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Donít Ban Bossy, Ban Beyonce
Flopping Aces ^ | 04-19-14 | Dave The Sage

Posted on 04/19/2014 11:42:43 AM PDT by Starman417

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Sheryl Sandberg, author of Lean In and Chief Operating Officer of Facebook, has a line in her book that states "I want every little girl who's told she's bossy to be told instead that she has leadership skills." As you have probably heard by now, her Lean In organization and the Girl Scouts of America have teamed up with various celebrities and some other well-known female figures to urge us to ban the use of the word bossy. As part of their "public service" campaign they have released a short ad featuring these women lecturing us about how they were called bossy and other names as children and therefore we should "ban bossy." The "Ban Bossy - I'm Not Bossy. I'm the Boss" video has gone viral while stirring up some controversy along the way. It has now been viewed over 2,250,000 times on Youtube.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6dynbzMlCcw

Playing a prominent role in this campaign is the pop star diva Beyonce. It would appear that the Girl Scouts believe that Beyonce is an appropriate role model for impressionable young girls and someone who should be emulated and looked up too. That is disappointing, and the fact that they cooperating with her on any level should raise more than a few eyebrows. Any objective observer would be hard pressed to not point out that Beyonce apparently believes that empowering women not only calls for the banning of certain words but also the constant sexual objectification of females and dressing up like a stripper at every opportunity. Whoring yourself out just because "sex sells" is hardly edifying to the female gender and is worthy of condemnation. Yet here she is, front and center, in the Ban Bossy ad campaign sponsored by an organization supposedly charged with the mission of building the character, self-esteem, and self-respect of young girls.

For the Girl Scouts and Lean In to showcase her as a spokesman in their campaign is pathetic at best. One of the last people we should be encouraging our daughters to pattern their lives, thoughts, actions, and attitudes after is her. Yet our little Feminist friends apparently have no problem with that. Influencing millions of little girls to sexualize themselves at a very young age is far more damaging than calling someone bossy, and recruiting a spokesperson who is married to a man who routinely calls women "bitches and hoes" just smacks of idiocy and hypocrisy on every level. Conveying the message that a girl has to portray herself as a shameless sexual plaything to gain fame, success, and attention is far more detrimental to the female gender in general, and to entire upcoming generations of young women, than one ten-year old girl telling another to quit being bossy on the playground. And we wonder why vast numbers of young women have self-esteem, eating disorders, and body image issues in our culture.

In the Ban Bossy video Beyonce tells us that "Girls are less interested in leadership than boys," while Lynch adds, "And that's because they worry about being called bossy."

Really, that's why? Are you really telling me that the fear of being called bossy has somehow stymied generations of women? How come I'm not buying that? And so what if a somewhat smaller percentage of "girls are less interested in leadership than boys." Is that the end of the world? Are we really to believe that there must be some sort of contest and competition between the genders when it comes to the percentages of each in perceived leadership positions? Or is this really perhaps just another attempt to fuel the fires of conflict and tension between them by those who don't really care much for the male gender to begin with? These are questions worth pondering.

Is it so far-fetched to fathom that maybe males and females aren't actually exactly the same and perhaps, just perhaps, it is just a natural trait for a majority of both sexes to see males as leaders more often than females? And if so, is that really such an inherently awful idea? We are not born as 'clean slates' but already have a vast network of natural inclinations and predispositions already inside of us as we enter the world. That is not to say that culture and society doesn't play a significant part in who we are and what we become, but to dismiss basic genetic factors and behavioral traits when it comes to gender is both foolish and naive. It's probably not patriarchy and misogyny they should be complaining about here, but basic biology. Perhaps we should spend less time fighting against it and more time learning to understand it.

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TOPICS: Society
KEYWORDS: banbossy; beyonce; culturefailure; feminism; hillary

1 posted on 04/19/2014 11:42:43 AM PDT by Starman417
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To: Starman417

What could be more bossy than big government and liberals?


2 posted on 04/19/2014 11:46:25 AM PDT by mountainlion (Live well for those that did not make it back.)
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To: mountainlion

I find it hard to believe that teenage girls are afraid of being called bossy.

I also find it hard to believe that being afraid of being called bossy keeps girls from going for leacership roles.

Anybody, whether male, female, or the 50 plus genders defined by Facebook, anybody in leadership or management has to be able to absorb criticism, and is not going to lose sleep over what somebody else says about them.


3 posted on 04/19/2014 11:56:44 AM PDT by Dilbert San Diego (Im)
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To: Starman417

BAN BANS!


4 posted on 04/19/2014 11:57:10 AM PDT by tophat9000 (Are we headed to a Cracker Slacker War?)
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To: Starman417

Actually, I’ve always thought of the leftist feminist movement as legalized nagging. Call it equality! Call it bossy! It is all the same. Women want the right to nag legally. Men assert, lead, boss around. Most women, especially the feminists, love to nag under the guise of assertiveness and bossiness. Nothing has changed.


