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Dear Abby: Son upset that dad's started dating men
Philly.com ^ | May 19, 2009 | Jeanne Phillips and some unfortunate guy

Posted on 05/19/2009 12:58:22 PM PDT by South Hawthorne

DEAR ABBY: My father is 83. My mother has been dead for more than 30 years. Since then, Dad has been involved with many women.

But, since he turned 70, he has become involved with men, which he says he finds very rewarding and much less complicated.

Dad and I always had an open and honest relationship. We have a lot of homosexual family members and friends.

At the same time, I'm shocked that the fact that he is gay has been so difficult for me to accept.

Have you any suggestions on how I might better deal with this?

- Caring Son in Miami

DEAR CARING SON: Your father appears to be bisexual, which means he is attracted to both men and women.

Whereas he may not have wanted to admit to himself or to you years ago that he had feelings for people of the same sex, it is no longer shocking to be open about it. Times have changed. Today a person's sexual orientation is no longer considered something to be kept hidden.

One constructive way to "deal with it" would be to realize how fortunate you are to have the kind of relationship you have always had with your dad. Be supportive, don't judge and love him for the parent he has always been.


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KEYWORDS: dearabby; homosexual; homosexualagenda; moralabsolutes; notreallyabby; samesexdesire; sodomite
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An 83 year old father is getting gay with other old men and he's telling his son about it.

I think I'm going to be sick.

I'm going to make all of you sick too.

1 posted on 05/19/2009 12:58:23 PM PDT by South Hawthorne
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To: Owl_Eagle

Too late, I’m already sick from it, I read it this morning.


2 posted on 05/19/2009 1:00:08 PM PDT by DeLaine (Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter.)
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To: Owl_Eagle
Dear Caring Son

Did you ever wonder what really happened to that little hamster you had as a boy?

3 posted on 05/19/2009 1:03:18 PM PDT by DogBarkTree (Support The American Tea Party)
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To: Owl_Eagle

Sounds like they made a trip to Viagra Falls.


4 posted on 05/19/2009 1:03:21 PM PDT by PGR88
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To: Owl_Eagle

Isn’t it disgusting how she tows the liberal line and says this is normal behavior and the son should just accept it?


5 posted on 05/19/2009 1:03:44 PM PDT by Pinkbell
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To: Pinkbell

Yes, this makes me sick.

THIS makes me sicker: http://www.freerepublic.com/focus/f-news/2254042/posts


6 posted on 05/19/2009 1:05:21 PM PDT by Reagan69 (No Representation without Taxation !)
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To: DeLaine

“....realize how fortunate you are to have the kind of relationship you have always had with your dad. Be supportive, don’t judge and love him for the parent he has always been.....”

Translated means:

“If you do not accept him you’re a BIGOT and unfit to be his son...BTW, if you’re a Christian you are EVIL....change your ways”!


7 posted on 05/19/2009 1:05:37 PM PDT by mikelets456
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To: Owl_Eagle
Dad and I always had an open and honest relationship. We have a lot of homosexual family members and friends.

Huh? What a family and social circle that must be!

8 posted on 05/19/2009 1:05:39 PM PDT by Rummyfan (Iraq: it's not about Iraq anymore, it's about the USA!)
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To: Owl_Eagle
"Times have changed"

Yes indeed :(

9 posted on 05/19/2009 1:05:46 PM PDT by Las Vegas Ron (zer0 is doing to capitalism what Kennedy did to health care)
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To: Owl_Eagle

one sure sign of dementia is the loosening of sexual mores as people age.....but this is the first I have heard of a man switching teams. yikes. glad that didn’t happen with my mom....I would have been grossed out beyond belief.


10 posted on 05/19/2009 1:06:31 PM PDT by tioga
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To: Owl_Eagle

11 posted on 05/19/2009 1:06:55 PM PDT by Joiseydude (Kate Smith - God Bless America http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pCavKL2zdjM GREAT visual interpretatio)
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To: DogBarkTree
Did you ever wonder what really happened to that little hamster you had as a boy?

