My daughter joined the Navy for a 4 year hitch. She was 19, fairly responsible, pretty independant.
I thought her gig in the Navy would make her more grown up, learn some skills, get some discipline.
Did not really happen that way. Boot camp doesn’t last forever, and the services are pretty soft now.
Most of the folks she met were drinking-not paying bills- breaking rules and getting away with it!
there is a reason for that and you don't sound like it escapes you
It’s a rough road for girls in the service. Personally I think establishing all female units would go a long way to solve the problem but throwing the romantic element into a group of 19 year olds just causes problems.