Skip to comments.It's All About Concordia - Chaput-Buoy (Funeral homes)
Posted on 09/07/2018 7:31:44 PM PDT by 2ndDivisionVet
Working in the funeral home business is one of those types of jobs that people dont think about very much until they have to. When a loved one passes, they must then confront a reality that exists for every human being.
Fortunately, there are people like Joshua Meyer and Kenton LeBlanc ready to help guide a family through an emotionally difficult time.
In a way, it's a calling, Meyer said. I kind of liken it to someone becoming a minister. Its the type of job not a lot of people consider, but for some of us it becomes a passion in our life. I really like being able to help people in their time of need.
Born in Salina and raised in Wichita, Meyer attended Kansas State University and was studying nuclear engineering.
Being a poor college student, I needed a job, and I went to the job board on campus. A funeral home was hiring college students. I worked a lot of nights and weekends, but it paid a really good hourly rate.
Working at a funeral home was supposed to be a temporary job for Meyer, but as often happens, Fate intervened.
Meyer met his wife Jamie at K-State. They wanted to get married and start a family. And live in Kansas.
Meyer knew he had a lot of schooling left to be a nuclear engineer, and a job in that field would almost certainly require them to move out of state.
One of my bosses at the funeral home suggested I consider the mortuary business as a career. I thought about it, and decided he was right.
After graduating from mortuary school, Meyer worked at the Broadway Mortuary in Wichita for several years, and his wife taught school in Whitewater. They moved to Concordia in 2001, and Meyer went to work with Jim Buoy at Chaput-Buoy.
Meyer is now a licensed funeral home director and licensed embalmer in the state of Kansas. In 2004 he became the manager of Chaput-Buoy Funeral Home, and is also the vice-president of Tibbetts Brothers, which own 13 funeral homes in Kansas and south central Nebraska.
Kenton LeBlanc was born and raised in the Clifton-Clyde area. He did a lot of work for area farmers growing up, got an auto mechanics degree from Beloit Vo-Tech, and even worked at ARVOS for a few years as a welder.
In 1989 he started working at Chaput-Buoy part-time.
I didn't even own a suit, LeBlanc said. They sent me down to Daylight Clothing, and Art Slaughter fixed me up.
After a short time, LeBlanc also heard the calling.
I was just really drawn to the business, and the way it was done at Chaput-Buoy, he said. They were really dedicated to helping people.
LeBlanc went to mortuary school in Kansas City, and graduated in 1991. He is now a licensed mortician and embalmer in both Kansas and Nebraska.
The funeral home began with George Chaput, who opened the first Chaput Mortuary in Clyde in 1923. Chaput-Buoy now has 3 full-time employees, and 8 part-time employees on its staff in the Concordia, Clyde and Jamestown areas.
As with any business nowadays, technology plays an integral role. But it is perhaps less so at a funeral home.
We now have 4 computers instead of three typewriters to handle all our paperwork and documents, Meyer said. But the work we do such as embalming and makeup is still pretty much the same technology as 50 years ago.
It may be surprising to know, but being a mortician means you are much more of an artist than a technician.
What we do to prepare the deceased is really an art form, Meyer said. We rely very little on technology. There is an advanced skill level in the restoration process that cannot be duplicated with machinery.
The type of death and cause of death heavily impact the work a funeral director must perform. Though embalming is done for preservation purposes and to sanitize and disinfect the remains, a serious accident may require an extensive amount of restoration art. Mathematics often play a significant role in facial reconstruction, and special care is needed for hair and makeup.
This type of work lays bare the emotional burden of being a mortician: coping with the passing of loved ones.
Like a doctor or nurse or police officer, morticians are on the front line of human tragedy.
Funeral directors are often one of the first people that the family of the deceased will speak with.
There is a grief-cycle that every human being goes through, Meyer said, and it's our responsibility to be the liaison for the family. We must be compassionate and understand the emotional suffering, but also guide the bereaved through the steps that must be taken.
Most of us will have to cope with this type of grief and sorrow a handful of times during our life. Funeral directors are intimately involved with the grief cycle several times a week. In their career, they will bear witness to human grief and tragedy thousands of times.
Its not easy to cope with sometimes, Meyer said. You definitely need an emotional release.
