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Scorned woman's Web site exposes cheating men (DontDateHimGirl 'a public service to women')
Canada.com ^ | Monday, November 07, 2005 | Misty Harris

Posted on 11/10/2005 10:27:17 AM PST by nickcarraway

A Toronto woman has masterminded a Web-based tool of revenge for scorned women around the world.

Tasha Joseph's DontDateHimGirl.com attracts an average 200,000 hits a day by allowing women to expose their former partners' cheating ways.

After just a few months in operation, the site features profiles of 600 men -- many of them Canadian -- and has another 1,000 under review. Entries include the guy's full name, physical description, history of purported cheating and, in many cases, a recent photograph.

"You know how the FBI has its Most Wanted list?" says Ms. Joseph, now working as a publicist in Miami. "We thought it would be great if you could do that for cheating men. This would be the Most Hated Cheaters list."

If the site's database is any indication, Alberta boys love behaving badly. Edmonton leads the country in male profiles on DontDateHimGirl, followed by Calgary and a number of rural towns throughout the province. Men from Ontario and Quebec are also featured on the site.

"I really do view [the site] as a public service to women," says Ms. Joseph, a self-described two-time victim of infidelity. "It's very treacherous out there in the dating world ... so this is a warning system for women who have been cheated on to warn other women about the guys who've done the cheating."

Traffic on DontDateHimGirl has grown exponentially in the past month alone, with a one-day record of 1,236,000 visitors after the site was featured on NBC TV's Today Show. Ms. Joseph says she receives about 100 new submissions a day but doesn't post them until she has made contact with the women to verify what's written.

She says she also tries to contact the alleged cheaters whenever possible, offering them a chance to tell their side of the story.

"Most of them say that the woman who posted [the profile] is crazy, that something is wrong with her, that they're saints," she says. "But out of the 600 guys on the site, maybe 15 or 20 have used the rebuttal service."

Feminist activist Veronica Arreola, director of the Women in Science and Engineering program at the University of Chicago, likens the site to scrawling a man's name on a bathroom door in high school. Although in favour of women looking out for each other, she isn't convinced posting on sites of this kind is the way to do it.

"I think the energy used for anger would be best served at ensuring that women are protected against STDs the old fashioned way -- sex ed, condoms and preventative medicines such as the new cervical cancer vaccine," Ms. Arreola says.

The men profiled on DontDateHimGirl would probably agree. At present, a number of them are attempting to launch a class-action lawsuit against the site.

But Ms. Joseph, who created the online database with legal counsel, believes she is protected by American law.

According to a privacy lawyer from Halifax, that may not be the case in Canada.

"If the person's reputation is in Canada, and they are in Canada, and likely the person who posted the information is in Canada, there's more than enough connection for Canadian defamation law to apply," says David T.S. Fraser, chair of the privacy practice group at McInnes Cooper. But he hastens to add the statements aren't considered defamatory if they're true.

"If you're a slug," says Mr. Fraser, "it's only appropriate people know you're a slug."


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1 posted on 11/10/2005 10:27:17 AM PST by nickcarraway
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To: nickcarraway

This is being presented as something new. And yet I read about it ages ago.


2 posted on 11/10/2005 10:29:24 AM PST by Revel
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To: nickcarraway

If they had one of these with pictures of cheating women it would be a real hit!


3 posted on 11/10/2005 10:29:37 AM PST by MarineBrat (When it rains, New Orleans makes its own gravy.)
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To: nickcarraway

Hate the play, not the player.

Owl_Eagle

(If what I just wrote makes you sad or angry,

 it was probably sarcasm)

4 posted on 11/10/2005 10:30:37 AM PST by South Hawthorne (In Memory of my Dear Friend Henry Lee II)
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To: nickcarraway

Do they have to present proof or are they open to libel? Scorned women do lie occasionally.


5 posted on 11/10/2005 10:30:41 AM PST by One Proud Dad
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To: nickcarraway; PaulaB; Dashing Dasher; Jersey Republican Biker Chick; najida; teenyelliott; ...

I can see a lot of vindictive women using this as a weapon. Some smart guy will soon come up with "Don't date her she's a psycho/slut etc" website. Meeeoooowwww...


