Skip to comments.Divorce damages your health – and getting remarried barely helps
Posted on 07/27/2009 8:48:52 AM PDT by Schnucki
People who get divorced are more likely to suffer health problems including heart disease and cancer, even if they go on to remarry, a study has shown.
Divorce and widowhood have a long-term negative effect on physical wellbeing that is only marginally ameliorated if the person finds a new partner.
The stress and financial uncertainty of separation can continue to take their toll on our bodies decades after the Decree Absolute comes through, the research indicates.
Divorced people have 20 per cent more chronic health conditions such as heart disease, diabetes or cancer than married people, according to the study of 8,652 people aged between 51 and 61 by Professor Linda Waite of the University of Chicago.
They also have 23 per cent more mobility problems, such as difficulty climbing stairs or walking short distances.
But while the health benefits of marriage which are believed to stem from financial security and the positive impact of wives on their husbands' diets and lifestyles are well known, the new study shows that they are significantly reduced the second and third times around.
People who divorce and then remarry still have 12 per cent more chronic problems and 19 per cent more mobility problems than those who have been continuously married, the analysis showed.
"Among the currently married, those who have ever been divorced show worse health on all dimensions. Both the divorced and widowed who do not remarry show worse health on all dimensions," said Prof Waite, a sociologist.
The research, which was carried out with Mary Elizabeth Hughes of Johns Hopkins University in Baltimore, also reaffirmed the results of recent studies showing the relative ill health of people who remain unmarried into late middle age.
People who never married have 12 per cent more mobility limitations and 13 per
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Ping to come back for the jokes that always turn up on these kinds of threads.
Another “which came first” crazy “study.”
For Christians, it is by far best to remain single or reconcile after divorce.
did this study include abusive relationships? if the marriage is unhappy and unhealthy for a person, would that person not be healthier after the divorce?
‘I’ve had bad luck with both my wives.
The first one left me, and the second one didn’t.’
James Holt McGavra
If your spouse leaves you and commits adultery its best to seek a new spouse. Man (and Woman) should not be alone. If the spouse who leaves is unsaved and shows no signs of beginning regeneration then the one who was left can and should move one.
But if your spouse who left is (1) not in a sexual relationship with another and is either a christian or moving that way reconciliation should be sought.
Be the stoic myrter while ones spouse has moved on with their life only causes pain and is not God glorifying.
Not always, of course. People change and people grow up, but the general nature of the person when they graduate from high school is not all that different when they turn 60. The serious, discliplined scholar or athlete grows up to be the serious, discliplined businessman. The jerk jock who thinks the world revolves around him grows up to be the jerk boss or politician who thinks the world revolves around him. The sweet, helpful young lady grows up to be the caring nurse, teacher or mother.
And so it is with people who divorce and remarry, as a general rule.
Divorce isn’t an overnight thing. People arrive at divorce after a long and tortuous searching, often coming close to destroying themselves in the process. Comparing a divorced person to a person who’s happily married is apples to oranges.
Studies like this need to have a disclaimer “GENERALLY SPEAKING” because every single exception will be raised as an attack against the study.
That’s what I always wonder. Could it be that people who have health issues are a little more cranky and tend to get divorced more? Better yet, could it be that health issues affect decision making and make it more likely that someone will choose a poor mate? Or could it be that people in poor health have a lower-quality pool of people to choose from?
It is not God-glorifying to go against your vow, which was “until [only) death do us part.”
If you don’t vow that, then I might buy the rest of your argument. With a vow to God, only you can break it, regardless of what another does.
Christians should not be marrying someone who is not a Christian, anyway. You must be “equally yoked.”
Christians are free to marry another when their spouse or former spouse dies.
Or that the other spouse bailed because they tired of the person’s illness, bad health habits, etc.
you mean bailed for richer or for poorer, better or for worse and in sickness or in health.....
If you are not the party that does the parting (the victim of a no fault divorce) but:
I Corinthians 7 “ But to the rest speak I, not the Lord: If any brother hath a wife that believeth not, and she be pleased to dwell with him, let him not put her away.  And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him.  For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy.  “But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace.”
That obviously covers those with whom neither were Christians before being married, but then one became Christian.
When you aren’t one of God’s children, it would appear you can’t vow to God.
Horse apples. Single works best for me.
Married and divorced TWICE, to husbands who were abusive in one form or another, I’m much healthier and happier now than I have ever been. I find these “studies” and stories about marriage amusing - especially the ones about keeping a struggling marriage together “for the children”. I know divorce can be devastating to children. But the kids from challenging marriages will grow up in an unhealthy environment, and many times become abusers or victims of abuse. You seek what you’re familiar with. Been there.
“Christians should not be marrying someone who is not a Christian, anyway. You must be equally yoked.”
FYI some people are saved after marriage..
You obviously didn’t read my post. I said just that.
“That obviously covers those with whom neither were Christians before being married, but then one became Christian.”
