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To: starfish923; GoLightly
Yes it is. BTW, I think that GoLightly said the most important thing on this thread: We are all responsible to disarm our own buttons.

IMO, that is a brilliant, succinct way to say it and it is exactly why I love learning from these discussions!
74 posted on 07/09/2006 8:19:52 PM PDT by pollyannaish
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To: pollyannaish
Yes it is. BTW, I think that GoLightly said the most important thing on this thread: We are all responsible to disarm our own buttons.
IMO, that is a brilliant, succinct way to say it and it is exactly why I love learning from these discussions!

Well, HALF of it is true. So it's HALF-brilliant, HALF-succint. Remember, it always, always and always take TWO to figh.
Are none of us responsible for NOT pushing buttons?
You may not be aware of it but button pushers are bullies, control freaks who know the vulnerable spots in people. They attack, tease, provoke and otherwise rile people up because that's what they do.

I've been a teacher since 1969 and have taught ALL grades but have been at the college level for the past 20 years.
I've seen the provacateurs do their nasty, vile, evil work on the weakest, most vulnerable and GIRLS are just as prone to bully as boys, but in a MUCH different ways. Girls tease, ridicule, mock and otherwise push buttons as nastily as boys.

It seems to me that NOT pushing buttons, or NOT provoking, teasing, etc., is the OTHER half of the equation.
Provoking is mean, controlling and manipulative....especially when the provoker knows FULL WELL what s/he is doing. There are NO worse button pushers than spouses because they know the full breadth of their words and actions. I also include actions like: NOT talking (the silent treatment), ignoring, sulking/brooding (worse than mere pouting), walking out and such....REMEMBER, these are done as button pushing.

Are you LOVING this lesson too? These are lessons that most of us learn in our teens. GoLightly and you seem NOT to have learned THIS other HALF of the equation.

I do agree that we are all responsible to disarm our own buttons, including those buttons that TAKE AIM at others' buttons. So, if what SHE said is the "most important thing on this thread" then you also are HALF right. Now, go for the OTHER HALF.
Without doing that then the discussion only HALF said and HALF done.

80 posted on 07/10/2006 6:48:26 AM PDT by starfish923 ( Socrates: It's never right to do wrong.)
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