Posted on 11/24/2006 11:15:26 PM PST by dhpjmkawaes
I don't know if this is where to post this but I am seeking help for a friend of mine. In college, she was seduced by her roommate and has been living a "lesbian" life for 15 years. My friend gave birth to three kids while in this relationship. The partner officially adopted the oldest but never did the offical adoption of the younger two. The partner left my friend a few months ago and is now having an affair with a married woman. My friend is now fighting for custody of her kids and trying to keep this woman away from her family. She realizes that the other woman seduced her and she wants a normal relationship and marriage with a man and wants a father for her kids.
The partner spent all their money and now my friend is struggling to both support her family (she does have a job but is overwhelmed with paying for childcare and all the bills left by the ex)and pay for her legal fees to keep her kids. Can anyone point me toward a source of financial help for my friend? This legal battle is really important for the mental health of these three little kids.
Thanks!
In before the ZOT?
me too ?
dhpjmkawaes
Since Nov 25, 2006
GO AWAY!
Go back to the rock you hide under. If you have to crawl around, slither over to DU. You're so UNoriginal.
"I don't know if this is where to post this "
The important thing is that you search the INTERNET looking for the proper place to post it, then you register at FR and start a thread on it.
I don't understand a single word any of you have said?????
Which one of them provided the penis?
A feeding frenzy? The day after Turkey day? ::BuuURrRP:: (Oh goodness, excuse me)
What is DU?
Yeah, that's what they all ask. "Oh, what's DU? I've never HEARD of it before. What's a troll? What do you mean, 'zot'?"
subtlety alert
There's always room for troll!
I like to get to the root of the matter.
Don't give the mods ideas! ;)
She had money for artificial insemination, but not for a lawyer?
It's been 15 years, and she still can't get that taste out of her mouth.
If true, her kids mental health is already nuked. But looking for a hand out to solve the problems of her own making? Sometimes there's consequences.
Does your friend have a family, a church? Brothers or sisters? I would guess she pretty much turned her back on all the normal societal support systems. SOME are forgiving, some aren't.
Has she gone to NOW or any of the feminist organizations which allegedly are all about helping the sisters? Maybe they have some leads. Don't bet the ranch. MAybe there's a coven of Wiccans ...
Again, it's difficult when such a story is posted here, to take the risk of believing it. I may just be making a fool of myself. (In my case that's not a problem though, I'm already famously idiotic. SO I have nothing to lose.)
Your friend made a very uncomfortable bed for herself and while engaged in behavior known for millenia to be immoral and perverse also managed to conceive and bring to term three children to enmesh in her illness. This is a mighty deep hole she dug for herself and for her kids. If you spend a decade or more crippling yourself sociallly and financially, few organizations are going to spend sacrificially to help you, and no speedy solution will be available.
I think the next stop is her municipality's department of social services. Then she needs to talk to someone at the Salvation Army. Then Catholic Charities might have some ideas.
She will also need to humble herself and go to family and friends. And for her own soul's health she needs to go to church with her kids and to develop some support groups.
It's hard to imagine anyone being so self-destructive without having a substance abuse problem and/or other major psychiatric disorders. And the stress of the situation is going to create or aggravate psychiatric problems. Again social services MIGHT be able to hook her up with a good LCSW. But GOOD LCSWs are mighty thin on the ground. Most of them are devoid of insight and big into managing other people's lives because their own lives are a mess (totally unfactual statment based on too small a sample, but a sample which is unforgettable and onforgettably horrible!) SO your friend needs to exervcvise discretion which she probably doesn't have.
What are YOU doing for her? Is she really a friend?
As well as being a famous idiot, I'm also known for wastign time trying to help people who won't help themselves. You can Freepmail me (use the private message function) if you want to discuss mattrers which you are not comfortable posting on a public forum. Be aware that triage is sometimes a moral necessity.
I don't know if this is where to post this but I am seeking help for a friend of mine my best friend and former high school sweetheart who is a petite African-American girl.
In college, she was seduced by her roommate ,a large blonde Amazon with a drinking problem and prone to violence and has been living a forced "lesbian" life for 15 years.
My friend gave birth to three kids while in this relationship, one of each. The sperm donors were Maori, Irish and Baptist.
The partner officially adopted the oldest but never did the offical adoption of the younger two because she was suspicious that neither child was hers.
The partner left my friend a few months ago and is now having an affair with a married woman a 6 year old dappled-gray Percheron mare.
My friend is now fighting for custody of her kids and trying to keep this woman and the horse away from her family.
She realizes that the other woman seduced her the Amazon held her as a sex slave and brood mare and now all she wants is a normal relationship and marriage with a man and wants a father for her kids who is stupid enough to marry her and be a father to her bastards.
The partner spent all their money and now my friend is struggling to both support her family kicked her and the chilrens out on the street, penniless, with just the clothes on their backs (she does have a job but is overwhelmed with paying for childcare and all the bills left by the exshe's never had a job because she was kept locked in the tool shed of the barn on their remote farm)and pay for her legal fees to keep her kids.
Can anyone point me toward a source of financial help for my friend? This legal battle is really important for the mental health of these three little kids.She and the brats are currently living in a Whirlpool refrigerator box in the alley behind a Chinese restaurant where they have to fight the alley cats for the garbage every night. (Take them in myself? Are you crazy!)
Thanks!
I am appalled at the way many are treating you here. I wish it were within my power to apologize for them.
Good luck to you, and your friend.
Since you state the partner who left is now living with a married woman, I have to assume that the woman has left her husband. Does she have kids that the husband is trying to get custody of? Can you friend go to the husband and work together to get all the children out of this unhealthy situation.
If the partner only adopted the oldest child what claim does she have on the other two? Can you friend go the the biological fathers of these children for help? What chance does she have of going to one of the tv stations that does "help the people" segments to get the story of two lesbians - one a married woman -- trying to take the biological kids away from a former partner.
LOL!
There's good money to be made in building diaramas.
It's tough not to be skeptical of this post, but just in case, Legal Aid Society.
Nice moose.
See post #30 - sounds like a script!
The fact of the matter, your friend needs to grow up and stop using her children as pawns in her relationship. Children form emotional bonds with people who act as their parents- to use the term on a whim to make your relationship more "special" and then take it away in an instant is child abuse, IMO. Does she plan on doing the same with a new boyfriend- to make him "daddy" until the relationship goes south?
Marriage and childbearing have been linked throughout human history for a reason. Children deserve to grow up a stable, two parent marriage (i.e. one man, one woman) and not in some horrible mess like the one your friend has created. I pray for her children.
Ummm ..... They do.
Mods must be out shopping.
Oh, that's original.
If you were legit, there wouldn't be an issue.
But, it sounds as if you are not.
Especially when posting at the time honored trolling time of 3 A.M. eastern..
"My friend gave birth to three kids while in this relationship."
Blue tongued skink lizard?
They're all females, not a male in the group, and they reproduce asexually.
Or is the 'lover' hermaphroditic??
Or, perhaps, you are witholding info?
Or even being dishonest?
This didn't seem right to me either.
Oh hold your driveling sympathy. I don't believe for a second there's a case where two women have adopted a child, especially several years ago.
This is so transparently phony.
More like impossible!
I think you're right.
I think you're right.
You seem a very pleasant type.
I am, thank you.
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