6 posted on 11/10/2005 10:30:44 AM PST by Millee (As God as my witness, I thought turkeys could fly!!)
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To: Millee
Some smart guy will soon come up with "Don't date her she's a psycho/slut etc" website.

There already is one. It's called DU.

7 posted on 11/10/2005 10:32:27 AM PST by Mike Bates (Irish Alzheimer's victim: I only remember the grudges.)
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To: nickcarraway

Actually, a fella can probably get some mileage by listing himself in the database. :-)


8 posted on 11/10/2005 10:34:11 AM PST by HitmanLV (Listen to my demos for Savage Nation contest: http://www.geocities.com/mr_vinnie_vegas/index.html)
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To: Millee
I can see a lot of vindictive women using this as a weapon. Some smart guy will soon come up with "Don't date her she's a psycho/slut etc" website.

I thought that was about 30% of the threads here?

9 posted on 11/10/2005 10:35:10 AM PST by najida (Sometimes the only justice we'll ever get is having our story heard.)
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To: Jersey Republican Biker Chick; najida; PaulaB; EX52D; teenyelliott; peacebaby; Millee; ...
I can see a lot of vindictive women using this as a weapon. Some smart guy will soon come up with "Don't date her she's a psycho/slut etc" website.

Let me guess who will make $$ off that idea.

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10 posted on 11/10/2005 10:37:18 AM PST by Dashing Dasher (I'm going to become rich as soon as I invent a device that allows you to smack people over the web!)
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To: Millee; Owl_Eagle; Sam's Army; Lazamataz; Darksheare; pissant; Dashing Dasher; najida; ...

Can't we all just get along and get over it, PING!!!


11 posted on 11/10/2005 10:37:39 AM PST by Jersey Republican Biker Chick (People too weak to follow their own dreams, will always find a way to discourage yours.)
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To: nickcarraway
"I think the energy used for anger would be best served at ensuring that women are protected against STDs the old fashioned way -- sex ed, condoms and preventative medicines such as the new cervical cancer vaccine," Ms. Arreola says.



I think the old fashioned way was abstinence
12 posted on 11/10/2005 10:38:36 AM PST by PeterPrinciple (Seeking the truth here folks.)
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To: One Proud Dad
Do they have to present proof or are they open to libel? Scorned women do lie occasionally.

I DO NOT!

/sarc

13 posted on 11/10/2005 10:38:41 AM PST by Dashing Dasher (I'm going to become rich as soon as I invent a device that allows you to smack people over the web!)
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To: Mike Bates

Badda-Boom! Good point!


14 posted on 11/10/2005 10:39:04 AM PST by Millee (As God as my witness, I thought turkeys could fly!!)
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To: HitmanNY

I don't know,
I've seen some guys freak out when they found out they were listed on a 'Dating Losers' list.

(not that I know about this incident first hand, ya know ;) )


15 posted on 11/10/2005 10:39:25 AM PST by najida (Sometimes the only justice we'll ever get is having our story heard.)
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To: najida
I've seen some guys freak out when they found out they were listed on a 'Dating Losers' list.

Here at FR, that would be known as the "Dating Loosers" list. And let's not get personable, OK?

16 posted on 11/10/2005 10:41:02 AM PST by Mike Bates (Irish Alzheimer's victim: I only remember the grudges.)
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To: najida

'Dating Losers' and 'Cheater' are two different categories. If I most men had to be in one, they would vote for 'Cheater' - after all, dating loser means there probably aren't many satisfied women in his life; cheater means several women do and he is just a lowlife for indulging.

The former isn't sexually exciting, the latter may be.

Of course, a man doesn't have to be in either, so it doesn't matter much.


17 posted on 11/10/2005 10:42:55 AM PST by HitmanLV (Listen to my demos for Savage Nation contest: http://www.geocities.com/mr_vinnie_vegas/index.html)
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To: PeterPrinciple
I think the old fashioned way was abstinence

Darn Republicans! Always using logic and facts!

18 posted on 11/10/2005 10:43:24 AM PST by Dashing Dasher (I'm going to become rich as soon as I invent a device that allows you to smack people over the web!)
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To: HitmanNY

Whatever ya say hun. :)


19 posted on 11/10/2005 10:45:31 AM PST by najida (Sometimes the only justice we'll ever get is having our story heard.)
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To: nickcarraway

I'm sure these guys are getting lots of action from the women who go to this site. There is nothing too dumb for millions of women to do. Bad Boys like this are irresistible to them.


