Posted on 04/20/2008 6:51:42 PM PDT by SeekAndFind
This month is the two year anniversary of our matching on eHarmony. On our wedding day last November, we eagerly shared our eHarmony story with all of our family and guests. At every opportunity, we praised the matching service for promoting healthy life-long marriage relationships.
To the skeptics of online dating, we explained that eHarmony is unique in that the matching service doesn't promote the "hook-up" culture. According to the company's mission statement, their goal is to "help couples achieve stronger, healthier and happier marriages." We were impressed with eHarmony's online questionnaire and its ability to identify the character and compatibility traits we were looking for in a spouse.
Wednesday evening, a friend called expressing dismay about eHarmony's most recent e-newsletter which included an article, "Navigating the one-night stand." Our friend read the first few lines: "So you're a swinging single, and you've had a one-night stand. What's the etiquette for establishing boundaries, calling the day after and getting out without hurting feelings?"
Promoting such high-risk, promiscuous behavior is outrageous and irresponsible. The advice column glosses over the risks of sexually transmitted diseases. In flippantly urging readers to "always use protection," the columnist ignores the ugly realties of "one night stands." The Center for Disease Control reports that sexually transmitted diseases are at epidemic proportions in this country, with 19 million new infections added every year. The consequences of an STD infection range from infertility to impaired reproductive health.
Also glossed over is the increased risk for violence among those who "navigate" multiple sexual partners. The article states, "It's true you can't spot an ax murderer just by talking to him, but it's a good sign if you are comfortable with someone in the light before deciding to dance in the dark."
(Excerpt) Read more at worldnetdaily.com ...
That Neal Clark Warren guy on the E-Harmony ads has always given me the creeps. I guess it’s that “serial killers always have three names” thing.
Oh. Wait. So do I...
*giggle* I was about to make mention that I must be a serial killer, too, but this deduction.
"After 24 hours, the article was removed from the eHarmony website."That's what's important -- eHarmony doesn't want it there. They're not "promoting" one-night stands -- that's obviously not part of their charter. Look:
Don't assume the website owners and admins even knew about it until after someone wrote and complained.
The author wants a full retraction and apology. I'd say a simple note on the website saying, "Oops" is more than sufficient. The author should get the twist out of their panties and not take it so personally.
IMO, of course.
In today’s world, even if you’re morally challenged like I am sometimes, you’d have to be an imbecile to have a one night stand with a stranger.
Having sex with people you don’t know is just about the stupidest idea around.
met my wife on eHarmony. It is a good match.
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I never had an eHarmony "one-night-stand"
Some of the matches made some sense, but several made no sense at all.
While true, Eharmony does a lot of marketing directed towards religious people.
There was a scifi story about that. Someone was selling insurance. The key point was that someone would die who the buyer wouldn’t know. Turns out the woman’s husband died and she collected. The story ended with her saying, “I guess I didn’t really know him.
(laugh)
I agree.
I’ve had a couple of one-night stands but they were with a couple of women from work. Both happened after bar close too.
I had a good time but I’m not proud of it either. I knew I was (and remain) disease-free but in retrospect, I didn’t know anything about either of them. Afterwards, I found out that one of them had ...how can I phrase it?... a loose reputation. I guess I was a notch in HER bedpost.
I’ve learned a valuable lesson and will not do that sort of thing again.
I’m glad you’re okay. And at least you knew the women you were with. They weren’t complete strangers. I think it’s tough for a guy to walk away from temptation. We see a beautiful woman, and we want her. It’s in our nature. We just got to be careful, and know who the person we’re with really is.
I went to an e-harmony matched wedding just yesterday.
Don’t know much about eHarmony, but before it ever started Neil Clark Warren wrote an excellent book for singles looking to marry, called “Finding the Love of Your Life.”
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