5 posted on 04/19/2014 12:01:29 PM PDT by GilGil
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To: tophat9000

6 posted on 04/19/2014 12:03:56 PM PDT by EEGator
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To: Starman417

Pushy little boys don’t generally get called bossy. They get punched in the nose.


7 posted on 04/19/2014 12:04:01 PM PDT by lepton ("It is useless to attempt to reason a man out of a thing he was never reasoned into"--Jonathan Swift)
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To: Starman417

Sheryl Sandberg sounds like she could be bossy if she wanted to.


8 posted on 04/19/2014 12:04:15 PM PDT by Bloody Sam Roberts (Truth sounds like hate...to those who hate truth.)
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To: Starman417
Ban Bossy is about addressing Clinton focus group findings.

Hillary comes across as shrill and abrasive and this campaign is intended to put those who say so on the defensive.

9 posted on 04/19/2014 12:04:41 PM PDT by skeeter
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To: Starman417

There is a really huge difference between leadership and being bossy. While some people are natural leaders, for most it is a learned experience, through a combination of observation, scholarship, and practice with evaluation.

Someone who is bossy, on the other hand, lacks leadership skills; assumes that a position of authority automatically conveys the ability to lead, and a responsibility in others, not just to follow, but to “obey” without question; and often injects prejudice, bias, favoritism, and unethical behavior on their part against subordinates.

Captain Bligh, of the HMS Bounty, was both bossy and a bad leader. On one hand, he craved for his crew to have strict discipline; but on the other, he wanted his crew to ‘like’ him. This led to his being excessively cruel and petty in one minute, then excessively generous and friendly the next, without warning.

It was more than his crew could bear. So they mutinied.

As far as girls go, the advice to them should be the same as it is for boys. Observe leadership as such, read up on how to be a good leader. Communicate what you want clearly and succinctly. Don’t be afraid to countermand a bad order. Include rules and parameters to your orders. Solicit the advice of those who are good leaders and have been leading for a long time. And remember, the followers make the leader, not the other way around.


10 posted on 04/19/2014 12:07:02 PM PDT by yefragetuwrabrumuy (WoT News: Rantburg.com)
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To: EEGator

No brain no pain.


11 posted on 04/19/2014 12:09:30 PM PDT by mountainlion (Live well for those that did not make it back.)
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To: Starman417
Overcoming adversity is what builds character...even overcoming that horrible adversity of being called bossy.

Oh, the huge manatee!

12 posted on 04/19/2014 12:11:55 PM PDT by RoosterRedux
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To: Starman417
FTA:"Tell the women of the Middle East or North Africa about the pressing need to ban the word bossy and they’ll tell you some interesting stories about rampant female circumcisions, beatings, and honor killings that will make your skin crawl."
Yes, a true feminist who understands the priorities, Ayaan Hirsi Ali can tell you all about it. Besides, nothing says BOSSY like trying to ban a word just because you don't like it.
13 posted on 04/19/2014 12:11:56 PM PDT by Impala64ssa (You call me an islamophobe like it's a bad thing.)
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To: Starman417

Personally, I like being bossy. That’s how I got elected Chairman of the Board of Supervisors. Being bossy is underrated. :)


14 posted on 04/19/2014 12:17:57 PM PDT by Hildy (Falling down is how you grow. Staying down is how you die.)
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To: mountainlion

Absolutely nothing. That’s the whole thing with liberals: They do not lead - They demand, and their demands are usually absolutely insane.


15 posted on 04/19/2014 12:28:25 PM PDT by GrandJediMasterYoda (Hitlery: Incarnation of evil.)
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To: tophat9000
So the question is ..

It their no such thing a being Bossy?...

Any we saying it does not exist!? That there is no such thing?

That all (or a particular chosen subset of all) have unlimited and unchecked approval to boss any and all other persons of our choosing around?

That the other person must accept your assuming boss status, to any level you choose?

How does that work? "Bossy" is a person assuming they have authority over others that has not been given or in excess of what has been given..

Ban the word it order to enable the act of certain people assuming excessive authority, they thing is there due, over others

Now who does that sound like?

16 posted on 04/19/2014 12:29:00 PM PDT by tophat9000 (Are we headed to a Cracker Slacker War?)
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To: tophat9000
So the question is ..

Is their no such thing as being Bossy?...

Are we saying it does not exist!? That there is no such thing?

That all (or a particular chosen subset of all) have unlimited and unchecked approval to boss any and all other persons of thier choosing around?

That the other persons must accept them assuming boss status, to any level they choose?

How does that work? "Bossy" is a person assuming they have authority over others that has not been given or in excess of what has been given..

Ban the word it order to enable the act of certain people assuming excessive authority, they think is there due, over others

Now who does that sound like?

(Dam I wish FR would enable an edit post feature)

17 posted on 04/19/2014 12:36:59 PM PDT by tophat9000 (Are we headed to a Cracker Slacker War?)
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To: RoosterRedux

I agree.

Remove “Bossy” and replace it with the more accurate “Ball Busting B!tch on Wheels.”