20 posted on 11/10/2005 10:46:27 AM PST by justshutupandtakeit (Public Enemy #1, the RATmedia.)
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To: najida

It's the damn truth! ;-)


21 posted on 11/10/2005 10:47:03 AM PST by HitmanLV (Listen to my demos for Savage Nation contest: http://www.geocities.com/mr_vinnie_vegas/index.html)
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To: HitmanNY

Hey,
You're the one telling me! ;)


22 posted on 11/10/2005 10:48:56 AM PST by najida (Sometimes the only justice we'll ever get is having our story heard.)
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To: Jersey Republican Biker Chick

That's what I always said ~ I don't what there is about a women and their elephant like memories. *sigh*


23 posted on 11/10/2005 10:49:39 AM PST by blackie (Be Well~Be Armed~Be Safe~Molon Labe!)
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To: Millee; Jersey Republican Biker Chick

"Don't date her she's a psycho/slut etc"

Just as likely to have a "Date her she's a psycho slut!" site.  Guys don't learn until she shows up on your front lawn at three in the morning dressed in curtains, waving a chef's knife, screaming that she's the real mother of your children.  Or so I've heard.

Owl_Eagle

(If what I just wrote makes you sad or angry,

 it was probably sarcasm)

24 posted on 11/10/2005 10:49:52 AM PST by South Hawthorne (In Memory of my Dear Friend Henry Lee II)
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To: najida
LOL!!!

Confucius say, Never have a battle of wits with an unarmed man.
25 posted on 11/10/2005 10:50:06 AM PST by Dashing Dasher (I'm going to become rich as soon as I invent a device that allows you to smack people over the web!)
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To: Dashing Dasher

What's witless about my response?


26 posted on 11/10/2005 10:50:50 AM PST by HitmanLV (Listen to my demos for Savage Nation contest: http://www.geocities.com/mr_vinnie_vegas/index.html)
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To: nickcarraway

Is Bill Clinton on the list?????

Is this a cheating spouse list or cheating boyfriend list? Do the put a big "A" over the guy's picture?


27 posted on 11/10/2005 10:52:27 AM PST by petitfour
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To: Owl_Eagle

Dear lord!

That actually happened (er, was done by) someone I knew in college.

(again, I wasn't there, I was just told about it ;) )

Except it was bed sheets, but the knife was the same and she was preggers
(or so I was told).


28 posted on 11/10/2005 10:52:38 AM PST by najida (Sometimes the only justice we'll ever get is having our story heard.)
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To: nickcarraway

bump


29 posted on 11/10/2005 10:53:39 AM PST by lowbridge
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To: Millee
Thanks for the ping, Millee!

If my ex is a cheating dyke, do I get to put up her picture warning women not to date her?

In Canadia they can't discriminate against dykes and gays, so I think questions like this need to be answered up front.

30 posted on 11/10/2005 10:53:41 AM PST by BostonianRightist (Justice: A Dish Best Served Swiftly)
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To: Owl_Eagle

Or so you've heard? Likely story, Owl, we know you like the psycho type.


31 posted on 11/10/2005 10:53:48 AM PST by Jersey Republican Biker Chick (People too weak to follow their own dreams, will always find a way to discourage yours.)
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To: blackie

Who you callin' an elephant?!?! ;)


32 posted on 11/10/2005 10:54:39 AM PST by najida (Sometimes the only justice we'll ever get is having our story heard.)
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To: HitmanNY; KimmyJaye

33 posted on 11/10/2005 10:54:56 AM PST by Mr. Jeeves ("When government does too much, nobody else does much of anything." -- Mark Steyn)
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To: Dashing Dasher

Errrr.....ummm.....no comment.


34 posted on 11/10/2005 10:56:21 AM PST by patton ("Hard Drive Cemetary" - forthcoming best seller)
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To: najida
Elephant like memories. *sigh*
35 posted on 11/10/2005 10:56:22 AM PST by blackie (Be Well~Be Armed~Be Safe~Molon Labe!)
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To: patton

MARRIED GUY ALERT!!!

