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vanity. (engagement ring search)

Posted on 07/29/2006 8:31:52 PM PDT by se_ohio_young_conservative

Ok, I want to propose. I dont know how to go about a ring. I want something cheap but nice. She is the nicest, most understanding woman on the planet, but I dont want to look like a cheapskate. I am not that rich. going into my life savings for this. any freepers have any advice.

I would like to propose on Canadian thankgiving in Oct. She lives in Toronto. plan to be moved in with her by Christmas *smile*


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KEYWORDS: diamond; engagement; gemstones; jewelry; poppingthequestion; ring
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To: se_ohio_young_conservative
I've noticed that trendier brides like the cushion cut or the princess cut...traditionalists like the round. BTW, with the round you always get the most sparkle for the $. However, the truly expeptional bride will go for the marquis. ;')

Try the Big Box places, and start pricing per carat. I suggest at least a half-carat, three quarters better. Jewelers will try to sell you on quality, but keep in mind the ring will be dirty a lot of the time and size ought to be a big factor. My diamonds are bigger but not of the best quality--I don't mind. I've even found it interesting to know my "fingerprints" by the little flaws I can find with a jeweler's loop.

41 posted on 07/30/2006 8:40:40 AM PDT by Mamzelle
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To: Vision

this might sound crazy,

I am not all that worried about money. If we love eachother enough, if we really try at it, and we are for real. we will make it. Life is a team sport. getting through life together is a part of marriage. there will be storms and trials no matter how much money someone makes or if they are married or not. having someone to ride the storms out with would be a great thing. I am not expecting every day for the rest of my life to be easy and sunny. but if we believe in eachother and TRUST IN GOD, that is half the battle.


42 posted on 07/30/2006 8:47:15 AM PDT by se_ohio_young_conservative (If you love peace more than you love freedom, you are bound to be left hopeless with neither one)
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To: se_ohio_young_conservative

You go through so many changes in your twenties. I'm having a hard time explaining just how different I am now.

I just hope you have a firm grip on exactly how long "forever" is. How do you plan to support your wife/family? Maybe you're smarter than me, but it took me over 10 years to find a profession that I enjoyed. And baby, a husband/father needs to be a money making machine.


43 posted on 07/30/2006 8:50:04 AM PDT by Vision (“I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me" Philippians 3:14)
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To: Vision

taking a verse from a country song.

"if you want to hear God laugh, tell him your plans"

I cant sit here and say what I will be doing 10 years from now. I dont even know what I am going eat for lunch. I know I love this woman with all of my heart, and I would regret not taking chances more than I would taking chances and getting negative results. I feel that FAITH will get us through. I am taking the faith route here, ...trusting in God more than I do myself...


44 posted on 07/30/2006 8:54:08 AM PDT by se_ohio_young_conservative (If you love peace more than you love freedom, you are bound to be left hopeless with neither one)
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To: se_ohio_young_conservative

Also understand, if the unthinkable happens and you need a divorce, she'll get at least half of everything you own(and possibly stuff you had before you met her).

In terms of the ring, I found a BEAUTIFUL one at a pawn shop for a good price. I ended up selling it back to them for less than half price.


45 posted on 07/30/2006 8:54:13 AM PDT by Vision (“I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me" Philippians 3:14)
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To: Vision
re: I'll make the cash, she makes herself and others happy)))

You know? You may get kicked around a little for that, but I find it sweet. Once I got used to it, I found that maintaining a home was more creative than I thought, particularly when we graduated and had a few more resources to work with. And, I learned to really cook. Sometimes it works out that one partner can't make enough to justify the expenses of working--which is a little deflating to the ego when you happen to enjoy earning money.

More often, I see in the attitudes of young husbands an outright determination that their wives shall work--they want the comfort of the extra income, and figure she'll just run the house as well.

46 posted on 07/30/2006 8:54:40 AM PDT by Mamzelle
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To: Vision

you talk like someone who has had your heart broken so much or so badly that you are not high on marriage overall, that is sad. i feel for you.

but I believe I am ready to take a chance on love, and have faith in God and the woman I am deeply in love with.



47 posted on 07/30/2006 8:58:02 AM PDT by se_ohio_young_conservative (If you love peace more than you love freedom, you are bound to be left hopeless with neither one)
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To: se_ohio_young_conservative
"if you want to hear God laugh, tell him your plans"

Oh Lord, now he's quoting Lynard Skynard.

I cant sit here and say what I will be doing 10 years from now. I dont even know what I am going eat for lunch.

