Rules that Girls Wish Guys Knew

April 18, 2008

[najida]

Unless the sex was awful with your ex and is wonderful with your spouse, THEN you want to send the ex’s wife a sympathy card and a gift cert for a Passion Party.

Sometimes, you’re glad it’s over.

[RobRoy]

>>Sometimes, you’re glad it’s over.<<

I agree. But if you are glad it is over, why would you be friends?

[najida]

You live in the same town, work the same job, hang out in the same hobby/social circle, go to the same church, are married to relatives etc.etc.etc.

It’s not saying ‘OMIGOD! He is my BEST friend in the whole word forever!’ it is saying that you can have he and his wife over for a cookout with all your other friends. Or call him to for to ask a question about Cub scouts. Or chat for 5 minutes in the Kroger checkout line. It means you’re better friends than you ever were lovers.

[RobRoy]

>>You live in the same town, work the same job, hang out in the same hobby/social circle, go to the same church, are married to relatives etc.etc.etc.<<

In my personal case, we both left that church. I went to a different one and she just stopped going. When we DO meet, I don’t want to even give her eye contact unless we are REQUIRED to discuss something. It happens very rarely now that our three daughters are in their 20’s.

But more importantly, I don’t want my wife to be in the same room with me and a woman we both know I had sex with any more than absolutely necessary. It is out of respect for her that I do this.

I always say that one of the worst things that can happen to a divorced woman who is still trying to keep her ex engaged to some degree is for him to remarry. Once that happens, the ex and his current wife are like Jews and Arabs. And if they are not, they SHOULD be.

I base this on what I know and believe about base human nature.

[najida]

I guess my attitude is why create bad feelings where not needed.

[spotbust1]

20. Wendy's is not considered a romantic dinner for two.

"I strongly disagree."

Especially if your name happens to be Wendy. I have had many romantic dinners at my place. (only applies if you are actually female with the name Wendy).

[bboop]

hardihar ... could be true.

[spotbust1]

But there are no ladies anymore,

I beg to differ with you. I consider myself to be a lady. BTW, I can fix my own flat tire and winch anyone out of the ditch if need be. Not all "ladies" are in need of rescuing. Having said this, I do like it when my door is opened for me but don't insist upon it. I like it when a seat is offered to me, but don't always take it unless there is actually something wrong with me that I can't stand up for a while and I appreciate it when a kind gentleman offers his help now and again, but as you stated about women, gentlemen are few and far between these days. I think I married the last one.

[bboop]

I did learn from my hubby the sniff test — ie, that you actually CAN wear a tshirt from the laundry/from the day before, IF it passes the test. hahah.

[Hatteras]

A minute or two in the dryer.... Good as new!

[Melas]

I can see why we disagree. I haven’t formulated marital advice based on movies I’ve seen. I’ll place a lot more value on my personal relationships, including remaining lifelong friends with my first love, which must be going on 30 years. All the times we slept together hasn’t hurt our friendship. Then again what do I know, I’ve never even seen When Harry Met Sally or Best of Show.

[RobRoy]

Heh, heh. I haven’t formulated it on movies either. In my case also, it is on personal relationships. I offer the movie as comic relief.

Oh, and I’ll have what she’s having...

Both movies are pretty funny in their own way.

And maybe the main problem is that I am looking at this from the male perspective while you are looking at it from the female.

The whole running “gag” in When Harry Met Sally, which is actually BASED on what I believe to be the truth, is that men cannot be friends with women. There is always the sex drive.

[Melas]

And maybe the main problem is that I am looking at this from the male perspective while you are looking at it from the female.

I'm inclined to doubt it since I'm not in any way female. I do however have a great many female friends. despite being married for the last 17 years. And yes, a couple of those friendships were hotter relationships at points in the past.

[bboop]

Hmm, that’s a step above what we do. Good trick, tho, I’ll add it to my (very short) list of how to be elegant. haha. Nice to find like-minded folks here, tho.

[Puddleglum]

Your pals can be trusted never to trap you with: "So, notice anything different?"

LOL! I got trapped with that the other day. Come to think of it, I don't remember what the answer was. A new throw pillow, a candle or something - I can't recall.

[RipSawyer]

Women marry men thinking they will change.
Men marry women thinking they will NOT change.
Therefore both are inevitably disappointed.
Einstein, I think.

[mad_as_he$$]

Brilliant.

[jjm2111]

“24. Hey, we CAN be friends with our ex’s- so deal with it! “

Most accurate my fanny. “On speaking terms” is fine but how many women would like their men (esp. husbands) to be out with an ex who’s “just a friend.” Recipe for disaster if you ask me.