[Khadijah Farmer was mistaken for a man in the ladies' room at Caliente Cab Co. and shoved out by a bouncer.] Posted on 07/03/2007 10:11:56 AM PDT by kiriath_jearim
A masculine lesbian was kicked out of a Greenwich Village restaurant after a bouncer - who believed she was a man - saw her in the ladies' bathroom, the woman charged yesterday.
Khadijah Farmer said she felt humiliated by her experience at Caliente Cab Co. on Seventh Ave., which took place last Sunday shortly after the city's gay pride march.
"I felt violated ... to say the least," said Farmer, 27. "I really thought that especially in New York City, especially in the heart of the Village, things like this had stopped happening."
Farmer said she went into the popular Mexican restaurant with her girlfriend and another pal about 10:20 p.m.
The trio ate shrimp and nachos before Farmer, who is 5-feet-5 and has short hair, excused herself to go to the rest room.
[Khadijah Farmer was mistaken for a man in the ladies' room at Caliente Cab Co. and shoved out by a bouncer.]
Just as she was about to enter the bathroom, a woman walked out, flashed her a nasty look and said, "This is the women's bathroom," according to Farmer, who is an HIV counselor.
"I replied, 'I know that. Thank you. This is where I'm supposed to be,'" Farmer said, noting that she was wearing a yellow polo shirt, blue jeans and sneakers.
Moments later, a bouncer burst into the ladies room and began banging on her stall and yelling at her to leave, she said.
The bouncer refused to believe that Farmer was a woman even after she emerged from the stall and attempted to show him her driver's license, she said.
"He totally dismissed that," she said, adding that the bouncer told her "he wanted me out of his bathroom and restaurant."
Farmer was then led out of the restaurant - and her friends were made to pay the bill for their abbreviated meal, she said.
Michael Silverman, executive director of the Transgender Legal Defense & Education Fund, demanded that the restaurant compensate Farmer for violating her civil rights and adopt a policy banning discrimination.
A manager at the Caliente Cab Co. declined to comment.
"I'm comfortable with who I am," Farmer said. "I refuse to change. I don't do anything to accentuate any type of masculinity. I'm just me."
Coulda been worse. Weren’t we just talking about a woman who was refused service because she had no arms?
I could never figure out why the man-haters look, dress and try to act like men.
Further proof that “The L Word” is a complete work of fiction.
Now that is funny!
“Further proof that “The L Word” is a complete work of fiction.”
Two of the women on the L word are lesbians though, so it’s not a COMPLETE work of fiction.
I’ve known a couple of smoking hot lesbians. They’re few and far between, but they’re definitely out there. In fact, the most beautiful women I know is a lesbian... she’s nearly 6’ tall, redhead, huge blue eyes, perfect body..
I have walked down the street with her and seen fights start between men and their girlfriends/wives, lol..
They said it was a Mexican place. Seafood instead of tacos?
I’ve always wondered the same thing...seems like they’re defeating their purpose.
They said it was a Mexican place. Seafood instead of tacos?
But it certainly is the overwhelming exception.
Looks like Bernie Mac with HIV.
LMAO!!!
The good side of this is that she can use the men’s restroom. They always have more stalls free.
Toughen up, lady. You’re a big, butch diesel-dyke, it’s time to start acting like one. No self-respecting lesbian I know would make a federal case out of something something so trivial.
"She's a man, baybeee!"
“But it certainly is the overwhelming exception.”
It probably depends on where you are. I lived in Phoenix, and lesbians there were overridingly HIDEOUS!!! Gay men, as usual, looked fantastic... Now I live in Philly, and the lesbians are generally pretty cute and chic. Gay men.. still fantastic.
To be fair, most everyday women look kind of gross. It’s much easier for men to be attractive, IMO.
A bartender at my favorite bar is a lesbo, and she’s gorgeous. She looks like Gwen Stefani only with blue eyes and much curvier.
Pat was a dyke, right?
Right, shouldn’t she be in the men’s room? So confusing!
Fish tacos served vertically, perhaps.
I knew some total hottie lesbos when I was in college. Of course, they were just “experimenting.” Man I miss college!
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