Armageddon!!

12 posted on 05/19/2009 1:08:20 PM PDT by Keith in Iowa (ESPN MNF: 3 Putzes talking about football on TV while I'm trying to watch a game.)
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To: Reagan69

Man, that sucks big time.


13 posted on 05/19/2009 1:08:40 PM PDT by Joiseydude (Kate Smith - God Bless America http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pCavKL2zdjM GREAT visual interpretatio)
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To: Owl_Eagle

GAAK!....83 years old?....Good luck to the old gay fart!


14 posted on 05/19/2009 1:09:44 PM PDT by AngelesCrestHighway
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To: DogBarkTree

ARMAGEDDON!!!


15 posted on 05/19/2009 1:11:24 PM PDT by RichInOC (No! BAD Rich! (What'd I say?))
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To: Owl_Eagle

Dear Abby, Dear Abby ...
My feet are too long
My hair’s falling out and my rights are all wrong
My friends they all tell me that I’ve no friends at all
Won’t you write me a letter, Won’t you give me a call
Signed Bewildered

Bewildered, Bewildered...

Chorus:
You have no complaint
You are what your are and you ain’t what you ain’t
So listen up Buster, and listen up good
Stop wishing for bad luck and knocking on wood


16 posted on 05/19/2009 1:11:29 PM PDT by sticker
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To: Owl_Eagle
My aunt decided to go all dikey after raising 5 kids to adulthood in a very catholic household.

WTF?

17 posted on 05/19/2009 1:13:20 PM PDT by Travis T. OJustice (I can spell just fine, thanks, it's my typing that sucks.)
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To: Owl_Eagle
I'm shocked that the fact that he is gay has been so difficult for me to accept.

Actually, it's a sign that you haven't been completely lobotomized.

Be supportive, don't judge and love him for the parent he has always been.

Nothing says, "I care," like, "whatever."

18 posted on 05/19/2009 1:13:49 PM PDT by Aquinasfan (When you find "Sola Scriptura" in the Bible, let me know)
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To: Owl_Eagle
which he says he finds very rewarding and much less complicated

He's got a point there.

19 posted on 05/19/2009 1:14:18 PM PDT by Sgt_Schultze (Si vis pacem, para bellum)
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To: PGR88
Sounds like they made a trip to Viagra Falls.

I am so stealing that line and heavily recycling it.

20 posted on 05/19/2009 1:14:42 PM PDT by Travis T. OJustice (I can spell just fine, thanks, it's my typing that sucks.)
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To: Owl_Eagle

Note to self:NEVER write to Dear Abby for advice.


21 posted on 05/19/2009 1:14:53 PM PDT by massmike
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To: Owl_Eagle

Does dad have money and do we know that the gay men are older men. Gays, especially younger gay men are very good at finding emotionally needy older people with money and draining their bank accounts for their own hedonistic desires. I had a friend that got into this. He was always sexually ambiguous, some might say Bi. After his wife left him he got involved with a couple of gay guys. He lost a clear and free inherited 60 acre farm and farm house to foreclosure after mortgaging it to the hilt to pay for his “new” friends lavish lifestyle, trips and parties. Guess how long they stayed around after the money ran out?


22 posted on 05/19/2009 1:16:22 PM PDT by redangus
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To: Owl_Eagle
Your father appears to be bisexual, which means he is attracted to both men and women.

Bisexuals are also the main reason AIDS spreads to heterosexuals. Not to mention being bi is all about self gratification since they have NO standards and will stick it in anything that comes their way, male or female. At least full blown gays have (some) standards. I have more respect (but still very little) for them than bi's because of it.

23 posted on 05/19/2009 1:16:36 PM PDT by lwd (Miss California is MY Miss USA!!!)
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To: DogBarkTree

You HAD to go there.....

Ewwww.


24 posted on 05/19/2009 1:17:31 PM PDT by Shyla
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To: Owl_Eagle

I bet Dr. Laura would say to take him to have an MRI. There was a woman on that said her father was coming on to lots of different women (a change from the past) and I remember Dr. Laura saying that an older person who starts acting differently sexually should be scanned for having dementia/alzheimers.