That's kind of my point.

I'm glad you love her. Have a long engagement to feel it out.
48 posted on 07/30/2006 8:59:17 AM PDT by Vision (“I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me" Philippians 3:14)
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To: se_ohio_young_conservative

No I'm fine. I will have a large family someday.


49 posted on 07/30/2006 9:00:15 AM PDT by Vision (“I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me" Philippians 3:14)
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To: se_ohio_young_conservative
You'll succeed if at least one partner is 100% unselfish all of the time. There's no such thing as fifty-fifty. It all shifts around over the years. Sometimes it's even at fifty-fifty for fifty minutes or so! But selfishness is what breaks up marriages.

I happen to favor young marriages. I think the shopping around in the twenties makes for harder hearts and silly expectations. If someone has slept around, I believe they are more likely to continue to do so when married. Behaviors get set in cement as we get older. As for the changes that take place, they'll still rear up in the thirties, forties, and fifties.

50 posted on 07/30/2006 9:01:58 AM PDT by Mamzelle
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To: Vision

tis the plan.

you got to take chances in life.


51 posted on 07/30/2006 9:02:03 AM PDT by se_ohio_young_conservative (If you love peace more than you love freedom, you are bound to be left hopeless with neither one)
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To: Mamzelle
More often, I see in the attitudes of young husbands an outright determination that their wives shall work--they want the comfort of the extra income, and figure she'll just run the house as well

They're probably metrosexuals. She can't do it all, all the time.
52 posted on 07/30/2006 9:02:23 AM PDT by Vision (“I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me" Philippians 3:14)
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To: Mamzelle

thats what I think.

I think people mess up with they start thinking in terms of "I" instead of "US".


53 posted on 07/30/2006 9:03:31 AM PDT by se_ohio_young_conservative (If you love peace more than you love freedom, you are bound to be left hopeless with neither one)
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To: Vision

LOL--mostly I hear them wanting a new bassboat or motorcycle or ATV or rifle. No metro 'round here.


54 posted on 07/30/2006 9:05:03 AM PDT by Mamzelle
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To: se_ohio_young_conservative
but I believe I am ready to take a chance on love, and have faith in God and the woman I am deeply in love with.

I think even God is scared of PMS.
55 posted on 07/30/2006 9:07:00 AM PDT by Vision (“I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me" Philippians 3:14)
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To: se_ohio_young_conservative

"Find a woman you don't like and buy her a house" You'll save time and money this way.


56 posted on 07/30/2006 9:18:18 AM PDT by outofsalt ("If History teaches us anything it's that history rarely teaches us anything")
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To: se_ohio_young_conservative
I would regret not taking chances more than I would taking chances and getting negative results.

Good for you. You're going to go through life, anyway ... why not start going through it, now, with the woman you love.

Our lives - mine and my husband's - have turned out totally different from what we expected 20 years ago, and we are different people, in many ways, from those two in their early 20's. I think the life we have together now, with our 8 (so far) children, is much better than what we planned.

Just as you don't need to let the Diamond Marketing Association sell you a ring for two months' salary, you don't need to let the world sell you the story that a good life is synonymous with wealth. "Never love anything that can't love you back," as Don Aslett says!

57 posted on 07/30/2006 9:44:07 AM PDT by Tax-chick (I've always wanted to be 40 ... and it's as good as I anticipated!)
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To: se_ohio_young_conservative

I've beem married twice. Both times I asked my bride-to-be whether she wanted a $1K - $3K diamond or a house full of furniture. They both said "screw the diamond, let's get something to sit/sleep on.

None of us regretted the decision.

Think "Practicle."


58 posted on 07/30/2006 10:23:28 AM PDT by CTOCS (Some people drink from the fountain of knowledge. Others just gargle.)
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To: JRios1968
Trust me, though....she won't really care how much you spend....

uh.....she might.

I mean, 'cheap but nice'....is almost impossible.

If she's the nicest lady on the planet, why not invest in a ring that's lasting.

59 posted on 07/30/2006 10:51:39 AM PDT by Guenevere (Israel, our friend and ally.....God bless her.)
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To: Guenevere

I agree, but if she is THE ONE, she's already invested herself in our friend, and a ring won't need to be huge for her to say yes.

And he can always upgrade a few years down the road.


60 posted on 07/30/2006 11:33:06 AM PDT by JRios1968 (There's 3 kinds of people in this world...those who know math and those who don't.)
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