in government supported poverty while giving away life's most precious commodity - life.
But, the feminists are smarter than I, a mere male.
The free sh*t army votes.
That is all you need to know.
I’d say if the reproducer-to-be had come along and asked the guy, “Say me and this dude I’m gettin’ laid regular with are planing to pop out a little welfare check collector how about you paying my my salary while I’m not working?” And the guy said “Yes.” then there would be someobligation, but since I strongly suspect that no such question was asked. The hell with the woman and her soon to be born welfare check box.
Since when do “cafes” give maternity leave? If you want maternity leave, try and get a job in a corporation (although they are now scarce). Waiters & waitresses, like retail workers, unless they are union, generally go from job to job in search of better pay and more experience.
Way I see, man has no obligation to others; he has the right to choose to help others.
-—Man’s only chance of immortality is via offspring
And if you have no children
through no choice of your own?...
A man I know from India, who grew up in a poor, remote rural village there, once told me that all poverty is caused by ignorance. Here, there, and everywhere.
P.S.: Hope you’re not talking to your kids about “getting nookie.” A simple “she’s made bad decisions and she’s now paying for it,” might suffice.
Couldn’t have said it any better. Exactly what any child should be told when they are being influenced by peer pressure to approve of the lifestyle choice of one of their fellow workers. Well said.
Hey, where’s dad in that logo?
I strongly disagree. I really suspect that almost all people physically capable sexual intercourse are aware that it leads to pregnancy. So I would say that poverty is caused in many cases by a willful disregard for the consequences of ones actions and a focus on the immediate gratification of sex, drugs, cigarettes, etc.
While this man’s idea of ‘poverty’ may lead him to believe that ignorance is responsible, the definition and practice of ‘poverty’ in this country is something entirely different.
Starving malnourished children? How about sloth, laziness, drugs and idleness on the part of the parents? What we have here is pseudo-poverty. by definition it is solely meant to economically couple said sloths to entitlement purely for voting Democrat. Slavery is what we used to call it.
There actually are starving children here, they are in Appalachia, mostly white, and Obama, Holder, Sebelius, et al don’t give a rat’s damn about them.
“...poverty is caused in many cases by a willful disregard for the consequences of ones actions and a focus on the immediate gratification...”
See it ALL the time. I’m sure it is the No.1 cause of poverty in the US. Purely my own unscientific observation, of course.
Knowing my luck, my kid would be the next Jeffrey Dahmer.
Are they not one in the same!? Ignorance = willful disregard?
must be virgin birth...
Whenever you converse with a lib - if you have to, you should use something to this effect:
“Now let me get this straight. You want to confiscate my private property against my will and give it to someone else because, in your opinion, they need it more than I do. If I refuse to participate, you authorize a government agent to jail or shoot me. And to top it all off, you feel good about yourself for advocating this situation? How do you justify that?”
In my book - that is ignorance. Ignorance of consequences, ignorance of the future, ignorance of the state of one's soul.
I believe ‘daddy’ would be whomever is looking at the logo.
So, ‘Hi, Daddy!’
Not even slightly similar. If I know the consequences of an action and go ahead and do it anyway, that is willful disregard. If I don't know the consequences that is ignorance.
Ignorance by definition is "lack of knowledge" Most of these people don't lack the knowledge of the consequences of their actions, they just don't care.
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