I think that is a pretty good recommendation for an elderly person.


25 posted on 05/19/2009 1:18:34 PM PDT by luckystarmom
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To: Owl_Eagle

sounds like he’s got dementia.. consider medication


26 posted on 05/19/2009 1:19:36 PM PDT by sten
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To: sten

and mud butt


27 posted on 05/19/2009 1:21:39 PM PDT by RedhairRedhair (I love my Toyota - I don't wanna 42 mpg-er)
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To: Owl_Eagle

“...Dad and I always had an open and honest relationship. We have a lot of homosexual family members and friends...”

Now you know why, dufus.


28 posted on 05/19/2009 1:21:51 PM PDT by PGR88
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To: Owl_Eagle

It all started with that first prostate exam at 40...


29 posted on 05/19/2009 1:21:58 PM PDT by a fool in paradise (If you like the Dept. of Motor Vehicles, the IRS, and the Post Office, you'll love govt Health Care)
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To: Owl_Eagle

30 posted on 05/19/2009 1:22:07 PM PDT by Kenton (BUCK OFAMA!)
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To: mikelets456

“....realize how fortunate you are to have the kind of relationship you have always had with your dad. Be supportive, don’t judge and love him for the parent he has always been.....”

Actually, not to get into a religious fight, but that sounds quite Christ-like to me. Love others, don’t judge, respect your elders, etc.

Easier said than done, though. I would be pretty shocked if I were in the son’s shoes.


31 posted on 05/19/2009 1:23:38 PM PDT by RepublitarianRoger2
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To: Owl_Eagle
DEAR CARING SON: Your father appears to have forgotten the moral lessons that he learned in church and taught you when you were younger, which means he needs help dealing with an attraction toward both men and women.

Whereas he may not have wanted to admit to himself or to you years ago that making moral choices means more than doing whatever you want at all times, this has now become a challenge to him. Times have changed for your father. Today your father's sexual orientation requires more help for him to control.

One constructive way to "deal with it" would be to realize how fortunate you are to have the kind of relationship where your dad cries out for help when he needs your attention. Be supportive, love him for the parent he has always been, and give him as much attention in his time of need as he gave you as a child, so that he won't have to seek out "uncomplicated" attention through homosexual acts.

32 posted on 05/19/2009 1:24:43 PM PDT by TurtleUp (So this is how liberty dies - to thunderous applause!)
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To: Owl_Eagle
I'm astounded that at 83 he still wants to have, and apparently has the ability to have sex. At 53 the future is looking brighter than I thought
33 posted on 05/19/2009 1:24:59 PM PDT by Netheo
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To: Owl_Eagle; MeekOneGOP; Conspiracy Guy; DocRock; King Prout; Darksheare; OSHA; martin_fierro; ...
Smiley - BarfingSmiley - Barfing  - 2Smiley - Barfing - 3


34 posted on 05/19/2009 1:26:21 PM PDT by Slings and Arrows (Israel is built on rock. Arabia is built on sand.)
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To: RepublitarianRoger2
Umm, Christ was not too cool about
bad sexual morals. Remember, he
actually said “ GO, and SIN NO MORE “
not, “OK, whatever, who am I to judge?”
35 posted on 05/19/2009 1:27:06 PM PDT by Bainbridge
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To: Owl_Eagle

This country is screwed up.


36 posted on 05/19/2009 1:27:41 PM PDT by b4its2late (There is always one more imbecile than you counted on.)
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To: massmike; Revolting cat!; Slings and Arrows
Note to self:NEVER write to Dear Abby for advice.

I get much better advice from Mary Worth.


37 posted on 05/19/2009 1:28:57 PM PDT by a fool in paradise (If you like the Dept. of Motor Vehicles, the IRS, and the Post Office, you'll love govt Health Care)
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To: Bainbridge

Fine, we disagree.