That grief cycle has a greater impact in a small town. Funeral directors are often called upon to bury a friend.
For Meyer and LeBlanc, the most difficult challenge involves the death of children.
Every parent hopes that they never have to bury one of their children, Meyer said. When its a young child, it becomes extremely difficult for us, too. Were trained to handle the emotional aspects of a burial; it's our job to be there to support the families. But we're also human beings, and honestly especially with children it can really get to you.
Another surprising fact: in a small town, a burial can have a lasting effect on the relationship between the funeral director and the surviving family members and friends.
Sometimes it takes awhile to reestablish the old relationship, Meyer said. When they see me, Im an immediate reminder of the emotional pain they just went through. I understand that. I realize it comes with the job I do. But I will always be there for the families, no matter what, and no matter how long it takes.
LeBlanc agreed. I am passionate about what I do. I've lived in this area my whole life. Families rely on me to help them through what is an extremely difficult period of their life. But there are parts of my job that are really hard sometimes.
Both Meyer and LeBlanc spoke at length about their obligation to the community.
Its what I chose to do; its what I want to do, LeBlanc said. Well always be here when families need us.
Both my wife and I now have a deeply personal investment in Concordia, Meyer said. I have a passion for the people here, so that means I have a dedication to performing my job to the best of my abilities and providing the people of this community with the best service possible in their time of need. I want to be the one this community can rely on to help through the first and often most difficult step in the healing process.
Both morticians noted a significant change in the funeral business over the past 10 years.
There is definitely a rise in the number of people who choose cremation before burial, Meyer said.
Now, in the state of Kansas, cremation accounts for almost 50% of all funeral services.
For a long time cremation was a cheaper alternative to a burial service because there are no embalming or preservation costs. But the industry is a business, and a business adapts to the demand. Cremation rates are rising dramatically.
Meyer points out that everyone, especially as we get older, should tour a funeral home.
We are all going to pass away some day, and it's just realistic to get an idea of the steps that need to be taken. Being better-prepared and a little more informed of the processes can be very helpful to the family.
Whether it's cremation or the more traditional burial service, Meyer noted one common fear and comment he often hears when people talk to him about their own eventual passing especially from women.
I don't want you to see me naked! Meyer said.
He was quick to point out that, like a doctor or nurse in a small town, it is just one aspect of the job he does.
Its a necessary part of the process, and all individuals are treated with the utmost respect and dignity.
serving the communities of North Central Kansas with dignity, compassion, and respect for almost 100 years.
Making funeral arrangements for the deceased is hard to do. I expect to get hit by the beer truck sometime before January so Ive been trying to make arrangements for my own Viking funeral so its a slam dunk and prepaid for.
I dont need much as Ive opted for plain cremation no services or reception. The only thing I want is for my son to know its my body being creamated by itself and my son is receiving my ashes. Thats been difficult to do because of the ashes ready for delivery after creamation is a bit long. It exceeds the five days hes going to have to travel
So for me I look at the families of the deacesed and loved one having the responsibilities for carrying out the wishes.
This is a good piece and shows some details of a job that most of us are glad we do not do. Thanks for posting it 2ndD!
An industry that’s never had a recession that I know of.
My good friend died in May....I made the mistake of touching her shoulder at the “viewing”...it was just a natural thing for me to do....aaaggghhhh...she was Frozen.
They were a wonderful Christian family in an old-time working class city neighborhood (this is a decade before the opioid crisis starting hitting white working class). But they eventually felt the need to move away from the city to a rural area, because of the horror of having to process a steadily increasing number teenagers shot in gang slayings from the nearby hispanic and black ghetto neighborhoods. Tragic.
Let your son know that there’s a disclaimer that some of the ashes in your urn came from other people.
I had an employee that worked part time at a funeral home and he tell all these stories. Some judge had died and the family got a court order to make the funeral home clean out the oven so that their dad’s ashes were not mixed with anyone else’s.
He would tell how you could hear the grease popping when the body was from a large fat person. Then how they have to grind all the knuckle bones that don’t burn completely.
A classmate of mine one year ahead of me in a smaller rural high school was an apprentice funeral director while he was waiting to graduate and go to college. I imagine he’s still doing it.
It’s certainly an honorable profession.
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