1) Define Christian
2) Is it in the slightest bit possible that depending on your election belief
a) The person was never regenerate but proclaimed they were a christian
b) The person left the faith
There are exceptions and my comment was in no way meant to slam those who stay single. Paul himself said its better to be alone but for the temptation of fornication so if you are good on that front and use your singleness to glorify Christ way to go..
Correlation is not causality. It’s possible that growing health problems put strain on a marriage, increasing the likelihood of divorce, and continue to grow after divorce occurs.
There are many things we can “judge” (discern) as Christians, but we cannot judge if someone has lost their salvation, nor can we pronounce punishments as though they have.
We are allowed to punish bad behavior and to excommunicate people who appear to have crossed such lines, though.
Regardless, our vow to God remains if we were Christian.
If you’re spouse leaves you and shares a bed with another there is *zero* Biblical evidence binding you to that person there is, however, some Biblical indication that you are free to move on with your life..
Christian or not if a spouse leaves and weds another remarriage is Biblical. Prove me wrong...
There is no Biblical evidence that ever supports your assertion that “if a spouse leaves and weds another remarriage is Biblical.” There is no evidence of such a remarriage ever occurring in the New Testament, save for that of widows who are encouraged to remain single but if weak, getting married.
The only example of a potential divorce was, ironically, only in the context of a betrothal being broken (which isn’t what you and I are referring to as being “married”). Can you guess of whom I am speaking? It was Joseph of Mary.
Please find something to back your assertion. You won’t.
LOL...marriage is grand, divorce about a hundred grand.
Now that got me laughing. Thanks.
I just realized this one was pretty funny. If you were Jewish, you didn't divorce such a lady.
You had her stoned, as all Jews were to do to an adulterer.
- There is no Biblical evidence that ever supports your assertion that if a spouse leaves and weds another remarriage is Biblical.-
But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace.”
A case can be made that merely divorcing ones spouse and taking up a bed with another would qualify them as ‘unbelieving’ as they are not only sinning but are unrepentant about it. Certainly that is more stable ground than saying if you were not saved when you took the vows they don’t matter that is covered multiple times in the new testament by new converts still honoring their vows.
Keep in mind once the divorcing spouse remarries reconciliation is not possible
However, singleness is still easily possible. If that was good enough for Christ, why don't you see that as expected of us?
Bump for later reference
Divorce damages your health. Not to mention your assets and your future earnings.
i had a wonderful marriage (if a bit immature for it) to a great guy. he died young and i became a young widowed single mother for several years. i have remarried to a fantastic man and could not be happier. i am healthier too. but this study indicates that hubbymayhem and i are both in serious danger because he was divorced and i was a widow. fey! the study is stupid and wrong in my opinion and i’m guessing you would agree. i am so glad you have found peace and happiness without those loser ex-es of yours. be happy and well but don’t forget sometimes the 3rd time is the charm. ;)
Many people get divorced due to the health issues of their spouse, for example. Not saying it is the right thing to do, but it happens.
That is one of the funniest one’s I’ve read in a long time...:O)
People seem to be drawn to a certain type...maybe unconsciously, but the same mistake is made over again...Some people love being single. With my son it was 3 blonds...they are poison to him....The whole family finally told him to stay away from blonds...he has...no more remarriages...But we all love him dearly...smart on everything else...
This forum and WE need more humor. I just try to do my part. Glad you enjoyed. Cheers
And that is consistent with the words I’ve offered so far, too.
The woman was a Samaritan. She was neither a Jew nor a Christian prior to meeting Christ. Upon that encounter, Jesus told her to stop her sinning and her ways with men.
If she had been a Jew, she would have been stoned. Non-Jews were not yet Christians, as they needed to wait until Christ died for that to happen, although they could know He was the One.
I think you are instead referring to John 8, then. That is where the Pharisees brought the adulterer to Jesus to see if he would help them in stoning her, as was required by Jewish law.
Jesus wrote twice in the sand, continuing to write something until all the accusers left. When they left, he said no one was left to accuse her. With that, he said that he wouldn’t as well, but that she must leave her life of sin.
What Jesus wrote we cannot know, but it was obviously enough to make these men flee. Perhaps the words were of their own adultery of which he, as God, would have easily known.
I was married for 21 years before I got a divorce. The first time I found out my ex was having an affair (with my nephew) I changed my mind about divorcing and, for the children, tried to make it work.
The second time I found out she was having an affair, it was from my sons. she was forcing them to keep her dirty little secret. The emotional damage to the boys, now men, is still evident today. I still regret not divorcing her the first time. Staying together “for the children” was a terrible mistake.
I have recovered financially, and I'm slowly accumulating a good “nest egg” for my future, and for my family. I am much better off now than when I was married and she was handling the check book.
Emotionally, I am still have a negative opinion of marriage, but try to keep it to myself around the kids, although they know how I feel about what their mother did to me. To us.
But I can say, positively, that I have a much better attitude, and am a much more cheerful person now, than when I was in an unhappy marriage.
Then again, this is a British survey, so it isn't all that relevant to American men, now is it?
To be away from her ... yeah I'll take the increased risk ... thanks for the warning.