38 posted on 05/19/2009 1:32:08 PM PDT by RepublitarianRoger2
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To: Owl_Eagle
RockBottom
39 posted on 05/19/2009 1:37:13 PM PDT by Danae (Amerikan Unity My Ass)
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To: RepublitarianRoger2

You omitted the part where Christ would say “When you are having sex with other men, that is wrong, but that wrong is not enough to take you outside my love. Repent, be at peace, go and sin no more”.

The judging part is way out of context also. The Bible teaches christians that they will “judge angels”, they are to “privately rebuke some one that is sinning” and “teach righteousness”. New age cafeteria christianity, where you load up on the love & grace and blow off the holiness & righteousness makes for christianity warped beyond the gospel.


40 posted on 05/19/2009 1:40:22 PM PDT by L,TOWM (Liberals, The Other White Meat)
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To: Owl_Eagle
Gee thanks for sharing.

I haven't recovered from Obama's ND doublespeak "open heart, open mind, golden rule" abortion speech and now this.

41 posted on 05/19/2009 1:40:34 PM PDT by proud2beconservativeinNJ ("In God We Trust")
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To: Keith in Iowa

Robert D. Rayford, JohnBoy and Billy Big Show!


42 posted on 05/19/2009 1:40:50 PM PDT by JRios1968 (The real first rule of Fight Club: don't invite Chuck Norris...EVER)
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To: mikelets456

Nodding, I understand that language!!!


43 posted on 05/19/2009 1:41:41 PM PDT by DeLaine (Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter.)
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To: Travis T. OJustice
My aunt decided to go all dikey after raising 5 kids to adulthood in a very catholic household.

I don't care what "Dear Abby" says. This guy and your aunt prove that it is a choice. (Along with all the "lesbian till graduation" people.)

44 posted on 05/19/2009 1:42:24 PM PDT by MEGoody (Ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free.)
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To: Travis T. OJustice
I think you are talking about my sister.

Are we related?

45 posted on 05/19/2009 1:43:14 PM PDT by proud2beconservativeinNJ ("In God We Trust")
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To: proud2beconservativeinNJ

My aunt was in Marin County, CA.

Your sister did that? Weird, huh?


46 posted on 05/19/2009 1:44:35 PM PDT by Travis T. OJustice (I can spell just fine, thanks, it's my typing that sucks.)
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To: RepublitarianRoger2
Actually, not to get into a religious fight, but that sounds quite Christ-like to me.

No fight, but your notion of what constitutes "Christ-like" is rather secular. Christ demonstrated nothing but disdain for those who would not acknowledge their sinfulness.

47 posted on 05/19/2009 1:47:36 PM PDT by papertyger (A difference that makes no difference is no difference)
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To: Travis T. OJustice; Owl_Eagle
I think it happens more than we want to know.

Thanks for nothing Owl_Eagle.

48 posted on 05/19/2009 1:48:06 PM PDT by proud2beconservativeinNJ ("In God We Trust")
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To: AngelesCrestHighway

“the old gay fart!”

Apparently, he ain’t what he used to be...

Colonel, USAFR


49 posted on 05/19/2009 1:48:55 PM PDT by jagusafr ("Bugs, Mr. Rico! Zillions of 'em!" - Robert Heinlein)
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To: Travis T. OJustice

RE: “My aunt decided to go all dikey after raising 5 kids to adulthood in a very catholic household.”

*********

My relative, a nearly 40 year old female, left her husband and two kids, ages 14 and 12, for a dikey character — to the shock and horror of the family. The dumped husband was especially upset since his own mother had left the family years ago for another — at least she chose a MAN to leave for.

The two kids in this new scenario are devastated — and are both girls — imagine being 12 and 14 year old girls and having your mom ‘switch teams!’

The kicker is that mother of the team=-switcher, herself one of the original San Francisco hippies and her old hippie husband, are NOT taking this well, NOT open minded, and are in total denial that their daughter could be gay. Really amazing...........


50 posted on 05/19/2009 1:49:36 PM PDT by CaliforniaCon
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