18 posted on 04/19/2014 12:38:01 PM PDT by freedumb2003 (Fight Tapinophobia in all its forms! Do not submit to arduus privilege.)
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To: Starman417

Ban bossy but they love to call each others “bitch,ho,and slut”
I’m a nurse and this female Dr came into the nurse station and made a comment about an order she said “what bitch wanted this?”
She was met with silence and stares.


19 posted on 04/19/2014 12:38:16 PM PDT by peteyd (A dog may bite you in the ass,but it will never stab you in the back.)
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To: Starman417
One of the last people we should be encouraging our daughters to pattern their lives, thoughts, actions, and attitudes after is her.

Is her what?

Better:

She is one of the last people we should be encouraging our daughters to pattern their lives, thoughts, actions, and attitudes after.

Or, for those who don't like ending sentences with prepositions:

She is one of the last people after whom we should be encouraging our daughters to pattern their lives, thoughts, actions, and attitudes.

Regards,

20 posted on 04/19/2014 1:20:45 PM PDT by alexander_busek (Extraordinary claims require extraordinary evidence.)
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To: skeeter

Oh, sharp observation!


21 posted on 04/19/2014 1:21:28 PM PDT by Tax-chick (Entropy is high. Wear a hat! And carry an umbrella.)
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To: Starman417
Next up ...

... banning "Fussbudget."

22 posted on 04/19/2014 1:23:51 PM PDT by x
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To: Tax-chick

The left in all its incarnations does’t do anything without gauging its political impact.


23 posted on 04/19/2014 1:27:14 PM PDT by skeeter
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To: skeeter

I agree. I hadn’t thought this situation through to consider how, specifically, it was supposed to advance Democrat politics.


24 posted on 04/19/2014 1:32:25 PM PDT by Tax-chick (Entropy is high. Wear a hat! And carry an umbrella.)
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To: Starman417
Mike Bossy photo aaoq188_zps23433fad.jpg
25 posted on 04/19/2014 1:34:45 PM PDT by RitchieAprile
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To: freedumb2003
Another thing that this "bossy" campaign is confused about is that great leadership isn't bossy at all. It is motivational, visionary and inspiring.

Maggie Thatcher is one of the heroes of us at FR and she was never bossy.

Boy do I miss Maggie Thatcher.

26 posted on 04/19/2014 1:49:08 PM PDT by RoosterRedux
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To: Starman417

Word Banning: Book Burning little brother


27 posted on 04/19/2014 3:40:31 PM PDT by tophat9000 (Are we headed to a Cracker Slacker War?)
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To: lepton
Pushy little boys don’t generally get called bossy. They get punched in the nose.

You clearly have not been paying attention for about a generation or so. :/

28 posted on 04/19/2014 3:47:54 PM PDT by Teacher317 (We have now sunk to a depth at which restatement of the obvious is the first duty of intelligent men)
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To: RitchieAprile

Rangers fans sure wished he was banned.


29 posted on 04/19/2014 3:53:44 PM PDT by dfwgator
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To: skeeter
Hillary comes across as shrill and abrasive and this campaign is intended to put those who say so on the defensive.

This week, Bill O'Reilly said that the GOP just needs to present a charismatic candidate to win 2016, basically conceding that the message will be irrelevant.

Why?

Because Hillary is extremely uncharismatic.

We conservatives get so wrapped up in how dirty the libs conduct their politics that we think they have a lock on the majority of voters.

But if we consider that obama won for the shallowest reason, we should consider hillary will lose for the same shallow reason: obama won because he was charismatic, hillary will most likely lose because she is excessively uncharismatic.

30 posted on 04/19/2014 5:16:54 PM PDT by Vision Thing (obama wants his suicidal worshipers to become suicidal bombers.)
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To: Teacher317

Heh.

Yeah, I know it’s less and less.


31 posted on 04/20/2014 5:01:01 AM PDT by lepton ("It is useless to attempt to reason a man out of a thing he was never reasoned into"--Jonathan Swift)
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To: Starman417

What if they’re bossy?

I recently had to tell a woman at work who was offended by something I said, and who told me I can’t say it around her, that I don’t know where she got the idea that she could tell me what I can and can’t say. In fact, she doesn’t have that authority.

See, she was bossy. And that should be discouraged.


32 posted on 04/20/2014 5:57:00 AM PDT by Ted Grant
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To: Starman417
"....her "Lean In" organization and the Girl Scouts of America have teamed up with various celebrities to ban the use of the word 'bossy'."

And so many folks think that it's only the Boy Scouts which has been infiltrated.....

Leni

33 posted on 04/20/2014 6:55:13 AM PDT by MinuteGal
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To: Starman417

” I don’t like the word Bossy so I am ordering you not to say it”?
And nobody sees the Irony. NOBODY!!!


34 posted on 04/20/2014 7:45:06 AM PDT by Yorlik803 ( Church/Caboose in 2016)
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To: MinuteGal

The Boy Scouts were infiltrated. The Girl Scouts were incorporated.


35 posted on 04/20/2014 8:49:16 AM PDT by lepton ("It is useless to attempt to reason a man out of a thing he was never reasoned into"--Jonathan Swift)
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