;-)


36 posted on 11/10/2005 10:57:05 AM PST by Dashing Dasher (I'm going to become rich as soon as I invent a device that allows you to smack people over the web!)
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To: najida

A wise man once said "All of life’s big problems include the words “indictment” or “inoperable.” Everything else is small stuff. "

the knife was the same and she was preggers

He'd probably make an exception for that.

 

Owl_Eagle

(If what I just wrote makes you sad or angry,

 it was probably sarcasm)

37 posted on 11/10/2005 10:57:09 AM PST by South Hawthorne (In Memory of my Dear Friend Henry Lee II)
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To: blackie

I was just teasin' ya sweetie :)

}} Smooch! {{

(I'm on a sugar high....sweet tea for lunch, southern style)


38 posted on 11/10/2005 10:57:52 AM PST by najida (Sometimes the only justice we'll ever get is having our story heard.)
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To: nickcarraway

And women are totally innocent of cheating and deception, right? GIVE ME A BREAK!


39 posted on 11/10/2005 10:58:37 AM PST by NRA1995 (When liberals speak I hear the Vonage music playing.....woo-hoo, woo-hoo-hoo....)
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To: Dashing Dasher
Hey, what is the web address? I want to see how prominately I am listed.

LOL

40 posted on 11/10/2005 10:59:38 AM PST by patton ("Hard Drive Cemetary" - forthcoming best seller)
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To: NRA1995

To be fair, nobody said that.


41 posted on 11/10/2005 10:59:52 AM PST by HitmanLV (Listen to my demos for Savage Nation contest: http://www.geocities.com/mr_vinnie_vegas/index.html)
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To: Jersey Republican Biker Chick; najida; PaulaB; EX52D; teenyelliott; peacebaby; Millee

I went to the website and looked for my demented friend (discussed in previous thread - the pranking dude).

And his name wasn't on the list!

I'm SHOCKED!!!

I should sign up and add it - but ... he'd kill me.

;-)


42 posted on 11/10/2005 11:00:58 AM PST by Dashing Dasher (I'm going to become rich as soon as I invent a device that allows you to smack people over the web!)
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To: Jersey Republican Biker Chick

we know you like the psycho type

They seem to be the only kind I attract... or can attract.  I'm sure that's no reflection on me though.

You can't imagine how stressful it is to have one psycho on the lawn screaming with the knife and another one in the bedroom throwing an alarm clock at your head.

Owl_Eagle

(If what I just wrote makes you sad or angry,

 it was probably sarcasm)

43 posted on 11/10/2005 11:01:15 AM PST by South Hawthorne (In Memory of my Dear Friend Henry Lee II)
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To: patton


http://www.dontdatehimgirl.com/


44 posted on 11/10/2005 11:01:30 AM PST by Dashing Dasher (I'm going to become rich as soon as I invent a device that allows you to smack people over the web!)
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To: Owl_Eagle
You can't imagine how stressful it is to have one psycho on the lawn screaming with the knife and another one in the bedroom throwing an alarm clock at your head.

You live a tough life, indeed.

45 posted on 11/10/2005 11:02:19 AM PST by Dashing Dasher (I'm going to become rich as soon as I invent a device that allows you to smack people over the web!)
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To: Owl_Eagle

Stressful indeed, but if you would stop looking for dates outside the psych hospital things like this would not occur.


46 posted on 11/10/2005 11:03:24 AM PST by Jersey Republican Biker Chick (People too weak to follow their own dreams, will always find a way to discourage yours.)
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To: Owl_Eagle

We have some room down in detox and lock-up if you're ever interested :)


47 posted on 11/10/2005 11:03:30 AM PST by najida (Sometimes the only justice we'll ever get is having our story heard.)
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To: Dashing Dasher

I just entered myself in the cheater database! Hoorah!


48 posted on 11/10/2005 11:03:57 AM PST by HitmanLV (Listen to my demos for Savage Nation contest: http://www.geocities.com/mr_vinnie_vegas/index.html)
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To: Dashing Dasher

Nope, not on there yet. Was tempted to add my own name. Heheh.


49 posted on 11/10/2005 11:07:54 AM PST by patton ("Hard Drive Cemetary" - forthcoming best seller)
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To: Dashing Dasher
Ya he needs to be put on there but again his looks may outdo his bad behavior..I am still deciding Image hosted by Photobucket.com
50 posted on 11/10/2005 11:08:18 AM PST by PaulaB (Do you know our Olga?)
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